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bsschroeder

Our shower is in 5 weeks and I just found the 'notes' sections of the registries & would like to let people know that Carson has enough clothes to make it through 6 mon and that we really only need clothes 9 mon and larger. I hit 1 yard sale, 1 consignment sale, spent a few hours clearance shopping and was given a couple boxes of hand-me-downs form my cousin so his closet it full already. Of course I dont want to sound rude or unfgrateful so I was considering just letting it be & returning what clothes we got and didnt need but since i found the 'notes' sections I thought maybe I could nicely put it there... your thoughts are appreciated! TIA

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ndruley

I voted no just return stuff, but maybe you could register for outfits of the sizes you want for him and people will get the hint that way???

bsschroeder

thanks!  yea, I was thinking no, just let it be too. I was lurking on other random target registries and noticed someone had a similar note so it got me thinking...    i didnt put any clothes, blankets or bibs on there. I didnt want to be like I want this one and this one only ya know, kinda wanted ppl to pick what they thought was cute... maybe ill add plain onsies in 9, 12 & 18 mon kinda subliminally tell people.. lol  

allardr

I  had the same thing but not quite as much, we just had plenty of NB size. I just wrote it under comments. But I think you know your friends/family, i knew mine are laid back and no one would think twice about it or think it was rude. I simply wrote. "It's a girl! We're so excited! If you buy clothes for her please no NB, we have plenty of those. Thanks!"

 ...not sure if anyone even paid attention to it or read it, but we didn't get NB so yey  

katiem1025

At the top of our registry in the welcome message, I wrote something along these lines, "It's a girl! blah blah blah, thank you to Kristina for sending us TONS of newborn clothes. Baby girl is set for the newborn stage"

I don't know if that will help any, but worst case I just return any extras. 

monksmama

Telling someone what to buy (even very nicely) is always tacky.

If you would like to send the message, I would just add a bunch of 9 month+ stuff to the registry and hope people read between the lines. If it comes down to it just return and exchange. Then at least you end up with stuff you like.

KacieLeigh

monksmama:

Telling someone what to buy (even very nicely) is always tacky.

If you would like to send the message, I would just add a bunch of 9 month+ stuff to the registry and hope people read between the lines. If it comes down to it just return and exchange. Then at least you end up with stuff you like.

I agree 100%.  While some people like being told exactly what you want/need, some people find it really rude.  I'd err on the side of caution (of not offending) and just return whatever you need to.

rp-chicago-mom

I feel weird enough telling people what I do want via registry that I wouldn't be able to also tell them what I don't want. I assume getting unwanted items is a part of the shower process. Lord knows I got plenty of that for my wedding shower! I am super picky about children's books and only want books where the author is listed rather than just a publishing company (i.e. Dora books and others based on television). I would never say that though. I would just return what you don't want or donate it. 

dufferoo

I voted no don't put anything on the registry, but another way to get the word out would be to have the host of your party mention it to people who ask where you are registered (assuming you didn't already put that info on the invites). So if someone calls to RSVP and asks if hostess has any ideas what you need, she can say "Well she's registered at Babies R Us and I know she already has tons of clothes up to 9 months size." That way you are only giving the info out to the people who specifically requested it, so you're not being rude.

MommyMelRN

I would word it in such a way as to state what you have, not specifically asking for anything.  Something along the lines of "Thank you for visiting our registry!  We have been blown away by the generosity of our friends and family, Carson already has a full wardrobe until he is 9 months old!" Honestly as a guest I would want to know if I were about to purchase a gift that would likely be returned.  

bellag8212

I think even if you put a note on there, people will just get you whatever they wanted to get you anyways. A lot of times people don't even stick to your registry. It's easier just to return what you don't want.

Lou&Beth

I voted yes, I would rather tell people than have to return a bunch of clothes...but I'm having a hard time walking around a lot (when I do everything hurts in my pelvis and I start getting more contractions). If you don't have a health reason to not go shopping...I would just return the sizes you don't want.