Our Childbirth Prep class today was awful and I feel more defeated and unprepared than before.

Any good programs or resources for breathing and/or relaxation techniques would be greatly appreciated.
After 22 cycles and 4 failed IUIs, Serafina joined our family through IVF/ICSI, born 8.28.12
Our surprise baby, Juliette, is due 12.8.14!
Re: What childbirth technique are you using?
same here... no classes, no books... just kinda gona go with the flow...
We took a childbirth class before DS was born, and I'm pretty sure that I didn't refer back to anything from the class while I was actually in labor. I did have an epidural, but before that, I just focused on breathing through the contractions--no counting or puffing, just breathing myself through the pain! While I was pushing, the nurse sort of "coached" me on when/how to breathe with the contractions, but it certainly wasn't anything that needed to be learned/practiced beforehand.
This time around, I am planning to attend a class on natural methods of dealing with the pain, so we'll see if that helps at all. I was induced the last time, so I got my epi pretty early on--hoping to labor naturally this time around, but not opposed to another epi. I am interested in the natural methods because I'd like to stay at home for the majority of my labor if possible.
You guys have certainly made me feel better, thank you! I just have issues with anxiety and usually ward that off by being as prepared as possible, which is why today's failure upset me. I think I'll read up a bit and that should help.
xo
Gretchen Evie, born 7/8/2012 at 35w5d
I'm very much open to the epi.
Very true, but that's why having something to at least make me *feel* more prepared, or something I can practice to give myself some confidence that I've done all I can to get ready for something so uncontrollable is so important to me. I know I may throw it all out the window when the time actually comes, but I still need to put in that effort to not feel so anxious about it. KWIM?
This is my plan as a FTM, though I did take a general class. But it covered everything from labor to postpartum care to infant care so nothing in depth for labor. I'll just go with the flow. I figure reading/studying would just make me stress more. Guess it depends one's personality...
For our first I just took the hospital course. It did me alright, I got through without meds. But I felt a little bit out of control and not totally on top of it. So before my second I read the bradley method book and talked to a friend about some visualization, and between the two my second labor went much better. DH actually told people for a long time that it wasn't as painful for me, which was his (incorrect) explanation of why I was so much more calm and quiet. It really did help me a lot.
(I really focused on the pain doing a good thing - dilating my cervix so my baby could come out sooner. So I really focused on keeping my hips and pelvic area relaxed and open during contractions and actually visualized my cervix dilating and baby coming down with each contraction. I would get upset/disappointed if I couldn't keep relaxed because I knew it was being counter-productive and just dragging out the pain.)
This. My midwives and nurses were great coaches, too, so I just listened to them and had no problems.
ETA: I just saw that you are open to an epidural. I was, too, and plan on getting one this time as well. You will be fine for sure then w/o classes/books. One thing that did help me more than anything was to watch videos of childbirth (real ones, not overly dramatized ones) to know what I could possibly be in for...everyone is different but I found that watching some births ahead of time took some fear of the unknown away.
This time I am actually going to apply more of the holistic/med-free practices.
Thanks for posting, ours was also today and we must have had the same experience. They lady just read from this book and asked us if we had any questions.
I feel just deflated as I was hoping that I would atleast have some questions after but now I am just more concerned.
Winging it like I did with #1 - having my mama and hubby there
I found that in the heat of the moment I threw all things learnt out the window and just followed what my body wanted/what I felt I needed to do