SOooo Lost and scared

Alexlouise

 Yesterday my 22yr old sister in law ended up in a coma. They dont know what happened maybe a stroke, maybe something else. She is barely holding on at this point, and there pretty sure theres no brain activity. I dont know how to cope with this right now. Im trying to stay calm for the baby, but I just want to fall apart. I also dont want to give my husband more to worry about. Im so lost. I wanna be strong for everyone, but I feel so weak myself. Any advice? Someone who has gone through this??

orgnlmama

I am so sorry you are going through this.  Please put in a call to your OB/Midwife.  Maybe they can prescribe you some Valium to help you stay some what calm.

bos2momma

my grandmother is currently in icu in very grave condition,we dont think she is going to make it.  so although i have no advice i greatly feel for you.  i cant say ive been as strong as you since ive been broken for 3 days, but all you can do is stay healthy for you and your lo...t&p to you and your family

PrimRoseMama

I am so sorry you are experiencing this.

One of my college roommates had an aneurysm. This lead to bleeding on the brain and hemmorage. Essentially her brain was flooded and that was it. She was brain dead before they made it to the ER. 

If you need to cry go ahead and cry. Being "strong" doesn't help anyone, honestly. Grieving is natural, falling apart for a time is not unreasonable. If you & your husband want to cry together I suggest you do it. Crying reliefs stress and can be cathartic. 

My thoughts are with your family. 

starrysmile18

T & P to your family...

Ken&Anna

I'm so sorry you are going through this.  I'm sending thoughts and prayers to you and your family.  I hope everything turns out well. 

nk1220

I am so sorry that you are going through this.  I know all to well how scary it is with a sibling...or anyone you love for that matter.  Stay as strong as you can.  Allow yourself to feel what you are feeling and come to terms that this is completely in God's hands.  I know that you feel helpless and at wits end because it's so sudden.  You are stronger than you think.  The strongest metal is formed in the hottest flames.  Thoughts and prayers to you and your family.  Please keep us updated as you can. 

jewelamber8

Praying for you!  My mom had a stroke last year and it's a really hard thing to go through.  Don't give up hope!!! 

shoehussy

I am so sorry for you and your family.... I lost my baby brother (he was 34) in Jan. in a tragic accident and then found out I was pregnant in Feb. I tried to push my heartbreak away during my first trimester but now I just let my self have my melt downs. I decided that its worse on my body holding it in. I feel better after I have a good cry and talk to him about how much I miss him.

Thoughts and prayers heading your way!! 

 

RockyMtnMama

What a terrible thing.  No advice, but I'm sorry about your SIL.

jg1011

Grieving is necessary. Don't try to shut it off. You need to cry. That is okay. Your husband will understand that too. Do your best to be sure you are eating enough and drinking enough water. That is what your baby needs right now.

I am praying for you and your family.

caymanianseminole

Thoughts and Prayers with you and your family. Bumpie hugs!

Jaqalini

I am so sorry this is happening.  I'm sorry, I don't have any advice for you but will keep you, your sis in law and your family in my T&P.

melissascarfone

So sorry this is happenning during a critical time for mommy and baby...life will go on even if you get anxious (inevitable right!)  Please make sure to increase your self care.  Talk to a therapist, a friend, a few friends, husband, and let your self have what you need.  When I get anxious, I'll rest more, walk my dog, anything that helps me reconnect to my self and stay grounded.  I'll even go to the beach alone for an hour and read a book.  Call a friend..anything.  Even if its staying in bed a whole day and then regrouping myself--> just watch not to isolate if that's your style.

 

Hang in there and ride the wave.  It's all we can do...and in a bizarre way, its great practice albeit not pleasant for anything further in future.  Life happens.  Best of luck for your sister in law.