Father's Day Vent

rakle99

I just have to get this off my chest because my husband is driving me crazy. For Mother's Day, I got some flowers, no card, and got to make dinner for his entire family (and got to clean up too yay!). For Father's Day, we started celebrating early, when he opened a Father's Day package from my parents on Friday. On Saturday I went and got him some plants for his garden, which he saw, so he got his gift on Saturday. We also went shopping and got him a bunch of new clothes. I also made him a bacon and cheddar stuffed cheeseburger with a potato/veggie scramble last night for dinner, since we were having a bbq today at the inlaws and I wanted to make him a special meal. At 2:30 am this morning he got a booty call and I gave him his card today too. Now all day he's been walking around acting like the world revolves around him and complaining that I'm not giving into his every whim because it's Father's Day. I got flowers, he gets three days to celebrate, and he's complaining. At least when I told him we'll have to pretend next year is my first Mother's Day he said "Is that your way of telling me I get a chance to redeem myself?".  He's getting better at hints

StayHomeDad

I'm sorry you had to go through that.  Sounds like he was really jerking it up.  He better pull out all the stops next year.

gracefulash

Odd question.. Are you celebrating because you already have a child or because your'e pregnant with one?

jrsmama2010

I sort of know how you feel.  For mother's day I didn't get anything.  For Father's Day I got H a tool set, but he got it early bc we only have one vehicle since the car is gettin fixed.  And today he walks in and asks so what'd you get me.  

rakle99

gracefulash:

Odd question.. Are you celebrating because you already have a child or because your'e pregnant with one?

 

We are celebrating because we are parents. We believe that 'having a child' includes having one inside me. 

I didn't mind a low key Mother's Day, as long as he expected the same. But his divaish behavior today really got on my nerves.

erbear

Here's an idea...stop doing all that for him. I doubt you're making him feel guilty and you're just setting yourself up for disappointment next MD.

Jana2720

Gosh I'm sorry! I felt the same way. My hubby told me he had no baby duties since it was fathers day. WHAT!

LivingItUpInUP

rakle99:

At 2:30 am this morning he got a booty call and I gave him his card today too. 

 What? A married man should not be getting a booty call. That is completely unacceptable. 

cricutmama86

Yup. Know how you feel. DH is HORRIBLE about holidays and gifts. ALL I wanted for Mother's Day was one day off. No responsibilities, nothing and what do I get? A card and then get to spend the entire day at his mother's house so the kids can spend time with her and so he can mow her lawn! What did he get for Father's Day? A whole freakin day off!

mommybear77

I despise holidays because it is always the same thing...i buy more, do more, say something to piss him off and ruin it, repeat.

mrsmklynch

I would have stopped with all the celebrations when he started acting like a spoiled child. My husband learned very quickly that if he wants special treatment then he better dang well show how much he appreciates it or he doesn't get squat.

I do agree with you, however, that being pregnant does make you both parents. I've never understood people who don't believe that they get to celebrate mother's day or father's day until they have an outside baby.

cynnnabun

See this is pretty simple since Mother's Day comes first. If they suck, then don't do anything for them. If my DH made me spend the day with my MIL and then wanted a day off from kid duties on father's day, I'd laugh at him and go get my nails done while he did everything. Then he'd probably rethink things next mother's day.