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philfemgalphilfemgal member
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Since I posted a long question below, I thought I should also finally intro.

I have been lurking for a few months and have mostly posted only on the loss board.  My wife and I started TTC with donor sperm last summer and I was very lucky to get pregnant quickly.  That pregnancy ended up being twins--baby A (Alice) and baby B.  Both babies seemed great until our 14 week ultrasound at which point we found out that baby B had no heartbeat and had a large cyst growing out of his/her bladder which was taking over the entire abdomen.  The cyst apparently prevented normal organ formation and was possibly caused by a chromosomal problem.

We were really sad about losing B as we had begun to think of ourselves as parents of multiples (even though we'd been scared shitless when we first found out it was twins).  But we had another healthy baby to focus on and the doctors assured us that there was no reason to think anything would go wrong with baby A.  But then when I was 18.5 weeks I went into preterm labor, though I thought it was just gastrointestinal distress I was feeling in my back mostly.  By the time I realized something was wrong it was 8+ hours later.  When we went to labor and delivery triage I was 4+ cm dilated (was told one only needs to get to 5 for a baby of that size) and my water broke at that point so there was nothing they could do to stop the labor.  I did have an infection, though it's not clear if that caused the labor or if the infection started as a result of the dilating cervix.  We had our anatomy scan the day before my labor and delivery and my cervix was measured then and looked totally normal so we know it's not IC.  Alice was born on Jan 5th a little after 10pm 2.5-3 hours after we arrived at the hospital.

We are now almost 6 months out from our losses and it has been a really rough time.  We just passed our due date with Alice which was harder than I thought it would be as we were also on our first cycle TTCAL during that time.  So we are now on our second cycle and freaking out a little bit about getting the timing of insemination exactly right (as you can see by my post from a few minutes ago).

 

BFP #1 9/21/11. EDD 6/4/12.  Twins discovered at 8 weeks. Twin B lost at 14 weeks due to megacystis.  Alice Joe born and lost 1/5/12 at 18.5 weeks due to pre-term labor.

BFP #2 7/11/12.  EDD 3/23/13.  Ada Alice born 3/20/13.

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  • luvsdogs2luvsdogs2 member

    Welcome, I'm so sorry for your loss. 

    I'm sorry I don't have any knowledge to add to your insemination timing question, but I'm sure somebody will wake up soon with good info for you!

    TTC #1 since April 2010
    BFP 4/18/12, M/C 4/27/12 at 6w6d
    BFP 7/1/12 - Counting down to our little girl, EDD 3/8/13
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  • HopingforChangeHopingforChange member
    I am so, so very sorry for your loss.  This board is very supportive, and the women are both smart and kind.  I hope it helps you as it has me.
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  • MrsCisco222MrsCisco222
    I'm very sorry for your losses. Losing 1 was a pain I never want to feel again, but losing 2 would be much harder I think... I hope your stay here is short and sweet!
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  • funny bunnyfunny bunny member

    Hello and welcome.

    Im sorry you had to go through this roller coaster with both your angels. I hope you get all the help answers and comfort this board has given me.

    Have a sweet short stay Smile 

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    TTC Since September 2011
    BFP#1:Dec.1.11 EDD:Aug.09.12 MC:Jan.11.12 (9WK5D)-Natural
    BFP#2:Apr.18.12 EDD:Dec.21.12 MC:May.1.12 (6WK3D)-D&C
    BFP#3:Sep.12.12 - Suspected CP | BFP#4:Dec.1.12 - Suspected CP
    BFP#5: Dec.26.12 EDD:Sep.10.13 MC:Jan.7.13 (4WK6D)-Natural
    BFP#6: Jun.11.13 EDD:Feb.23.13 Beta: #1=8000 #2=24532 US@6wk2d showed 7wk2d size with 143BPM HR * NT US@12wk6d looked good. A/S passed with flying colors and our team color is Blue! *Grow my little Pamplemousse*!!!
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  • RachaeleighRachaeleigh member
    So sorry for your losses. Welcome to the board.

    4 Losses (2003, 2008, Apr 2012, & Oct 2012)
    All RPL and IF testing with multiple REs = normal

    5 IUIs = BFN

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  • weaslewamweaslewam member

    I'm sorry for your loss. I don't know anything about insemination but you are your wife are more than welcome here!

