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Looking for some "IVF isn't that bad" reassurance

So it looks like IUI#4 is a bust and we will be officially moving on to IVF at the end of the summer. My anxiety level is currently way high. I've got two cycles before we start, and I really want to be able to relax and enjoy them, but I have been waking up early all freaked out by the concept with a knot in my stomach.

Mostly I have been hearing how much more of a physical/emotional roller coaster IVF is, but how much worse than IUI is it really? In my head I know I can do this, but im still terrified. I'm not afraid of the shots themselves, more so of how I'm going to feel. And all the solo driving to my not-so-nearby RE while I am feeling whatever I will be feeling. 

I know I sound like a wuss, but some "it isn't that bad" stories would be nice. And if it IS that bad, which parts are the bad parts? If it makes a difference, I will be on an antagonist protocol with estrogen instead of BCP to start. I am trying to focus on the end result and not the process, but I can't squash the nerves, and I am still almost two months away!

4 IUIs: Bfn
Antagonist IVF 7 retrieved, 4 fert w/ICSI&AH, 2 blasts transferred. Beta #1 9/20: 367 Beta #2 9/22: 841
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Re: Looking for some "IVF isn't that bad" reassurance

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    I haven't done IVF, but I just got back from my consult and will be starting in July.  I'm a little nervous too, but what I keep telling myself is that so many people do this- if they can do it, we can too! 
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    April - June 2012: Femera 5 mg & 3 IUIs = All BFN    July/August 2012: IVF #1 = C/P
    September/October 2012: IVF #2 BFP! Beta 1= 223 Beta 2 = 480 Beta 3 = 11,440
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    TTC #2 naturally, no luck
    IVF #3 April 2015: BFN
    IVF #4 July 2015: BFP! Beta 1 9dp5dt = 409, Beta 2 13dp5dt = 1743


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    Honestly, I really didn't have that bad of a time with IVF up until the negative test.  There were more monitoring appts ( I went every day for a week) and some of the oral meds made me a little spacey, but other than that the process wasn't all bad. 

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    I actually had wayyy more pain Monday after my first IUI then I did after my ER with IVF back in February.  I'm not quite sure why but it was awful.  Everyone is different..some people have hardly any pain, some people have a really hard time.  The main thing is to make sure you stay hydrated and take stool softeners as the bloating/constipation can be the worst part for some.  As far as the meds, BCP was the worst for me because I am prone to migraines, but sounds like you won't even be taking that. Smile  Besides that, the injections were a breeze..barely any side effects...the progesterone was a little rough but I'm guessing you've already been through that with your IUI cycles.

    Definitely true that it's much harder emotionally than physically, but a lot of people do get pregnant with IVF, so try to stay positive.  Good luck!

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    The physical part of stimming wasn't so bad for me. I was uncomfortable and very "full" feeling right before ER. I had 38 eggs so that was to be expected. I was in quite a bit of pain between ER and ET and took the pain meds they gave me and chugged insane amounts of Gatorade and ate protein bars. I never developed true OHSS so I was very lucky. The emotional roller coaster is the hard part, hands down. Make sure you've got people around you to cheer you on and support you!
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    I have my first beta tomorrow from my first IVF cycle. It really hasn't been bad for me. I did gain a little weight (or bloat that just stuck around) from all of the meds, and I was a little more irritable while on them. I took it one day at a time and stayed positive.

    The only bad part was the finances and more on my DH than me. We saved the cash in four months and as it came time to actually hand the money over, DH got nervous.

    I haven't had the up and down roller coaster a lot of people seem to experience, but like I said, I kept a good attitude about it, my RE and nurse have been great, and the surgical center where I had my ER/ET done was full of awesome people. Good luck and I hope yours ends up not being bad!

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    First of all, I am sorry your last IUI might be a bust :(    

    Second of all, I am going to say "IVF isn't that bad so far".  I went into my last monitoring and my ER is this Saturday, so I am getting close to my big day :)    

    YES, the experience has been roller coaster and I feel different everyday.  I did have a big meltdown 2 days ago and I am worried about so many things, but I am believing in the higher chance to get prego.  I can totally understand your fear for emotional and physical aspects, but the best thing is to take a day at time.  I was freaking about shots, but I have been doing it for several days and it's not bad.  

