To those who say they love being pregnant. . .

bonchat21

I'm calling B.S.! Seriously, if you can love sitting in the summer heat sweating your a** off, then you must have gotten away from your keeper! Don't get me wrong, I love and want this baby, but going through nine months of having a fat ass, sleeping like you are on a bed of nails and peeing like someone removed your bladder really sucks! Oh, and you get to keep the fat ass as a reminder of all you went through. And I am one of those fortunate people that still gets to puke once a week. Last time I power puked I peed myself! In the comforting words of my mom, "Sometimes it's hard to know which end to put on the toilet." Ok, I am done venting

nealbl

I am not a lover of pregnancy. I am super grateful and feel very blessed, especially since it was not the easiest of roads to get this pregnancy. Still I don't love or really even like being pregnant. I just love the baby at the end of it

My SIL's both were those super cute only belly never sick pregnant ladies and they did like being pregnant. If you don't have the crappy part of pregnancy than you probably would like it

baseballcr8zd

I honestly had a great first pregnancy - no sickness, and it was during the winter which was awesome!! Now I'm pregnant for the summer and I'm a complete beyotch on wheels. I definitely understand where you are coming from, but I really did love being pregnant last time. I just hope this summer flies by.

rrcraz7

Just because your pregnancy isn't breezy doesn't mean others aren't. I really hope you stop puking soon that's awful & hopefully this ridiculous heat wave breaks quickly!

Taylor11

People like that are either heavily medicated, or just freaks of nature, haha!  I have a friend who says she was happier than ever pregnant, and loved every minute.  I wanted to puke on her literally.  This is my 2nd pregnancy, and I swear it gets worse each time!  I LOATHE pregnancy, even though I love the little baby girl inside my belly!  I had PPA/PPD after DD#1 was born, and it's back w/a vengance in the form of antepartum depression   I hate the hormones and feeling crazy more than anything.  I hate that I can't take my medication to stave off the anxiety that has me totally stressed out and fighting off panic attacks much of the time.  I too, am still puking once a week at least, and also pee myself while doing so, so don't feel bad   Wait till you push out #1, then your bladder goes to hell in a handbasket and you'll pee yourself sneezing...  LOL!  I am so not ready for #2 to be here for many reasons, but am still counting down the days until I can get my mind and body back to myself!!!  Hang in there, it's all worth it I promise!  Otherwise I would never be doing this again!

 

3litttlebirds

Oh, I really don't like the experience of being pregnant much at all. I have been hit with complications I didn't anticipate and, aside from that (as if high-risk complications weren't enough), I seem to have every awful pregnancy symptom in the book. Those symptoms are to be expected for the most part and I don't complain about those, it has just really been a lot of added stress on top of everything. And, with a high-risk pregnancy, the stress/fear of losing the baby is constant. I don't like when people tell me "you should be thankful/hopeful/grateful/positive/etc." I don't think people have the right to tell me how I "should" feel because this is my experience and not theirs. I love this baby and feel good about the baby and want the baby and would do it all over again for this baby, but do not like the pregnancy experience and don't think I will look back on it fondly. So I am with you in some sense, but at the same time, I realize some people have better/good experiences and that's great for them. And some people have had experiences worse than mine. Everybody's experience is different and I think you have the right to feel how you feel. At the same time, you have to be sensitive to others' experiences.

itsmevkb

rrcraz7:

Just because your pregnancy isn't breezy doesn't mean others aren't. I really hope you stop puking soon that's awful & hopefully this ridiculous heat wave breaks quickly!

It's not necessarily about pregnancy being breezy.  I've had some hard pregnancies but I've also enjoyed each one.  Did I LOVE puking multiple times a day for months on end?  No.  But, there were aspects of pregnancy that I did really enjoy and love and so I choose to focus on those.  If I dwelled on the puking or having to stab myself with a needle twice a day, everyday, I'm sure I could throw myself a huge pity party but instead I think about how I'm hopefully growing a healthy baby, how I love feeling the baby kicking inside me, how I actually do love my growing belly.  And, unlike so many aches and pains people have, pregnancy is temporary so there is an end in sight.  It's all a matter of perspective.

