stolen name

AmberMH08

I've loved the name arianna fayth for years since prolly 5th grade used to doodle it on notebooks and silly things like that... We aren't using the name this time but still held it high on list for next child. We'll my mom just informed me yesterday that my cousin I am not close to really found out shes having a girl and using it spelling and everything. I am a little aggrevated/mad about this but also feel silly for feeling this way  cause I'm not using the name... Anyone else have this happen? Am I being ridiculous for feeling hurt some1 stole the name?

I can blame it on my hormones for feeling this way can't I ?? haha

LilBlkDress1

I get the frustration, especially since you spelled faith wrong and she's even copying that, but at the same time I think it's ridiculous to think you can "save names" especially when you're having a girl and not even using it. So now even if you don't use it nobody else can either?

We have a bunch of friends who keep trying to tell us their favourite kids names and we have to let them know not to tell us, because if we like it, we're GOING to use it!   

mamahawk12

Ridiculous. You obviously aren't that in love with the name or you would have used it.

emoxymoose

Just the hormones, if you didn't love it enough to use it this time then you may well never.

purplepolkadot445

I totally understand! If she knew about it (which I'm assuming she did) then it was super rude of her. It's your best bet to just make lemonade out of lemons and remember imitation is the greatest form of flattery. Sorry that happened!

KrissyMiss

Grow up. I honestly hope you aren't being serious and this is just MUD.

Formerly Mrs D S

meaknigh:

Ridiculous. You obviously aren't that in love with the name or you would have used it.

THIS... I hate the whole stolen name thing.. just ridiculous

AmberMH08

I picked teigan cai this time b4 we knew gender...We had a miscarriage back last june and i was 3 months along was waiting to find out gender b4 naming the baby and lost baby b4 had chance to name them. So this time I hurried picked something either gender could use cause I wasn't sure if things would stick and when they did and we found out gender I didn't want to change name We all had been calling her since week 7

I don't think my cousin even knew That I liked that name I just thought it was super wierd she picked it and even used Fayth not faith.. 

I probably won't be having any more anyways so I am glad some1 will use the name I truely do love it Just brings me back to memories of those high school bfs u think ur gonna be with forever and have kids named x and y and all that goofy jazz.

I do realize people all over the world have same names just strange she picked that out of all the names.

temporalrobe

"especially since you spelled faith wrong and she's even copying that" boom.

 

AmberMH08

I am not MUD.... I am not like phyco crazy want to kill her over it mad either... just found it wierd ... I try to pick names change the spelling so no one will have same name...I always hated being 1 of 6 with some name in my very small grade in school.

 

G$Wifey

I've gotten my baby name stolen not once but TWICE!  I've learned my lesson and just told myself I wouldn't tell my names anymore and that is just what I've done.  Anyone asks if I have names, I say NO! hahahaha 

 

AmberMH08

G$Wifey:

I've gotten my baby name stolen not once but TWICE!  I've learned my lesson and just told myself I wouldn't tell my names anymore and that is just what I've done.  Anyone asks if I have names, I say NO! hahahaha 

 

Wow that would be worst It takes awhile to pin a name you love and on top of that a name that u and your partner both love... Then some1 just use it cause they heard it and said oo i love that BAM your back to square 1 on the nameing train... Every1 seems to hate my name this time so I feel its safe to say it out loud   lol...my son's name was a variation of my grandfathers name it's common but not common enough that there prolly won't be 2-3 in his class lol

morethancottoncandy

AmberMH08:

I picked teigan cai this time b4 we knew gender...We had a miscarriage back last june and i was 3 months along was waiting to find out gender b4 naming the baby and lost baby b4 had chance to name them. So this time I hurried picked something either gender could use cause I wasn't sure if things would stick and when they did and we found out gender I didn't want to change name We all had been calling her since week 7

I don't think my cousin even knew That I liked that name I just thought it was super wierd she picked it and even used Fayth not faith.. 

I probably won't be having any more anyways so I am glad some1 will use the name I truely do love it Just brings me back to memories of those high school bfs u think ur gonna be with forever and have kids named x and y and all that goofy jazz.

I do realize people all over the world have same names just strange she picked that out of all the names.

