Had shower number 1 this weekend! (MIL story included)

Sage4200

So I had my shower on Sat and it was awesome!! It was so nice to see friends and DH's family I hadn't seen since my wedding and I got so many wonderful gifts for the baby.  People kept asking where my mother was and I resisted the urge to say she wasnt invited as to not ruin the day. 

Now for hte MIL story..At the end of the shower, DH and his brother came to get he gifts.  When they arrived I noticed all the gifts were gone.  Turns out MIL had all her friends put the gifts in her car. When DH and BIL asked her why,  she said that she needed to take inventory of who got us what so she knows what to get there kids when they have showers.  Anyhow, it didnt end well with DH freaking out on her and taking the gifts out of her car. She damanded a detailed list and we dropped it off yesterday.  Other than that drama, it was great. 

 

allimg22

Sage4200:

Now for hte MIL story..At the end of the shower, DH and his brother came to get he gifts.  When they arrived I noticed all the gifts were gone.  Turns out MIL had all her friends put the gifts in her car. When DH and BIL asked her why,  she said that she needed to take inventory of who got us what so she knows what to get there kids when they have showers.  Anyhow, it didnt end well with DH freaking out on her and taking the gifts out of her car. She damanded a detailed list and we dropped it off yesterday.  Other than that drama, it was great. 

Holy crap! Who does this?!

So glad that you had a great time!

bonjourbelle05

Sage4200:

So I had my shower on Sat and it was awesome!! It was so nice to see friends and DH's family I hadn't seen since my wedding and I got so many wonderful gifts for the baby.  People kept asking where my mother was and I resisted the urge to say she wasnt invited as to not ruin the day. 

Yikes on the MIL.....

I was just wondering what you did tell people about your Mom...the only reason I ask if because my Mom is choosing not to come to my baby shower (long, complicated story) and I know people are going to ask about it and I don't want to get into it because it really hurts me that she is choosing not to come.

Unem

allimg22:

Sage4200:

Now for hte MIL story..At the end of the shower, DH and his brother came to get he gifts.  When they arrived I noticed all the gifts were gone.  Turns out MIL had all her friends put the gifts in her car. When DH and BIL asked her why,  she said that she needed to take inventory of who got us what so she knows what to get there kids when they have showers.  Anyhow, it didnt end well with DH freaking out on her and taking the gifts out of her car. She damanded a detailed list and we dropped it off yesterday.  Other than that drama, it was great. 

Holy crap! Who does this?!

So glad that you had a great time!

brideandbreve

Um, whoa.

Was there a friend/family member who was writing down who the gifts were from and what they were as you were opening them? I don't know if this is a regional thing or what, but any showers I've had or gone to have always had someone taking note of everything so that you can write your thank you cards later.

Your MIL could have always asked that person for a copy. What a drama queen. :

Glad that other than that, though, you had a good shower!

on_a_whim

OMG this sounds like something my MIL would do....

scmillheim

My MIL is the same way - but usually just asks for a list of the gifts.  It's a tit for tat thing in her family though and something they've done for years.  Not my style, but I just go with it.

linzeek44

I'm glad it went well, minus the little drama! 

Like a PP said, I've always been at showers where the gift list was made for thank you cards... but usually MIL's don't demand it. :P 

Sage4200

brideandbreve:

Um, whoa.

Was there a friend/family member who was writing down who the gifts were from and what they were as you were opening them? I don't know if this is a regional thing or what, but any showers I've had or gone to have always had someone taking note of everything so that you can write your thank you cards later.

Your MIL could have always asked that person for a copy. What a drama queen. :

Glad that other than that, though, you had a good shower!

I couldnt open them because the restaurant MIL booked told her we had to be out by 3 and MIL thought we would have time but we didnt, there were 45 guests and we had a 4 course lunch, so it took 2.5 hours just to eat

skyejo

I'm glad you had a nice shower But wow to your MIL.  It's called asking you for the list of what guests got you what gifts, not trying to take your presents hostage.

Sage4200

scmillheim:

My MIL is the same way - but usually just asks for a list of the gifts.  It's a tit for tat thing in her family though and something they've done for years.  Not my style, but I just go with it.