Mom2Mack1

My BFF is like that.  She is super cute pregnant, and always has a super easy delivery.  She just had her second last week, and told me she woke up at 4AM, passed a blood clot.  So, she called the dr, went to hospital at 5AM and had baby by 9, hardly even felt contractions.  And, when I saw her yesterday you'd never know she had a baby 9 days ago!

Everybody & every pregnancy is different!

Cherry3142

I'm not going to say I love being pregnant, but it's not a bad experience for me so far. I've had a very easy first trimester and as the second one nears it's end it is getting more difficult. I get that "car sickness" feeling daily and eating is getting difficult without having to stop every few bites to catch my breath. As for the heat, it's been 100+ the past few days and it is starting to get to me.

CraftyKayla

I guess I'm lucky. I still love it. I don't care if I'm sweaty and gross... I'm like that in the summer anyway haha. I guess I just think of it as all the good things outweigh the bad by so much that it's still great. I feel cute a lot of the time, and I love feeling LO daily.

*LrCg*

I'm sorry you're having a hard time but I absolutely love being pregnant (this is my 3rd- second time when I'm pregnant during summer- its about 95-100 and humid where I live).  I've never had morning sickness and yes I wake up once in the night to pee but to me its really not a big deal.  As for the heat, we have a pond and I generally swim laps several times a week so I've never been terribly miserable in the heat (in fact yesterday it was 96 and I spent the day at the zoo with my two little ones).  And I never really thought I was lucky, I assumed it was normal, but I've never had issues with the weight coming off after pregnancy and all my kids have been back to back.  Again, I'm sorry its been a hard time for you but some people truly do love being pregnant and there's nothing wrong with that.

CurlyQ284

I havent had M/S or any problems really so it hasnt been hard for me yet.  I wouldnt say I love being pregnant,  TBH i have been too busy to give it much thought.  (work full time, grad school at night).  I think the heat wave would suck just as bad if I wasnt pregnant, it is mother effing hot.  I dont mind it so far but we are taking SDs to Disney next week so I might have a new opinion when we get back.

briannaj731

Idk if you saw what to expect when you're expecting but you totally just sounded like Elizabeth Banks' character when she goes off at the seminar. Lol I love it. 

Sarah10612

I love it too...I never had morning sickness, my skin never broke out, I haven't gained weight in my a@@ and I would feel like a hot mess in 100 degree heat pregnant or not...Yeah, I would like to have a few beers or a pina colada but, there have been other times in my life that I had to give up for things. It's not the end of the world. Having him kick me everyday is a wonderful feeling and I would do it again in a heartbeat..

LorMor

Sorry, I am loving it. 

So far I am having an easy pregnancy, and I know others don't have it so easy, but I really am enjoying it. I am going to miss the kicks when they are outside.  

apegg23

I am a FTM and I love being pregnant so far. I only had about 2 weeks of morning sickness. Everything is so new to me that I just love the experience. Since I'm a FTM I'm not really showing yet either, so that makes it a little easier. I'm sure once I get bigger and it's still really hot out I will feel differently. The only thing I'm not loving right now is how giant my boobs have gotten, lol!  

BeachBabe22

I'm not full of ***, thank you!  

This is my first pregnancy, I was sick all day almost everyday up until I was about 16 weeks, and my husband has been deployed since a few days after we found out.   Obviously it hasn't been a perfect pregnancy but I am enjoying every part of it.  We tried to get pregnant for a while before it happened for us and I am so grateful that I am able to experience all of this.  I'm not sure why people act like being pregnant in the summer is torture.  I live in the south where it is hot and humid all summer long and I don't think it's worse being pregnant in this heat than it would be if I wasn't pregnant.  Yeah, I can't drink but I can still go to the beach or lay in the pool 

ChristyML

My foolish young mind thought it would be fun to be pregnant....I am not enjoying my UTI or being tired all the time. I am however SO excited to have my little guy here in October though. I would be okay (and maybe enjoy) being pregnant if it just didn't take so long to get the baby in the end! 

mrsjenni

This is my 3rd baby (4th pregnancy) and I DO enjoy being pregnant.  