Seriously, you sound like you are still in high school.  FFS, its "probably" not "prolly" and your use of text-speak is making me stabby.  Mispelling names does not make them unique, it just makes you look dumb.   

mben1119

morethancottoncandy:

AmberMH08:

I picked teigan cai this time b4 we knew gender...We had a miscarriage back last june and i was 3 months along was waiting to find out gender b4 naming the baby and lost baby b4 had chance to name them. So this time I hurried picked something either gender could use cause I wasn't sure if things would stick and when they did and we found out gender I didn't want to change name We all had been calling her since week 7

I don't think my cousin even knew That I liked that name I just thought it was super wierd she picked it and even used Fayth not faith.. 

I probably won't be having any more anyways so I am glad some1 will use the name I truely do love it Just brings me back to memories of those high school bfs u think ur gonna be with forever and have kids named x and y and all that goofy jazz.

I do realize people all over the world have same names just strange she picked that out of all the names.

Seriously, you sound like you are still in high school.  FFS, its "probably" not "prolly" and your use of text-speak is making me stabby.  Mispelling names does not make them unique, it just makes you look dumb.   

Thank you. My head is spinning from trying to decipher your posts, OP.

cwm11985

meaknigh:

Ridiculous. You obviously aren't that in love with the name or you would have used it.

And for goodness sakes! Let use some real words and real spellings please! I can't understand your highschool text language...plus the way you spelled "Faith" is weird.

AutumnLeaves2

...So your mad that your she used a name that you like even though you aren't using it because you chose to name your baby a unisex name instead of waiting to find out the gender?

I think she did you a favor because "Fayth" is an atrocious middle name.

KatieKim0815

You don't own a name. Whoever gets preggo first uses the name. And it isn't a name that you're using for THIS baby so definitely wouldn't get upset. I can understand frustration but you can either still name your baby that or just move onto the next!!

I do have a couple of names I love and if close family were pregnant I'd probably tell them I love it just because they would then know and I can learn their names and steer clear. However, I would only do it for the baby I am pregnant with. Not "here's a list of the names I'd like to use for future children" 

AutumnLeaves2

hijoi:

Well I call dibs on Joe and John for any future children I may have so NO ONE BETTER EVER USE THEM AGAIN!   You know, because I loved them so much that I named my son Nathaniel.

And would you please stop playing bingo when you type? The word is before.  B4 is a space in a column on a game.

...Well I call dibs on spelling them like this: Joh and Jawn

cchill01

emoxymoose:

Just the hormones, if you didn't love it enough to use it this time then you may well never.

I'd go even further.  If you didn't choose it this time, you'll NEVER use it.

Our list for this LO is completely different than with #1.  It's amazing how much your preferences will change.

SGC29

If you like the name use the name.

Problem solved. 

AmberMH08

I'm just trying to type quickly as I fill out cards and chase to kids sorry my grammer is off. I will not argue it's bad alot of the time and have a bad habit of the ... thing. I actually have had same list of names under 5 names for many years now so my preferences haven't changed from child to child. Faith with a Y, I didn't think was that bad I'm not trying to name my kid something crazy... I just saw she has decided to go with arionna fayth so it's a little different haha. I wish just about every post didn't turn into angry rants but that's ok I love to see peoples differences in opinion

lynnyrd80

mabenner1:

morethancottoncandy:

AmberMH08:

I picked teigan cai this time b4 we knew gender...We had a miscarriage back last june and i was 3 months along was waiting to find out gender b4 naming the baby and lost baby b4 had chance to name them. So this time I hurried picked something either gender could use cause I wasn't sure if things would stick and when they did and we found out gender I didn't want to change name We all had been calling her since week 7

I don't think my cousin even knew That I liked that name I just thought it was super wierd she picked it and even used Fayth not faith.. 

I probably won't be having any more anyways so I am glad some1 will use the name I truely do love it Just brings me back to memories of those high school bfs u think ur gonna be with forever and have kids named x and y and all that goofy jazz.

I do realize people all over the world have same names just strange she picked that out of all the names.

Seriously, you sound like you are still in high school.  FFS, its "probably" not "prolly" and your use of text-speak is making me stabby.  Mispelling names does not make them unique, it just makes you look dumb.   

Thank you. My head is spinning from trying to decipher your posts, OP.