    PM me if you have any questions!  I will share as much as information possible. Plus, start checking IF board if you haven't done so.  I learned tons of useful info.          

    Mar-Apr-May/12: All 3 IUI (w/ Femara) - BFN

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    7/5: ET 2 5-days blastocysts are transferred, none made to freeze :(
    7/17: Beta #1 - 616!!, 7/23: Beta #2 - 6818
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    I start stims for my IVF tonight.  I have been on Lupron for 2 weeks and have had headaches and been a little more irritable but so far that's it. 

    Mentally what has helped me the most is to just take things a day at a time.  I am not worrying about if it will work or not, what will I do if it doesn't work, how many eggs I will get, if I will have anything to freeze, and all the other things there is to worry about.  There is nothing that I can do to change these things.  I will just listen to the docs and hope for the best.  So far I have been good about not worrying which is totally not like me.  I like to control everything! 

    Good luck!

    TTC#1 since April 2011
    IVF#1 July 2012 5R, 3 made it to blast, sET c/p
    FET#1 Aug 2012 2 blasts transferred BFN
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    Beta 1-237.9, Beta 2-566, Beta 3-8657
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    I can't say in comparison to IUI because we went straight to IVF, but I haven't found it that bad at all.  I think I was so excited that I just focused on the positive and told myself this will work.  The worst was when my RE said he would prefer to do a frozen transfer because I just about over-stimulated and he said I was at high risk for OHSS, but I had my ER last Friday and it was not bad at all.  I felt a little crampy, but my cramps that come with AF are much worse so it didn't bother me too much... I'm still a little bloated, but it goes down more every day.

    I guess my best advice is just focus on the fact that your chances are so much higher with IVF than IUI... try to stay calm, and look forward to the end result.   

    Good luck!!! 

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    Just wanted to wish you luck!

     

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    I'm in the middle of it right now. ER is on Mon! The shots are not that bad compared to iui with injectables. I think its def more stress though.


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    05/09/11-HSG-All clear! 05/13/11-SA-Normal. Found out on 2/14/12, low Morph (1%).
    06/17/11-10 days of Clomid (100, 150) No response.
    07/10/11-03/20/12- 5 Injectable (Follistim) IUI cycles; 4 BFN, 1 C/P. (stims ranged from 11 days to 25 days)
    05/28/12-Diagnosed with Hypothyroidism. 75 mcg Synthroid.

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    Thank you, everyone- I feel a bit better about IVF with all your comments. I am glad to know that the physical part has been pretty good for many people. Hopefully i will be one of those people! I will do my best to not worry about the future and take things one day at a time, though that is unfortunately not something that comes easily to me! Practice makes perfect, though, and I keep telling myself that worrying isn't going to change anything. 

    I haven't done progesterone with my IUIs, but I think once I get past ET I will be a lot calmer. 

    Good luck to all of you!

    candyreesecup: thanks, I have been lurking over on IF and may start posting there when we get closer to starting IVF. And, even though IUI #4 was a bust, at least AF waited until the day AFTER my birthday to show! I was so hoping for a birthday bfp. Oh, well. :) Good luck with your ER on Saturday...I will think happy thoughts for you!

    4 IUIs: Bfn
    Antagonist IVF 7 retrieved, 4 fert w/ICSI&AH, 2 blasts transferred. Beta #1 9/20: 367 Beta #2 9/22: 841
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    I really didn't think IVF was that bad.  On the way home from our ET I said to MH that if this time didn't work I could do it again.  Well, I will be doing it again in a few months unless some miracle happens and I get pregnant before the fall. The only thing I will do differently is  definitely take the day after ER off.  For some reason I thought I was fine to go to work and it was not a good idea.