Yeah, she was the same way when we got married, we went on our honeymoon and when we got home all of the cards were opened,  When DH asked her why she said she needed to make copies of the checks for her records...very starnge but Ive learned to not question her.

Sage4200

bonjourbelle05:

Sage4200:

So I had my shower on Sat and it was awesome!! It was so nice to see friends and DH's family I hadn't seen since my wedding and I got so many wonderful gifts for the baby.  People kept asking where my mother was and I resisted the urge to say she wasnt invited as to not ruin the day. 

Yikes on the MIL.....

I was just wondering what you did tell people about your Mom...the only reason I ask if because my Mom is choosing not to come to my baby shower (long, complicated story) and I know people are going to ask about it and I don't want to get into it because it really hurts me that she is choosing not to come.

I just said I had something planned in July to celebrate with my firends and family.  This shower was strictly DH family and MIL friends

MeatballEsq

allimg22:

Sage4200:

Now for hte MIL story..At the end of the shower, DH and his brother came to get he gifts.  When they arrived I noticed all the gifts were gone.  Turns out MIL had all her friends put the gifts in her car. When DH and BIL asked her why,  she said that she needed to take inventory of who got us what so she knows what to get there kids when they have showers.  Anyhow, it didnt end well with DH freaking out on her and taking the gifts out of her car. She damanded a detailed list and we dropped it off yesterday.  Other than that drama, it was great. 

Holy crap! Who does this?!

So glad that you had a great time!

My MIL. She wouldn't take the gifts and do an inventory, but she would do a mental inventory and also have no problem calling to find out what so-and-so bought us so she knows what to buy their daughter/DIL for a shower, etc.  

Fluff28

Good lord, she was planning on taking unopened gifts home from the shower and opening them herself in order to make a list?  That is insane.  She was planning on taking your joy away from getting to unwrap the presents?  I like seeing how everyone puts together gifts, a lot of times that's something I mention in thank you notes, how wonderful the presentation was.  Geez!

BakerMommy

The wedding gift thing is absolutely nuts!  On what planet is that okay?! How does such a record keeper have enough friends to help cart presents to her car?

MarisaKathleen

I actually laughed out loud at this.  I'm glad your shower went well.  Think of all the fun grandma stories you can tell LO when the time is right....

Hope you got some great, useful stuff too!

Sage4200

MarisaKathleen:

I actually laughed out loud at this.  I'm glad your shower went well.  Think of all the fun grandma stories you can tell LO when the time is right....

Hope you got some great, useful stuff too!

We did, I forgot to mention that after her review of the list, she proceeded to call us and tell us all of the things that we do not "need" 

 

Sage4200

I forgot to mention that at the shower MIL presented me with a crucifix for the baby's room. Im Jewish! thats like giving a muslim a start of david

INmommy871278

Sage4200:

brideandbreve:

Um, whoa.

Was there a friend/family member who was writing down who the gifts were from and what they were as you were opening them? I don't know if this is a regional thing or what, but any showers I've had or gone to have always had someone taking note of everything so that you can write your thank you cards later.

Your MIL could have always asked that person for a copy. What a drama queen. :

Glad that other than that, though, you had a good shower!

I couldnt open them because the restaurant MIL booked told her we had to be out by 3 and MIL thought we would have time but we didnt, there were 45 guests and we had a 4 course lunch, so it took 2.5 hours just to eat

Ummm....def a bit ridiculous especially since you hadn't even had the chance to open the gifts yourself!!

MomiJerz

Holy shitballs!! What a ..... I can't even find a word she was going to open your gifts!!! Without you!!! 

daisy662

So am I reading this right that you didn't have time to open the gifts at the shower and your crazy MIL was planning to take them home and open them FOR YOU??? So that she could "take inventory"???? OMG - there is no way I would have been able to keep my mouth shut on that one. That is the craziest thing I have ever heard. I also would have not provided her with a list of who have what. That is just in completely poor taste.

Glad you had a great time despite all that! A bit of unsolicted advice- you have to choose your battles, but it seems to me you may want to pick one soon as it sounds like she could become quite the pill when your baby comes and you (or more likely) your DH needs to put his foot down with her!! Good luck!