 Ugh.  Seriously OP, it is not hard to type out words like someone or before.  Also, ... is not a period.  Please don't use it to separate sentences.  

Have you thought about the spelling Teagan Kai (I'm assuming this is how you are wanting the middle name pronounced)? 

jlh2716

Sorry, but you're being ridiculous. You can't "steal" names, and quite honestly, it seems to me that if you loved it so much, you would've used it this time around. Furthermore, there is absolutely no guarantee that you'll have another girl, so why should your cousin let it go if she loves it, just in case you do?

babypaloozyvan

Blame your hormones because it makes no sense that you feel this way to me.  We are naming our child Michael Rhys and my nephew, whom I am very close to is named Michael John.  We didn't think twice about it because for my sister's DH, Michael is a family name and for us it is a family name (my DH's father's name).  As a matter of fact, Michael John (who's 8) LOVES that his cousin has his name and keeps calling the baby his "mini me".  If 100 people I knew had a child named the name I loved, I still would name LO that...if it was that important, you wouldn't care.

AmberMH08

nope teagan kai isn't for me I don't like k names and tea just sounds like a gal of tea plus my sons name starts tri so tei for me was always the spelling i would go with. With the accents here in the south  99% of ppl with say Taygun  not TEgan  so it really doesn't matter but to me I guess.

dimondwind

I think she did you a favor...

lewispm

AmberMH08:

nope teagan kai isn't for me I don't like k names and tea just sounds like a gal of tea plus my sons name starts tri so tei for me was always the spelling i would go with. With the accents here in the south  99% of ppl with say Taygun  not TEgan  so it really doesn't matter but to me I guess.

I am from the south and would definitely not say TAYgan. I dont think anywhere near 99% of people would.

And honestly, your LO will have to spell her name for absolutely everyone her entire life if you try to use incorrect spelling to make her name seem more "unique". Teagan Kai is pretty uncommon as it is. Maybe you should reconsider the spelling? Just a suggestion. My friend's name is Ashleigh and she HATES how often she has to spell her name out and how often it gets misspelled on pretty much everything.

LittleApple

Get over it.  You obviously didn't love it that much to use it this time.

TamaraGuin

I think you should do what you want! I would also take is as a compliment that someone else liked the name that you liked enough to give that name to their child. Spelling doesn't matter, it's how you want to do it. Your child = your choice.
My name is Tamara and EVERYONE pronounces it wrong, but it's what my parents wanted to name me. Also my middle name is Guin, prounounced penGUIN. My kindergarten teacher argued with my mom about how my middle name should be spelled. She told her it is spelled Gwen. My mom had to take my birth certificate to school and prove to her that my middle name is spelled Guin.
It's your child. Name them what YOU want and spell it how YOU want.

linda2002

Yes I would definitely be upset too. We have been trying to come up with our favorite names and we keep sharing the names with family and they say no or yes then say what we should name the child. I even had someone not like a name to the point they said no I don't like that let's see if we can compromise. I have told my husband not to discuss names we are serious about with anyone for this reason. I would be mad if it happened to me, then again I would probably still use the name regardless. If your cousin knew you liked the name and used it that's kinda crappy.

CoUnTryBB1

lewispm:

AmberMH08:

nope teagan kai isn't for me I don't like k names and tea just sounds like a gal of tea plus my sons name starts tri so tei for me was always the spelling i would go with. With the accents here in the south  99% of ppl with say Taygun  not TEgan  so it really doesn't matter but to me I guess.

I am from the south and would definitely not say TAYgan. I dont think anywhere near 99% of people would.

And honestly, your LO will have to spell her name for absolutely everyone her entire life if you try to use incorrect spelling to make her name seem more "unique". Teagan Kai is pretty uncommon as it is. Maybe you should reconsider the spelling? Just a suggestion. My friend's name is Ashleigh and she HATES how often she has to spell her name out and how often it gets misspelled on pretty much everything.

This!   Also you came up with a misspelled name in middle school that you chose not to use so I wouldn't get upset about it.  

laurenhankey

Teigan isn't a variation that you made up.  It's our LO's name and we found it spelled that way in the baby book.

IAM3Bs

LOL- I've lived in the deep south my entire life, and have never pronounced Tea as Tay... but, if you like the spelling you picked, keep it. It's your baby.