Is it easy? NO.  Not even close.  Especially going through my entire 3rd trimester in the summer heat all while carrying a 9-10lb baby and measuring 6 weeks ahead.  But that doesn't mean I don't enjoy it.  

I love my big belly.  I love feeling the baby move.  I love the sweet looks I get from strangers.  I love that my DH and 2 kids can feel kicks.  I love that the baby is ALL MINE for 9 months.  Once they arrive, everyone gets him/her, but for now, this babe is mine for the keeping. It's something you don't really realize as a FTM.

Andplusalso?  Pregnancy FLIESSSS by. 

I think it's all in your attitude/state of mine.  Yes, I will have this baby around Labor Day and suffer though 100 degree temps and 100% humidity (like today) at 9 months pregnant all while being a swelling (due to high BP/pre-e) hot mess.  But I'm going to have a good attitude and enjoy every minute of it.

What bothers me are the people who treat pregnancy like a handicap. Or the people who complain non-stop over little things.    

Jenelle101

I absolutely love being pregnant...sorry you don't. I have had very easy pregnancies so far. With my first, I only got sick a handful of times. This pregnancy, I haven't been sick once. I guess I'm one of the lucky ones. I was pregnant with my DD during the winter, so I get to experience pregnancy during the hot months this time, and I'm not looking forward to it. BUT...I love all the baby movements and the fact that I'm growing a baby is just the most amazing feeling in the world. I guess my complicated delivery made up for the easy pregnancy last time. Hopefully I will have an easy delivery this time with NO complications!! That's the part I'm worried about....

 GL with the rest of your pregnancy! 

LilBlkDress1

I love it for the most part.

I feel amazing (no sickness, lots of energy, not overly hot even with insanely hot temps outside) everyone complements me (whether I deserve it or not), I get out of all heavy lifting.

But on the negative, I've just been told I can't have sex for a few weeks (low lying placenta) so that sucks balls. (oh pun INTENDED!)

 

DelBride2012

It is literally the worst thing ever to happen to me. I know that just goes to show what a healthy, happy, privileged life I have had up til now, but it truly is. I am totally miserable. I had wretched morning sickness that de-railed my whole life. I am blowing up like a balloon. I don't sleep well. Sex is awkward. I am having gastrointestinal issues. I smell weird. I don't like feeling the baby move. I also don't like NOT feeling the baby move because I panic. I don't like people asking me "how is the baby?" Dude, I have no idea. We are not in ccommunication. I don't like my relatives threatening to touch my stomach. I don't care what is growing in there, that is creepy. And I really don't like having to contact my OB every time something might be wrong but almost certainly isn't.  

JandKHall

I'm a FTM and I've had an easy pregnancy thus far, so YES! I'm loving it. Sure there are uncomfortable moments- like being stuck in traffic with no A/C, pushing 100 degrees, 90% humidity, and no cold water to drink! Good times yesterday!! But I've had so many amazing moments that it outweighs the bad ones. So to each her own on this one.  

But I will say that while I'm not a negative nancy I am wondering when the other shoe will fall and I have a feeling it'll be when I'm in labor. Oh well... LOL 

Jams1002

Just because you hate it doesn't mean everyone else does. I am luckily not going through a lot of the problems you are and I love the feeling of having my baby inside me. I'd much rather be pregnant in the summer and be able to wear flip flops instead of boots that don't fit with my swollen feet. Good luck with your pregnancy but yes I can truly say I am really enjoying being pregnant.

gnomemom

Err...sorry. I love it so far. I'm only 19 weeks, though, so we'll see how I feel when I am much bigger and having to deal w/ the heat. There are things that I miss about not being pregnant, but that doesn't mean I'm not enjoying my pregnancy.

It's funny...I was a little on the chubby side before, and now that I have a bump, it's so freeing to be able to wear whatever I want and not worry about my tummy looking fat. I actually feel prettier pregnant than I did before. But again, we'll see what happens once I'm huge.

