So, like many of you lovely ladies when DH & I discovered we were expecting we made the decision to wait until the end of 1st Tri to tell extended family, friends, etc. However over the last couple weeks not being able to tell people has started to negatively impact my enjoyment of the pregnancy.
I know it's very early (baby is 7.5wks) but we had a very good u/s with strong hb etc & I've heard that really reduces chances of a m/c. My question is, should I go ahead & give DH the go ahead to tell family & friends or stick to my guns & keep my lips sealed? We would still keep it off FB as distant friends & acquaintances don't need to know yet, but we would let cousins, aunts, grandparents, & close friends in on the big news.
FWIW: This is my 1st pregnancy - I've had no m/c.
Re: Was planning to wait, resolve is slipping...
This is what we are probably going to do. People are VERY judgmental and we know that my ILs would have a fit about having another baby so soon...not that its any of their business but they are BSC anyway :-/ They also don't know that it took us more than a year to get pregnant with DS so we started right away trying for the 2nd one just in case it took us a long time again. With #3 we will wait until this one is a year old lol.
The reason I'm not telling is because I am afraid to get people's hopes up.
My parents had 3 months with Zachary and it was the best 3 months of their lives. They still cry when they see pictures of him. Or just talking about him. I don't want to get their hopes up and have it crush them again. 4 granschildren taken from them already.
Maybe I am also trying to protect myself in not wanting anyone else to hurt if we do lose this little one.
I agree with this. We haven't told anyone yet because we haven't had an u/s yet. But when we do, and if all is well, we will tell our parents and close friends - anyone we would tell if we m/c anyway. Others we will wait until 14 weeks and nothing will be on Facebook until after the anatomy scan.
I was going to wait to tell people, but have pretty much decided against it. With my last pregnancy, I had less than 1% chance of miscarrying, yet I did. But still, if it happens again, I want people to be supportive and there for me.
Besides, with my bloated bump, I think people who see me regularly could probably tell, or they would just think I am really packin on the pounds.
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same here. My dad told my mom that the day I got pregnant again he did not want to know till I coudnt hide it anymore so that he doesnt worry so much. he says the less time he knows about it the better. He suffered alot when I lost Enzo and I will be doing just that. I want my daddy to be happy for me, not nervous. I will tell him when I cant hide it any longer.
We've already told a select few. We'll come out with it after our Ultrasound on Tuesday if everything looks ok. We feel that we need the extra support and prayers after everything we've been through. With my DD, we told a few select friends (so we'd have an outlet) and told everyone else at 10 weeks or so. It all up to you and what your comfortable with.
Our thought (after our loss) is that it doesn't matter when we tell, loss happens at any time during pregnancy and regardless of when it happens we'll want the support around us. So we are waiting till we see/hear a good strong heartbeat before coming out with the news