December 2010 Moms
sokmonkee3517
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I almost said no for all the wrong reasons
sokmonkee3517
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At 18 months, E is lately challenged with learning how to deal with the new emotion disappointment and we, as parents, with where to draw the line. This past weekend at my parents, E wanted to get out the stroller and go for another walk. We had already had two meltdowns over the course of the day regarding the stroller so I could feel my shoulders slump ever so slightly thinking that this was going to be another battle since she was already bathed and we were ready to get in the car and head for home. "Peese? Peese?" As I grabbed for the stroller, judging myself for "giving in," Erin began to dance a jig of excitement - "Thank you mama! Thank you!" When I heard that, I knew I wasn't giving in, I just made the right choice. The air had cooled, the breezes were blowing sweet BBQ and fresh mown grass smells around the neighborhood, E swung her legs, pointed out bunnies in the yards, and giggled at other babies we passed on the sidewalk. It only took 10 minutes. She was thrilled and my heart was full watching her on this little ride. I almost missed it. I almost said "no" because it would mean that I "gave in" and I would have missed this magical, mini walk that made both our days better. My H sometimes hints that I am spoiling her by hugging her when she is frustrated or disappointed, that I try and talk her through her emotions and offer distractions rather than speak to her sternly when she has a meltdown. She isn't spoiled damn it! She is happy and sometimes she knows what is best for both of us and I am so grateful that this time I listened! Just thought I would share.
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Re: I almost said no for all the wrong reasons
DH says I spoil Sam too much as well...I just tell him to shut his pie hole. lol
I'm glad you had a wonderful time. You will never get these moments back, so you need to treasure them now.
This. So sweet
How sweet!
I don't want to "give in" to Landon, but if he wants to do "active things," we do it. DH has a seat for L on his bike, and Landon LOVES going for bike rides or for walks in his stroller. I think it's great that he has an interest in physical activity and in reading too. I'd rather "inconvenience" myself and give up 10 minutes to take him for a walk after he's reached his quota, instead of saying "nope, no activity for you, watch more TV." YKWIM?