Kadyra

I hate being pregnant but I love DS and this LO.  Does it make being on bedrest and going through the agony of antenatal testing and stressing about complications?  Eh......  Maybe.  We were done after one, but all my friends started having either #1 or #2 and I caught baby fever.  We are definitely done after this.  My mind and body cannot handle another.

gingerbrood

while i am very happy that i get pregnant easily and can carry healthy babies to term, i am absolutely miserable. i hate pregnancy so much. i had to mentally prepare myself for pregnancy -- not the addition of a new baby! i'm ready for the baby part!!

hpoff33

I actually do love being pregnant.  Sure it's uncomfortable for me sometimes, but it's not anything I can't deal with.  I'm not concerned about the heat - I have access to pools.  I'm not concerned about weight gain - outside of pregnancy I'm an avid runner.  I'm hungry and not getting sick.  I definitely feel for those of you who are having a hard pregnancy.  I have seen friends go through it and it clearly was a struggle for them.  But for me, I have been blessed with a relatively easy and enjoyable 6 months so far. 

mandc2006

I think there are things to love and things to hate.  It depends on what you focus on.

I had a rough 1st tri.  M/S lasted all day.  I could hardly eat anything.  And my "trigger foods" changed daily.  So there was nothing 'safe" to eat.  (except coke icees for some reason).  But i was so excited to finally be pregnant,that I took it all in stride.

2nd tri has been worlds better and just the fact that I can feel her moving in there makes what I went through earlier worth it.

That being said, if, as amy#s put it "you told me you could do this all in a pod"...I might seriously consider it. 

RockyMtnMama

You have a way harder pregnancy than me (or my other 2 pregnancies).  Some people's bodies just react more strongly to all those hormones and added weight. 

I haven't thrown-up ever and while I have gained weight I can still ride my bike, run, work in the garden, mow the lawn, etc (only 24 weeks).  Plus I haven't had trouble getting comfortable to sleep and don't pee that often - maybe I need to drink more water. 

JoNi2010

I feel that I've had a fairly easy pregnancy compared to some - no morning sickness at all, no strange cravings, and I've been able to get by with just the belly band for my pants/shorts, and just had to go one size bigger so far on tops.  That being said, I don't love being pregnant either.  I was a very active person before this and still am trying but some things I have to start giving up - ie rock climbing, canceling my backpacking trips.  Plus, the peeing every hour is annoying!!!  Don't get me wrong, I am looking forward to the baby coming but carrying him in my belly is not my favorite thing.

rakle99

bonchat21:

I'm calling B.S.! Seriously, if you can love sitting in the summer heat sweating your a** off, then you must have gotten away from your keeper! Don't get me wrong, I love and want this baby, but going through nine months of having a fat ass, sleeping like you are on a bed of nails and peeing like someone removed your bladder really sucks! Oh, and you get to keep the fat ass as a reminder of all you went through. And I am one of those fortunate people that still gets to puke once a week. Last time I power puked I peed myself! In the comforting words of my mom, "Sometimes it's hard to know which end to put on the toilet." Ok, I am done venting

 

I love being pregnant. Of course there are things that are not great, but that does not justify saying I hate being pregnant. I can't imagine saying I hate life just because there are things in it that are not amazing all the time.  I don't have a fat ass, my body is changing in order to help bring another person in the world, and I'm ok with that. My husband makes me feel beautiful no matter the circumstances, and I am very lucky in that regard. As far as it staying, that's up to you. It might take a little work, but there are plenty of people that get their 'old' body back from eating right and exercising. I'm sorry you are having such a hard time, but saying you hate pregnancy because you are throwing up once a week is a very negative attitude. Hopefully you don't have that attitude about life, or you'll be miserable.

JulyMomma2U2

Lurking.

And this is exactly why I never posted on 2nd tri, or now, 3rd tri   Posts like this make me feel so disheartened.. I wonder how many of you ladies who talk about pregnancy being "the worst thing to happen to you" would feel that same way if you weren't so naive..

It just irks me.. think of all the women who have struggled SO much to get pregnant.. the women who have lost their babies despite doing everything "right".. the women who have carried to term, only to deliver a sleeping child.. 

Not that I'd ever wish that on someone.. but I think having gone through an experience like that really makes you appreciate pregnancy.. sure, it's not all fun.. it's certainly not fun in 100+ degree heat.. but, those of us who can look you in the eye and say I love being 8 months pregnant right now.. we mean it.. and to "call BS" just makes you look like a huge fool.

krisztina33

missbea3:

Lurking.

