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Someone said "You have an old dried up uterus!"

tcfreedomtcfreedom
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WTH?  Dh and I have made no secret about TTC again.  We have a large, blended family and made it a point to discuss our relationship w/ all the kids each step of the way from voting on moving in together to when he asked my daughters for their blessing before he proposed to me last year.  So when we decided to have another baby we had a family meeting and all the kids put in their two cents and we decided as a family it was what we all wanted.   Soo.... getting five kids to keep a secret is nearly impossible, lol... we knew word would naturally get out.

Plus DH and I work for my family business so we had to tell my parents about dr. visits etc.  There was just no benefit in being secretive, KWIM?  Anyway, word has made the rounds to family and friends and someone actually said to me, "Are you CRAZY? You're 37! You have an old dried up utuerus for God's sake!"

Wow, I was stunned.  A. I can't imagine saying that to anyone...it's just rude.  B. Why do they even care what we do.  and C. I know for a fact that I'm not alone in wanting another child in my late thirties, so it's not like it's some cultural abnormality like wanting to marry my vaccume cleaner or something truly nuts!

Grrr... just venting....  thanks for listening ladies!

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  • 10-4LilBuddy10-4LilBuddy member
    Wow.  Some people have no tact.  I'm not a violent person but I would have seriously considered a throat punch in that situation.
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  • emikatemikat member
    I can't believe the nerve of some people.  Yeah, I would have considered getting violent!
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  • JilliansMomaJilliansMoma member
    Totally not cool and none of their business!!!  I would have throat punched them too!!!

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  • Mayzie15Mayzie15 member
    It's amazing to me what some people are willing to say and not think twice about it. I'm sorry that this was said to you :(

    Me 38 MH 41 - TTC since June 2010 - dx with Severe MFI. Straight to IVF with ICSI. IVF #1 - ER 06/13/12 - 9 Eggs Retrieved - 4 ICSI'd - only 2 fert. 06/15/12 - 2DT - 3 cell & 6 cell with fragmentation. Beta 06/29/12 - IVF #1 = BFN. 07/20/12 - WTF Appt -Told by our RE to quit IVF. Second Opinion from RE is good. IVF#2 - November 2012. Estradiol Pills Started 11/6. Stims start 11/16. ER 11/26 - 7 eggs retrieved - all mature. 4 fertilized with ICSI. ET 11/29 Transferred 3 embryos. Beta is 12/10. 1st Beta 81 2nd Beta 160 and 3rd beta 360!!! First U/S 12/21/12 - We saw one beautiful gest. sac. 2nd U/S is 01/04/2013 - H/B 183 02/05/13 - NT Scan - everything looks good and IT'S A BOY!  Aiden was born 08/20/2013.

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  • tcfreedomtcfreedom

    LOL... by unanimous decision it is voted in that a good throat punching is in order! Super Angry

    I'm a tough cookie.  I can handle it - it was just shocking to hear someone say something like that out loud KWIM?  Jeeze people keep that kind of thing inside your own head.  Idiots....  the world has an over abundance of them it seems.

    I'm totally guilty (as most of us have been from time to time) of opening my big ol' mouth and putting my foot in it.  I did it just this past week, accidently offending someone on the forums.  But if I do, I'm the first to apologize, cause I hate to be an ass - even on accident. So I'll chalk it up to that and move on.  But dang if I do manage to get KU some day in the future I'll be all "HA... suck it!" when I see her next! LOL!

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  • Mrs.McIrishMrs.McIrish member
    Technically ovaries dry up. Uteruses last well into women's 40's or 50's and that is why older women can still carry pregnancies with DE into their 50's. Your friend is an idiot and does nit actually understand reproduction.

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  • lhcooperlhcooper member
    imagetcfreedom:

    LOL... by unanimous decision it is voted in that a good throat punching is in order! Super Angry

    I'm a tough cookie.  I can handle it - it was just shocking to hear someone say something like that out loud KWIM?  Jeeze people keep that kind of thing inside your own head.  Idiots....  the world has an over abundance of them it seems.

    I'm totally guilty (as most of us have been from time to time) of opening my big ol' mouth and putting my foot in it.  I did it just this past week, accidently offending someone on the forums.  But if I do, I'm the first to apologize, cause I hate to be an ass - even on accident. So I'll chalk it up to that and move on.  But dang if I do manage to get KU some day in the future I'll be all "HA... suck it!" when I see her next! LOL!

     

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    tc, first, just wanted to say that I just saw your note to me on the other board and that I wrote back to say, no worries. In case you miss it there maybe you'll see it here. I didn't mean to snap at you, if it seemed that way.

     And: that remark you received was utter madness in addition to utter rudeness. Cripes. 

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  • tcfreedomtcfreedom

    Thanks so much - no offense meant or taken.  :) 

    Now this "friend"?  That was offensive.  I kinda wanted to mail her a dehydrated cow part...something uterus shaped... just cause I'm a sick puppy and it would serve her right! LMAO!

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  • lsgabriellsgabriel member
    Wow.  As someone who just turned 37 with no children, that just makes me feel really good. 
    Us: 39(me)/41(he). TTC since April '11. DOR/MFI. March '12: surgery to remove fibroids, cysts, and endometriosis.
    IVF #1: 9/13/12. ER: 9/25. 3R, 2M, 1F. ET: 9/28 (1-6B). Beta: moved from 10/11 to 10/10: BFN.
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    IVF #2.1 cancelled due to cyst.
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    IVF #4.0: 2/2015. EPP @ new RE. ER: 3/8. 3R, 3M, 1F. ET: 3/11 (1-8cell). 3/23 Beta: 16.9. 3/25 Beta: 71.6. 3/27 Beta: 300. 3/29 Beta: 800 3/31 Beta: 1816. 4/1 Beta: 4342. m/c at 6w2d. Goodbye little one. I loved you already.
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  • JilliansMomaJilliansMoma member
    imagetcfreedom:

    Thanks so much - no offense meant or taken.  :) 

    Now this "friend"?  That was offensive.  I kinda wanted to mail her a dehydrated cow part...something uterus shaped... just cause I'm a sick puppy and it would serve her right! LMAO!

    Love it!!!! You totally should ;-)


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  • danieleandwaynedanieleandwayne member

    It's a little bizarre-- when I'm angry at my uterus, I call it dried up and old. But that's just me being bitter and resentful and frustrated. But seriously, who would say that? I would rather the person just say "are you going to have energy for a toddler? You're practically a slug now!" or something. At least it would be true. LOL

    What a tool. 

    Next time, I think a nice response would be "Actually, a woman's uterus is fully functional well into her 50s. Unlike your tact, wit, and general sense of guessing if I give a rat's arse what you think."

    What a twinkie that woman was!

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  • Smash2009Smash2009 member

    Totally new here, but I must say....that may be one of the most ignorant things I've ever heard of someone saying! Stats show that more and more people are having babies at a "later" age, obviously he/she hasn't a clue! Throat punch for sure! Here is one for you to give away

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