DH just doesn't get it.... hurt vent

KKSBeans

It is in the 90's here in Ohio and I am hot sitting in the air. Well his friend's wife graduated with her master's in nursing and is having a drunken camp out tonight to celebrate. Kudos to her. I don't have any clothes that fit right (I'm carrying high) so everything is either too big or too small. My ribs hurt like hell because they are expanding again, I can barely breathe in the humidity because I am carrying so high and I just feel like crap today in general. So, I try to tell DH that I am hot and uncomfortable and don't feel like sitting there watching everyone get drunk and play volleyball in 90 degree heat, to which I get a response "Do you want to meet me there or me to come pick you up?"

I am so mad and hurt and uncomfortable that I am in tears. I mean I understand he wants to see his friends, then go without me. Don't pretty much leave me without a choice in the matter. I just wish for one day they could carry the baby in their body. THEN they would get it...maybe. Please tell me I'm not the only one with a clueless DH.

Or tell me if I'm being a whiney *** lol

KKSBeans

Thanks....I don't forsee getting out of this one without a fight, so wish me luck

bosha711

Since meeting him there is an option, just meet him there when he's ready to go home

I'm sorry you are so uncomfortable & YH isn't being sympathetic.

monica92603

I don't know....I don't understand why you don't just tell him you are not going.  I have to be in a certain mood to put up w/ a lot of annoying drunk people, pregnant or not,  and 90 degree weather would not be it.

daisy662

I don't understand what you wanted him to do. He probably thought he was being considerate - seeing if you wanted him to pick you up later as you clearly made it sound like you didn't want to go. Why would you pick a fight with him over this? I wouldn't care if my DH went on a camping trip without me that I was invited to but didn't want to go to. 

 

SarahJean0

I know what you mean, friends invite me to the bar/parties. I'm so thankful they do and dont just exclude me but sometimes I'm just not feeling it. Just tell DH you're going to pass on these things sometimes. Sounds like you don't mind if he goes so he shouldn't be upset. I know plenty of women who would not let DH out without them...I say go ahead! 

If DH doesn't get it just say you're not feeling well...which is true. Hope you feel better. I'm in Mich so I know this heat/humidity you're talking about. Try a cool bath. 

KKSBeans

Just an update...

To the person that was confused, I was trying to tell him to stop by and say hi to everyone without me. His response was 'but you're my wife and I want you to go and I wanna show everyone ultrasound pics'

So anywho, we went and luckily it had cooled down to 80 by the time we got there. Also, luckily everyone wasn't even drinking. So we sat and talked to his friend and his wife for about an hour, made our rounds, and left. It wasn't that bad, but now I told him he owes me lol

Thanks for commiserating with me girls, I was super upset when I posted last night. On the upside, we got 6 RSVPs for the shower last night from his friends and their wives. (He really does have a great group of friends, except for the perverted ass who always makes sexually inappropriate comments towards the girls. They are just still 30 year old frat boys lol)

veslick

daisy662:

I don't understand what you wanted him to do. He probably thought he was being considerate - seeing if you wanted him to pick you up later as you clearly made it sound like you didn't want to go. Why would you pick a fight with him over this? I wouldn't care if my DH went on a camping trip without me that I was invited to but didn't want to go to. 

 

Blackrose1918

You are not alone, this I promise you! MH is similarly clueless, but really does try. I'm in Ohio as well, and the last few days have been brutal, so I really feel your pain. Two words: air conditioning. Yep, gotta have it.