help me not kill my DH

MrsMommyQ

I'm so angry right now I'm seeing stars.

DH and I bought a house without selling our condo that we live in now. We can rent out the condo if need be but we really want to sell and not have to be landlords. We've had it on the market since Feb and have had tons of traffic but only one very low offer. We countered and came down a ton, but it didn't end up working out.

Today DH's friend from work asked about our place. He may want to buy it for his brother to live in. So my DH tells him "as a friend, you dont want to buy it. The neighbors are horrible".  Now, this is 100% true. DH's friend says he doesn't care. So DH proceeds to TELL him HOW they are crazy. And of course, he scares the guy off.

I know it wasn't a sure thing by any means, but seriously, I'm so upset right now. It's ok that me, DH and DD live next to these weirdos for the past 5 years, but it's not good enough for his friend's brother?!

I'm seriously considering telling DH to wait a week or so and tell the friend that they moved out.  I'm sure they'll see right through that though.

Venus04d

Well, I definitely wouldn't lie to the friend now. That would be stupid and they certainly wouldn't be friendly any more once they moved in and had asshats for neighbors. I wouldn't have been pissed at DH for the initial warning since a friend is involved. I probably would have gotten annoyed that he was so dead set on talking them out of it after the initial "I don't care" response.

mollybloom

This is his friend and his co-worker. I think your DH was correct.

If his friend's brother bought the place and became angry that you did not disclose the fact that your neighbors suck, it could lead to an issue between your husband and his friend. It could also have lead to an uncomfortable situation at work.

Honesty is the best policy, particularly when friendship and work come into play.

LuckyDad

I propose a compromise:

Your husband was correct to inform his friend that there are horrible neighbors.

You were correct that he didn't have to elaborate after the friend said he didn't care.

I feel like this is a little like selling a car to a friend. If the AC doesn't work, you tell them. But you don't have to list everything that has ever broken on it and needed to be replaced and everything that might go wrong in the next two years. Your husband should have simply informed them the neighbors were bad and answered any followup questions honestly without intentionally trying to scare them off.