    (((HUGS))) 

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    BFP 2 - October 30, 2012, Rainbow Baby Boy born July 14, 2013
    TTC no sooner than November 2014
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  • rlajamberlajambe member
    I'm so sorry for your losses.  Welcome to the board.

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    BFP #1 - 01/12/12, EDD 09/12/12, Medical Induction @ 21 weeks 05/03/12
    BFP #2 - 10/30/12, EDD 07/04/13, Natural m/c @ 5 weeks 11/01/12
    BFP #3 - 02/07/13, EDD 10/12/13
    Dx: Incompotent Cervix

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  • panacea05panacea05 member
    What an absolute nightmare. I'm so sorry you had to say goodbye to your babies so soon. ((Hugs)) and welcome.
    It was a rough road, but Arlo Daniel was born April 1, 2013—and our second rainbow is due October 12, 2014.
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  • Ktrue85Ktrue85 member
    I'm so sorry for your losses!  The women around here are amazing and you will find tons of love and support here.  I hope your stay is short and sweet.
    Married: 6/16/12
    CP: 01/2011 |  MMC: 01/2012  |  MMC: 10/2012  |  DS: 11/2013  |  MMC: 11/2014  |  DD: 01/2016
    BFP: 06/2018 - EDD: 02/09/2019
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  • VikingQueenVikingQueen member
    Welcome the the board. I'm so sorry for your loss.
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  • BootsOrHeartsBootsOrHearts member
    Welcome to the board and I'm sorry for your loss.
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    BFP#1 1/31/12, EDD 10/6/12 Harrison Gray born sleeping @ 18w6d. You changed our lives little guy.
    BFP#2 EDD 10/29/13, C/P 2/25/13, Bye little Ish, we barely got to know you.
    BFP#3 EDD 12/21/13, Baby Boots born 11/23/13 My rainbow baby!
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  • shellycoshellyco member
    I'm so sorry for your loss, but welcome! 
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  • April!April! member

    Welcome to the board. I'm so sorry for your losses. I have no advice about your situation, but I'm sending you positive thoughts and I hope your stay here is short and sweet.

    That is such a lovely memorial tattoo. And your fur babies are so cute! 

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    BFP #2 9/5/2012 -- Born 5/20/2013 -- Welcome, rainbow baby!
    BFP #1 1/24/12 -- No HB 2/16/12 -- Misoprostol 3/10/12
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  • philfemgalphilfemgal member

    Thanks all for the welcome to the board! 

    I am sorry for all of your losses as well.

    BFP #1 9/21/11. EDD 6/4/12.  Twins discovered at 8 weeks. Twin B lost at 14 weeks due to megacystis.  Alice Joe born and lost 1/5/12 at 18.5 weeks due to pre-term labor.

    BFP #2 7/11/12.  EDD 3/23/13.  Ada Alice born 3/20/13.

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  • QuigleyCat1QuigleyCat1 member
    I'm so sorry for the loss of your twins.  You've come to the right board though and we're filled with comfort and support. Hoping your stay here is short.  Best of luck to you and your wife. :)  ((hugs))

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          ***BFP 1-22-13, baby boy dx with Trisomy 13 at 15 weeks.

           We let him go to Heaven on 4-27-13 at 17 weeks 1 day***

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  • AnoraStarAnoraStar
    Welcome. I am so, so sorry for your losses. :(
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  • lsuhoneybadgerlsuhoneybadger member
    I'm so sorry for your losses.  Welcome to the board.  Your furbabies are absolutely adorable!
    BFP #1:  8/10/11 EDD: 4/9/12 Natural miscarriage @ 7 weeks: 8/20/11
    BFP #2: 8/31/12 EDD: 5/18/13 Chemical pregnancy: 9/4/12
    BFP #3:  5/17/13  EDD: 1/24/14 Loss at 5 weeks: 5/29/13

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    Lots of testing, all clear with the exception of compound heterozygous for the MTHFR mutation. 

    Cycle 1: Femara, trigger shot, Bravelle added due to slow response = BFN
    Cycle 2: Cancelled due to two cysts =(
    Cycle 3: Femara, Bravelle, trigger shot and IUI = BFP then loss #3
    Cycle 4: Femara, Follistim, trigger shot and IUI = BFP!  EDD: 6/7/14

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  • s.alaries.alarie member
    I'm so sorry for the loss of your twins. I hope you find great support here.

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