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Time out

I have an actual parenting question. At what age did you/will you start putting your kid in time out?
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  • We have not yet.  I've heard/read that it isn't very effective until 2+
  • We started it at about 18-19 mos. (or something like that).  My daycare provider did it when she threw her applesauce all over the floor at about 18 mos and a couple times after so she knew what it was.  Now all I have to say is "time out" and she sits on the floor and cries wherever we are.  We always talk about it and give hugs after 45 seconds to a minute.  She's good as gold afterwards.

    ETA: My ticker sucks---DD just turned 2 on June 7th. 



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    She kept turning around and saying "hi mama!"

    ETA: reading fail.  She was about 17 months.


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  • 14 months. it was very effective for us, pretty much from the start.  

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  • Done. I started a few months ago, maybe 13 months? 

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  • I don't think my answer is going to be very popular. He was about 10 months old. It took him all of about 2 days to figure out what was up and how to avoid it. That's when he started running (or crawling as fast as he could) in the other direction when he did something I had told him not to. Watching that was pretty funny.
  • We just started. We only place her in time out for 1 minute at a time. She has to stand still and we don't make eye contact with her if she tries to talk to us.

    I started more as a stepping block for when she's 2+, but it's actually yielding some results. I finally got her to quit playing in our dogs water dishes this way. She stands in the corner and doesn't move until I come get her. 

    Always explain before and after time out in age appropriate manner why she is there. Also be sure to give a lot of reassuring snuggles after.

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  • Not until I feel like she can really understand why she is there.  That definitely isn't happening right now.  Nor would she ever stay put anywhere for more than a second. BTW, Cupcake, your H looks like a hottie. :)
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    Not until I feel like she can really understand why she is there.  That definitely isn't happening right now.  Nor would she ever stay put anywhere for more than a second. BTW, Cupcake, your H looks like a hottie. :)

    Thank you...I think so!

     

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  • Honey Badger spent the entire 3rd tri in TO.  

     

    It didn't do a bit of good. . .  

  • we did "calm the heck down" sessions where she would go in the pack'n'play until like 18 months.

    Then we started timeouts. She knows what they mean and when i warn her she looks at the steps angrily. 

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    We have not yet.  I've heard/read that it isn't very effective until 2+

    I have heard this as well. 

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  • Two years.  They do not get it until then.  

    ...and at that point it's one minute for each year they are so, two years old=two minutes but, I'll work up to that when we start. 

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    right now. He won't be 2 months until early August but he knows what it is now. Its not like every kid learns exactly on their 2nd birthday. I think he would have gotten it sooner but maybe not cared as much. Frankly it is a PITA but he has started hitting and that is why I am doing it. 
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  • We started at 2 but he rarely needs it, he's so chill. I know I'm probably doomed with C.
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  • I haven't yet. But as of now *knocks on wood* she hasn't had any behavior that needed it. If she does something that she isn't supposed to--redirection works still. 

    Hopefully she stays this way for a long, long, long time. 

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  • Seriously though, my kids are not really extrinsically motivated.  Time-outs are more like "I really shouldn't beat you so I'm putting you here while I'm mad" than "I'm putting you in a t/o because I know you'll care."

     

    Because they don't.  Some kids just don't.  Some kids respond REALLY well to them and that. is. awesome.  My kids could spend all day in time-out chinese-prison style with a metal cot in their room and nothing else and I'd find them weaving fricken' finger puppets out of their hair for entertainment.  

  • time out is like cry it out or any other parenting method.

    does it work for EVERYONE? nope. but it does work for me which is why i laugh like a crazed villain when I see "well, golly gee, kids don't understand until 2." people really underestimate kids sometimes. 

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    Seriously though, my kids are not really extrinsically motivated.  Time-outs are more like "I really shouldn't beat you so I'm putting you here while I'm mad" than "I'm putting you in a t/o because I know you'll care."

     

    Because they don't.  Some kids just don't.  Some kids respond REALLY well to them and that. is. awesome.  My kids could spend all day in time-out chinese-prison style with a metal cot in their room and nothing else and I'd find them weaving fricken' finger puppets out of their hair for entertainment.  

    I get that. DS1 acted like he was dying when we put him in time out - but it was effective. DS2, who has ADHD, wasn't fazed by it.  He would forget after a minute why he was there and then couldn't focus well enough to listen to me explain it. 

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    time out is like cry it out or any other parenting method.

    does it work for EVERYONE? nope. but it does work for me which is why i laugh like a crazed villain when I see "well, golly gee, kids don't understand until 2." people really underestimate kids sometimes. 

    Exaxtly. I ALMOST rethought my decision to start it early after reading all the "not till 2" posters. Then I got home and A was hitting me in the face. I asked if she wanted time out, she immediately stopped. So I'm back to whatever works for your child. My kid "gets" it at 15 months. 

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  • I started at about 20 months I think, and very sparingly. He only goes to the time out corner after two or three warnings of the same behavior. I don't use it often, so when I do, he knows I mean business.
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    time out is like cry it out or any other parenting method.

    does it work for EVERYONE? nope. but it does work for me which is why i laugh like a crazed villain when I see "well, golly gee, kids don't understand until 2." people really underestimate kids sometimes. 

    Exaxtly. I ALMOST rethought my decision to start it early after reading all the "not till 2" posters. Then I got home and A was hitting me in the face. I asked if she wanted time out, she immediately stopped. So I'm back to whatever works for your child. My kid "gets" it at 15 months. 

    Dude.  So totally.

    We started time-outs at about 14 months?  Maybe 15?  I figured gosh, what if we waited too long with the other 2 kids and missed a magical time-out window?  They have limited effectiveness with my youngest - moreso than with the other 2 ever.  Is it because we started earlier? Is it her personality?  Is it because I'm just a more awesome parent than I was before?  Who knows. . .

    But I never understand dismissing a good idea like time-outs out of hand because your kid doesn't fit the randomly prescribed notion of a book.  Some are ready earlier, some later, some never.  Why not try?

     (I admit, I needed to come back and put this in because I sound overly negative about time-outs.  Or felt like I did.  Truth is they work - and work well - with plenty of kids.  Even kids under 2.)

     

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    Seriously though, my kids are not really extrinsically motivated.  Time-outs are more like "I really shouldn't beat you so I'm putting you here while I'm mad" than "I'm putting you in a t/o because I know you'll care."

     

    Because they don't.  Some kids just don't.  Some kids respond REALLY well to them and that. is. awesome.  My kids could spend all day in time-out chinese-prison style with a metal cot in their room and nothing else and I'd find them weaving fricken' finger puppets out of their hair for entertainment.  

    I get that. DS1 acted like he was dying when we put him in time out - but it was effective. DS2, who has ADHD, wasn't fazed by it.  He would forget after a minute why he was there and then couldn't focus well enough to listen to me explain it. 

    Yes! ADHD + time out = "a new area in the house to check out while I don?t pay attention to the voices in the room. I think they?re trying to tell me something ? Look! A dust bunny!? After trying so many unsuccessful times with DS I don?t think I?ll ever do it again with DD. I?m Timed-Out. Time-Outed. 

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