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confused about earlier offensive deleted post?

Hi Everyone,

I missed the offensive post that made so many people upset; the moderator had already deleted it, but I read everyone's comments afterward. Was it an honest mistake (like she misunderstood the purpose of the board) or was she straight out nasty and rude?

From what I was reading about how everyone felt, it looked like it hit people really hard.

 

Married to the love of my life for 3 years :)
First pregnancy - blighted ovum, miscarriage at 10 weeks, Apr./May 2012
Second BFP 9/19/12 - Hoping for our Rainbow Baby! :)

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Re: confused about earlier offensive deleted post?

  • I suppose it could have been an honest mistake.  Her post just basically asked about if other people were worried about having a miscarriage.  Well, obviously!!  If she had had a previous loss, she didn't mention it.  Everyone was just upset b/c this was clearly the wrong place to post it.  To my knowledge, she never replied with an apology or anything.
  • I think she posted without reading the purpose of the board.  It was highly inappropriate, and she never posted an apology, but I don't think it was vicious--just very very poor etiquette and a lack of common sense...

    TTC #1 since November 2011
    ** BFP #1 - M/C at 6 weeks 4/13/2012 **
    ** BFP #2 - expecting a little leprechaun!! EDD 3/21/13 | HB 7/30/2012 (6w3d) **
    NT Scan 9/4 - looked great! | Grow, baby, grow!!! | A/S 10/29

    ***All AL always welcome***
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  • It was a mistake. A dumb one, but there wasn't any malicious intent behind it.
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  • image krisztina33:

    I think she posted without reading the purpose of the board.  It was highly inappropriate, and she never posted an apology, but I don't think it was vicious--just very very poor etiquette and a lack of common sense...

    This.  


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    BFP #1: 12/2009 m/c 1/2010 BFP #2: 6/2010 m/c 8/2010

    BFP #3: 10/2011 ectopic 11/2011 (right tube removed, learned left tube was probably nonfunctional due to scar tissue from infection after m/c)

    3 failed IUIs, IVF #1: 18R, 12M, 10F, 3 poor quality 5d embryos transferred= BFP #4!!!!!

    Betas: 9dp5dt: 64 ~14dp5dt: 91 (expecting miscarriage, doubling time of 236 hours) ~16dp5dt: 200~18dp5dt: 500

    First Ultrasound at 6w2d revealed two sacs, only one with a heartbeat

    LK arrived after 42 weeks on August 14, 2013! Beautiful, healthy, and happy!

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    Betas: 10dpo: 10, 14dpo: 77, 17dpo: 270

    First Ultrasound at 5w1d showed a miracle UTE baby! And right ovary ovulation to left fallopian tube.

    JD arrived at 38 weeks on October 20, 2015.

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  • Thank you for the clarification. I felt like I missed something and wanted to know.

    Right after my miscarriage I posted an intro. on the Loss board, not realizing it was more meant for later pregnancy losses and losing a child, but then I realized it, "excused myself" politely, and came here. So I was guilty of not looking into the purpose of the board as well. Sometimes it can be confusing if you're new to The Bump and aren't familiar with all the boards.

    I can definitely understand why everyone was angry about this situation, though. I've even found myself bristling when someone comes here and has a pregnancy ticker in their signature, and that is way less direct.

    Married to the love of my life for 3 years :)
    First pregnancy - blighted ovum, miscarriage at 10 weeks, Apr./May 2012
    Second BFP 9/19/12 - Hoping for our Rainbow Baby! :)

    image image image
    Pregnancy Ticker
    BabyFruit Ticker
  • image GaiaEarthMom12:

    Right after my miscarriage I posted an intro. on the Loss board, not realizing it was more meant for later pregnancy losses and losing a child, but then I realized it, "excused myself" politely, and came here. So I was guilty of not looking into the purpose of the board as well. Sometimes it can be confusing if you're new to The Bump and aren't familiar with all the boards.

    I did the same thing...

    TTC #1 since November 2011
    ** BFP #1 - M/C at 6 weeks 4/13/2012 **
    ** BFP #2 - expecting a little leprechaun!! EDD 3/21/13 | HB 7/30/2012 (6w3d) **
    NT Scan 9/4 - looked great! | Grow, baby, grow!!! | A/S 10/29

    ***All AL always welcome***
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