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    ME: 30, DOR- Low amh, normal fsh/afc DH: 30, morphology issue
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    IVF #2- BFP!!! Beautiful baby girl became an angel on 2/6/13 at 17.5 weeks due to PPROM/IC
    IVF #3- New RE... February March 2014! 8r/6m/6f. Transferred one and have one frostie! BFP! EDD 12/7/14
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    I think I found it really hard because everything that could go wrong did for me, lol.  I had to do 2 shots a day on top of progesterone 3 times a day, I got OHSS,  got pregnant and miscarried, and have no frosties so I know Ill have to go through all of that again.

    Looking back, I think it was because in my mind I was convinced that IF was a sure thing, even though I knew it was only 50/50.  Had I ended up with a happy ending, I doubt it would have seemed so bad.

    Plus, I was coming off of 2 previous m/c's and a bunch of other stuff so my body was just kind of done.  Thats why it seemed so physically demanding for me.

    I guess the best advice is to just mentally prepare for it.  And stock up on Gatorade and you will be fine!  Best of luck lady :)

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    Hi lady. I can't offer any IVF advice since I've never been through it...but I just wanted to tell you that if anyone out there can go through it, you can!!  I always think of you as having it all together and you are so knowlegeable! 

    I think it's completely normal to be so nervous about this, but you will research and lurk and prepare over the next couple of months and you will do awesome!!  I'll be rooting for you!!

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    I really didn't think IVF was that bad.  On the way home from our ET I said to MH that if this time didn't work I could do it again.  Well, I will be doing it again in a few months unless some miracle happens and I get pregnant before the fall. The only thing I will do differently is  definitely take the day after ER off.  For some reason I thought I was fine to go to work and it was not a good idea. 

    Why not fine to go to work? Were you just needing to take it easy/tired/sore?

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    I think I found it really hard because everything that could go wrong did for me, lol.  I had to do 2 shots a day on top of progesterone 3 times a day, I got OHSS,  got pregnant and miscarried, and have no frosties so I know Ill have to go through all of that again.

    Looking back, I think it was because in my mind I was convinced that IF was a sure thing, even though I knew it was only 50/50.  Had I ended up with a happy ending, I doubt it would have seemed so bad.

    Plus, I was coming off of 2 previous m/c's and a bunch of other stuff so my body was just kind of done.  Thats why it seemed so physically demanding for me.

    I guess the best advice is to just mentally prepare for it.  And stock up on Gatorade and you will be fine!  Best of luck lady :)

    I am so wishing for better future luck for you with all you've had to deal with! I used to think IVF was almost guaranteed, but that was when I thought IUI #1 was bound to work, and then how could four of them fail?. Oh, the optimism...heehee. My RE also said that he would love to say it only takes one shot, but I should be prepared for it to take more as it is 50/50. I think I am pretty realistic, though I doubt it makes a bfn easier. And I hate Gatorade, but will have plenty of sparkling lemonade and cheese doodles, which I have determined contain the necessary components to form an adequate substitute. (At some point before ER, I will confirm if this is actually true.)

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    Hi lady. I can't offer any IVF advice since I've never been through it...but I just wanted to tell you that if anyone out there can go through it, you can!!  I always think of you as having it all together and you are so knowlegeable! 

    I think it's completely normal to be so nervous about this, but you will research and lurk and prepare over the next couple of months and you will do awesome!!  I'll be rooting for you!!

    Aw, thanks! Nice to know that I can at least appear to have it all together! :) I hope IVF will be one more thing to look back on and say, "well, that wasn't as bad as I feared!" :)

    4 IUIs: Bfn
    Antagonist IVF 7 retrieved, 4 fert w/ICSI&AH, 2 blasts transferred. Beta #1 9/20: 367 Beta #2 9/22: 841
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    Hi Killer T,

    I don't have much reassurance, because I'm getting ready to start IVF #1 too, but I just wanted to encourage you and let you know that I'm in it with you.  Wishing you tons of luck!

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    IUI#3=3/17/12=BFN.
    Stims for IVF#1 started 7/6/12. ER done 7/15/12. ICSI and AH. Transferred 2 embies 7/17/12. Stick little ones, stick! Beta 7/30/12=BFN HcG less than 2.
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