And this is exactly why I never posted on 2nd tri, or now, 3rd tri   Posts like this make me feel so disheartened.. I wonder how many of you ladies who talk about pregnancy being "the worst thing to happen to you" would feel that same way if you weren't so naive..

It just irks me.. think of all the women who have struggled SO much to get pregnant.. the women who have lost their babies despite doing everything "right".. the women who have carried to term, only to deliver a sleeping child.. 

Not that I'd ever wish that on someone.. but I think having gone through an experience like that really makes you appreciate pregnancy.. sure, it's not all fun.. it's certainly not fun in 100+ degree heat.. but, those of us who can look you in the eye and say I love being 8 months pregnant right now.. we mean it.. and to "call BS" just makes you look like a huge fool.

::also lurking::

Thank you for saying this!!!!  Wanting desperately to have a child of my own and having lost the only pregnancy I have had so far, it absolutely irks me to hear this complaint.  Flame away ladies, but I don't live in a bubble.  I don't expect to be comfortable the entire time I am (hopefully) pregnant, but I would seriously trade my 8 hours of sleep a night for 9 months of heat, morning sickness and acne.  Pregnancy is a blessing that not everyone is able to experience.  A little gratitude can go a long way in my mind...

FrickandFrack

I am truly one of those people who love being pregnant.  Yes, it sucks in the beginning with the puking but I've had 2 very easy pregnancies ::knocks on wood:: and I actually like hot weather opposed to cold weather.  I adore wearing my maternity bathing suit in the summer and not worrying about looking fat. 

schmidters10

I was one of those ppl that had no signs what so ever my first pregnancy. No problems thought it was a cinch. Not this pregnancy....I am with you the heat stinks, throwing up sucks and the fact that I can't sneeze or cough without peeing myself drives me insane. I am totally with you on the not enjoying this pregnancy other then the fact that I know that in the end it is all worth it when I see our little girl.

QuigleyCat1

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luvsdogs2

missbea3:

Lurking.

And this is exactly why I never posted on 2nd tri, or now, 3rd tri   Posts like this make me feel so disheartened.. I wonder how many of you ladies who talk about pregnancy being "the worst thing to happen to you" would feel that same way if you weren't so naive..

It just irks me.. think of all the women who have struggled SO much to get pregnant.. the women who have lost their babies despite doing everything "right".. the women who have carried to term, only to deliver a sleeping child.. 

Not that I'd ever wish that on someone.. but I think having gone through an experience like that really makes you appreciate pregnancy.. sure, it's not all fun.. it's certainly not fun in 100+ degree heat.. but, those of us who can look you in the eye and say I love being 8 months pregnant right now.. we mean it.. and to "call BS" just makes you look like a huge fool.

Also also lurking.

I should have joined you all on Saturday.  I should be 14 weeks right now.  But I'm not.  It's been 7 weeks, and I just had a nightmare last night about the miscarriage.  To want something so badly and have it ripped out of your hands is the worst pain imaginable.  I wouldn't wish this pain on anyone.  And I would give anything just to know that I'll be here someday. 

QuigleyCat1

DelBride2012:

It is literally the worst thing ever to happen to me. I know that just goes to show what a healthy, happy, privileged life I have had up til now, but it truly is. I am totally miserable. I had wretched morning sickness that de-railed my whole life. I am blowing up like a balloon. I don't sleep well. Sex is awkward. I am having gastrointestinal issues. I smell weird. I don't like feeling the baby move. I also don't like NOT feeling the baby move because I panic. I don't like people asking me "how is the baby?" Dude, I have no idea. We are not in ccommunication. I don't like my relatives threatening to touch my stomach. I don't care what is growing in there, that is creepy. And I really don't like having to contact my OB every time something might be wrong but almost certainly isn't.  

