do friends or family treat you differently since being pg?

als33

i'm noticing a trend that my husband and i aren't invited to outings as much anymore since being pg.  it's like my friends just assume that i don't want to go anywhere or do anything just bc i'm pg.  or if they do invite us they ask my hubby and say "i know your wife's pg, but..."

just bc i'm KU doesn't mean i am an anti-social being!  if anything i want to get out as much as i can before the baby gets here!

Whippet8

Absolutely. As a teacher, I wasn't invited to chaperone either the junior or senior prom this year, and I've been looking forward to it all year (I've chaperoned before). I'm especially bummed because one of the senior class advisors is one of my good friends, and I know I would have been invited.

Luckily, one of my best friends is PG too, so there hasn't been too much else, but I definitely still want to go out/hang out.

TravelSnob

I don't find they treat me differently in that aspect, however friends and family and pretty much everyone else treat me as though I'm breakable.  I'm apparently not allowed to pick up a stack-able chair to put it away.

Oh well, I'm taking advantage of being treated like a princess haha!

DemoDoll

My family definitely treats me differently. They are constantly trying to do things for me and getting mad at me if I "do too much." One time I got yelled at for lifting a bag of ice that clearly said 10 lbs on it when my doctor gave me a 25 lb weight restriction. I always tell them "I'm pregnant, not disabled."

We don't get invited to as many outing either, DH doesn't drink at all and since I can't, people don't see any point in inviting us out. It really ticks me off but oh well.

CLeigh03

No, not really actually! I get asked 'how are you feeling' much more often but that is about it. Our main social circles though are families with kids - most of the women were either recently pregnant or are pregnant.

SayAnything84

The only thing I notice about being treated differently is co-workers acting like I can't pick up/carry anything. I can seriously be carrying something that weighs less than 3lbs and people are falling all over themselves to be all "Oh  you shouldn't be lifting that!!" That kind of aggrevates me but I know it comes from a good place.

Friends still invite us out bc they know I am not the type to get annoyed about others drinking and stuff when I can't, so they keep asking, they just know that we leave a lot earlier now than we used to.

JayandEmm

I have 2 friends that treat me differently. Im in a different stage of life than they are, so they dont really know how to react. One comes into town to see her family once a month (She's from out of town) and not once as she tried to contact me to hang out since becoming pregnant. Although, I think she's coming around a little, she asked me if I wanted to have lunch in a few weeks. I expect that's the last time I'll see her for awhile.

My family treats me like Im feeble. Like, Im incapable of doing things by myself, or something. MIL texts me 3 times a day now to ask how Im feeling. Uh, I feel awesome, actually. Ive felt awesome this entire pregnancy. It seems like my family wants me to have a pregnancy like theirs. Like I need to waddle everywhere with swollen feet and moan and groan about something hurting, and ask for help to get up from sitting.

bigbootyjudi

I have quite a few friends that used to invite me out after work all of the time and now I'm never invited (not that I'd want to go because I'm ready to pass out as soon as I clock out at 11:30pm!). I have a close friend that used to constantly talk to me and ask me to do things, and now she barely talks to me. She is always going out, drinking, etc. so I just chop it up to the fact that we're in two different stages in our lives.

My mom treats me VERY differently. We've never been extremely close. I've been pretty independent since about 13 when I got my first babysitting job and never had to ask her for any money or to do anything for me (I had an older boyfriend that drove, so need for her for that either). So, I am definitely not used to how she acts now...checks on me constantly, texts/calls me every day (before pg, we talked maybe once a week), wants to take a week off when LO is born, etc. I love that she wants to be so involved and it's been making us closer, but I'm not used to her being so involved in my life and sometimes it can be overbearing.

sdlaura

My friends and family aren't treating me any differently, but I'm making a major effort to still go to most stuff we're invited to, and not to talk about my pregnancy frequently when I'm there.  I went to my friend's 3-day bachelorette party with 15 other women over Memorial Day weekend and did all of the activities that everyone else did, minus drinking.  We went to a drag show, dinners, wine tasting, etc.  Everyone kept telling me what a "trooper" I was, and I just answered that I felt totally fine.  With most of the women being a bit hungover each day, and me being pregnant, I felt like we were generally moving at the same speed!

Bemyselfandi

People haven't asked us to do anything since we've become pregnant. It's super irritating and become quite depressing that no one wants us to be around. There was a walk/run that would have been super fun. It's called a "color run" and they didn't even think to ask if we'd like to join them. I was so upset. They all went to dinner at some steak place. They never asked us, but everyone went. I was more upset.

This past weekend helped a little, however, it was more frustrating that, when I was pregnant with DS, people seemed to make it seem like I was fragile and shouldn't do as many things as I was. I didn't do anything different when I was pregnant with him. This one, however, is way different. I can't do things like I wanted to do. I can't run, I can't be as active as I'd like to be and my 19 month old doesn't get that. So, while he's running away and I'm running after him down the sidewalk while we wait for the Memorial Parade, everyone sat in their chairs, and laughed. When I returned with my son, while out of breath, they said, "Wow, Angela...you can run pretty gracefully!" Thanks a-holes. Wouldn't want to help me. My step sister is the only one that noticed the whole weekend that it would be really nice if I had the physical help with DS. She played with him the whole time and kept him busy so I wasn't out of my chair much more than I needed to be. Exactly what I needed...but why couldn't anyone else see that???

Msbean22

lol, nope. We get asked out more because they know I'll be a sober driver. I kind of hate it.

ufmelissa

Two of my closest friends are still single (with boyfriends) and we used to always go out for happy hours with our SO's or meet up for girls night but now I almost never hear from them.  And it sucks because I know I can't drink but at least right now I still have the flexibility to do things when I want.  

Most of our other friends have kids and would always complain that we didn't invite them to do stuff, partly because the plans were always made at the last minute and we knew they would have to find sitters.  I guess I'll be in their boat soon :-(

Twizzle

Funny that you bring this up today...I was just feeling sad about a bunch of my girlfriends who are going to Vegas this weekend to celebrate a big birthday.  Obviously there's no way I would have gone, but it still kind of stings that they didn't even invite me.  Almost all of them don't have kids, so I guess they think I'm in a different mindset.

Several other people also treat me like I'm basically helpless.  Sure, it's harder for me to do some things but I'm not that incapable!