Whole day with just my squishy baby today:))

starbound6

My older son's Montessori has a holiday program which he loves, so I've signed him up for the whole day today.  It's just me and the baby and he's been so sweet lately.. it's so nice to just play with him all day:)  And he can have all his naps in his bed, instead of rushing around.  He gets totally overlooked most of the time when I've got both kids as my DS1 is so high energy.

Any other 2+ mums feel like their baby is a bit shortchanged?  I feel bad for DS2, as DS1 had almost 3 years of just Mummy, and DS2 will have to wait till brother goes to school to get more Mummy time.

PinkPeony6210

I feel bad for the both of them when I can't guve them the attention they need. My toddler is very high energy as well,  so we started sending her to daycare twice a week. She gets to play and socialize with other little ones her age, and it allows Kate and I to have some mommy and me time, which is nice. 

WildcatPrincess

Last night DS was crying to eat and DD was stalling bedtime so I said eff it I'm feeding the baby first. Sometimes I feel like he always comes second, but I know DD gets just as annoyed when I have to finish feeding him and she needs help with something. It's a hard balance. DH took DD to an airshow with my dad Saturday so it was just DS and I and it was kind of nice to chill with him, he's such a happy guy.

starbound6

WildcatPrincess:

Last night DS was crying to eat and DD was stalling bedtime so I said eff it I'm feeding the baby first. Sometimes I feel like he always comes second, but I know DD gets just as annoyed when I have to finish feeding him and she needs help with something. It's a hard balance. DH took DD to an airshow with my dad Saturday so it was just DS and I and it was kind of nice to chill with him, he's such a happy guy.

I wonder if a lot of 2nd kids are happy little babies..?  by necessity!  My DS1 has always been high maintenance and I'm so relieved that so far DS2 is way more relaxed.  He's always smiling and is happy to just sit and watch the action.  Do you find yourself enjoying the newb. stage more this time? - more confidence in your parenting skills?  I am for sure stressing less than I was as a FTM.

okate0213

Its like a vacation when DH takes ds1! I am so enjoying the squish stage this time! I do think I am way more relaxed, which makes it more enjoyable, plus now I know what they turn into...toddlers!

erniebufflo

Enjoy your one on one time! It's not the same, but if one twin has had a high needs couple of days, I always feel the other is being left out. Etta has had a rough few days and I feel like I've held her 24/7. Claire has been so easy going despite the UTI, antibiotics and diaper rash from the resulting diarrhea. This afternoon after my husband got home, I had him hold Etta so I could get some Claire time and she was such a delight, smiling and cooing at me.

starbound6

erniebufflo:

Enjoy your one on one time! It's not the same, but if one twin has had a high needs couple of days, I always feel the other is being left out. Etta has had a rough few days and I feel like I've held her 24/7. Claire has been so easy going despite the UTI, antibiotics and diaper rash from the resulting diarrhea. This afternoon after my husband got home, I had him hold Etta so I could get some Claire time and she was such a delight, smiling and cooing at me.

Aww:)  You are seriously a superwoman.. I can't imagine.  At least they are not going through needy periods together.  It's so hard having 2 to take care of, no matter their ages.  One good thing with 2 babies, yours don't talk back and sass you;) 

teresastovall

 I would say not always.  DS1 was my easy baby and DS2 is more needy than DS1 ever was.  Luckily DS1 is very independent and can entertain himself and get most things he needs.  He is also my "gofer"...go for this, go for that.

starbound6:

WildcatPrincess:

Last night DS was crying to eat and DD was stalling bedtime so I said eff it I'm feeding the baby first. Sometimes I feel like he always comes second, but I know DD gets just as annoyed when I have to finish feeding him and she needs help with something. It's a hard balance. DH took DD to an airshow with my dad Saturday so it was just DS and I and it was kind of nice to chill with him, he's such a happy guy.

I wonder if a lot of 2nd kids are happy little babies..?  by necessity!  My DS1 has always been high maintenance and I'm so relieved that so far DS2 is way more relaxed.  He's always smiling and is happy to just sit and watch the action.  Do you find yourself enjoying the newb. stage more this time? - more confidence in your parenting skills?  I am for sure stressing less than I was as a FTM.

katesy21

teresastovall:

 I would say not always.  DS1 was my easy baby and DS2 is more needy than DS1 ever was.  Luckily DS1 is very independent and can entertain himself and get most things he needs.  He is also my "gofer"...go for this, go for that.

starbound6:

WildcatPrincess:

Last night DS was crying to eat and DD was stalling bedtime so I said eff it I'm feeding the baby first. Sometimes I feel like he always comes second, but I know DD gets just as annoyed when I have to finish feeding him and she needs help with something. It's a hard balance. DH took DD to an airshow with my dad Saturday so it was just DS and I and it was kind of nice to chill with him, he's such a happy guy.

I wonder if a lot of 2nd kids are happy little babies..?  by necessity!  My DS1 has always been high maintenance and I'm so relieved that so far DS2 is way more relaxed.  He's always smiling and is happy to just sit and watch the action.  Do you find yourself enjoying the newb. stage more this time? - more confidence in your parenting skills?  I am for sure stressing less than I was as a FTM.

Me too. DD1 was the easiest baby. DD2 isn't horrible but definitely more high maintenance. It's been a rude awakening, especially with a 2 year old that always wants my attention too. I love my time alone with DD2 because it rarely happens and I feel like I don't get to cuddle and enjoy her like I did with my first.