**lurking**

First I have a child so I DO know what it's like to be pregnant.  It's not all peaches for sure!  That being said though, I'm truly disgusted by your post.  I've just had TWO CONSECUTIVE miscarriages and I would've given ANYTHING to have gotten through either one of those pregnancies. Why would you hate that people ask you how your baby is doing?  It's a very common and generous question that people ask when you're pregnant.  I was always happy when people asked that question!  My answer was, "Great!  Healthy and growing on schedule!"  It's as simple as that.  How would you like to have to say, "Well, the doctor couldn't find a heartbeat and I'm going through a miscarriage"????  Because that's exactly what I had to say!!!   I hope and pray that you never have to know THAT feeling, because I'll tell you what.....It's a hell of a lot harder to say that than to have to deal with "awkward sex" and "smelling weird"!  Get off of your high horse and enjoy life's most precious gift, please.

Signed, TTCALer who'd give my right hand to complain about this sh!t.

krisztina33

QuigleyCat1:

DelBride2012:

It is literally the worst thing ever to happen to me. I know that just goes to show what a healthy, happy, privileged life I have had up til now, but it truly is. I am totally miserable. I had wretched morning sickness that de-railed my whole life. I am blowing up like a balloon. I don't sleep well. Sex is awkward. I am having gastrointestinal issues. I smell weird. I don't like feeling the baby move. I also don't like NOT feeling the baby move because I panic. I don't like people asking me "how is the baby?" Dude, I have no idea. We are not in ccommunication. I don't like my relatives threatening to touch my stomach. I don't care what is growing in there, that is creepy. And I really don't like having to contact my OB every time something might be wrong but almost certainly isn't.  

**lurking**

First I have a child so I DO know what it's like to be pregnant.  It's not all peaches for sure!  That being said though, I'm truly disgusted by your post.  I've just had TWO CONSECUTIVE miscarriages and I would've given ANYTHING to have gotten through either one of those pregnancies. Why would you hate that people ask you how your baby is doing?  It's a very common and generous question that people ask when you're pregnant.  I was always happy when people asked that question!  My answer was, "Great!  Healthy and growing on schedule!"  It's as simple as that.  How would you like to have to say, "Well, the doctor couldn't find a heartbeat and I'm going through a miscarriage"????  Because that's exactly what I had to say!!!   I hope and pray that you never have to know THAT feeling, because I'll tell you what.....It's a hell of a lot harder to say that than to have to deal with "awkward sex" and "smelling weird"!  Get off of your high horse and enjoy life's most precious gift, please.

Signed, TTCALer who'd give my right hand to complain about this sh!t.

Hey Quig!!

QuigleyCat1

ncchnat:

DelBride2012:

It is literally the worst thing ever to happen to me. I know that just goes to show what a healthy, happy, privileged life I have had up til now, but it truly is. I am totally miserable. I had wretched morning sickness that de-railed my whole life. I am blowing up like a balloon. I don't sleep well. Sex is awkward. I am having gastrointestinal issues. I smell weird. I don't like feeling the baby move. I also don't like NOT feeling the baby move because I panic. I don't like people asking me "how is the baby?" Dude, I have no idea. We are not in ccommunication. I don't like my relatives threatening to touch my stomach. I don't care what is growing in there, that is creepy. And I really don't like having to contact my OB every time something might be wrong but almost certainly isn't.  

::TTCAL lurker::

Honey, you need to just be grateful for what you have because unless this was a surprise pregnancy (while trying to prevent it to boot), you should have known what you were signing yourself up for.

You want to know what the worst thing that ever happened to me was? I lost my baby. In the beginning of the second trimester (15 weeks). Yep. I'm one of the unlucky 2 percent that lost her baby after the first trimester is over. I'm not trying to scare anyone, but you all need to consider yourselves lucky that you still have your children. I would trade my margaritas and nights out with friends to be "blown up like a balloon" and throwing up all the time. And you think sex is awkward now? Try crying all over yourself and your husband the first few times you have sex after being cleared again post-loss.

Pregnancy is hard. You are growing another person inside of you. Yes, there are some lucky women who have it easy, but they are few and far between. There are whole boards on this site dedicated to women who trade everything they have to be where you are and have what you have right now.

So, if I ever get lucky enough to get pregnant again and that baby actually sticks, when people ask me at any point how I'm feeling, yes, I'm going to tell them I love being pregnant. It won't matter if I'm throwing up, not sleeping, not getting laid because of the pregnancy. I will love being pregnant for the simple fact that I am.

Well said.