I have THAT babysitter :(

slv0606

I have that babysitter who thinks it is OK to tell that my son laughed today, well thank goodness I witnessed beofre she did but. Yesterday I pick DS up and she said oh guess what he did today, my response was pooped? (he is having BM issues) I would have been thrilled with that response but nope she proceeded to tell me that he ROLLED OVER for the FIRST TIME EVER! And I did not know how to react I was excited, shocked and pissed all at once. The hardest thing is my babysitter is my grandmother She is super sensitive and I don't think she is telling me these things to upset me but more out of her own excitement. BUT I have got to tell her this has got to stop, my guess she is going to be pissed off at me but I have a 4-day weekend and hopefully that is long enough for her to get over it. I was crying telling DH last night just because going to work is hard enough and now that I know I am missing out on these milestones it's killing me!

btartaroind

Aww... my mom is my babysitter and she is like a magician at making babies and kids do things so I have had this fear too. Luckily He laughed and rolled for the first time when I was there, otherwise I would be so upset. Maybe I should tell her ahead of time not to tell me for any other things!

lancyjo

In one of my hysterical breakdowns before returning to work, I was freaking out that I would miss EVERYTHING. So, Mom and I made a deal that unless I specifically asked, she'd not tell me about any "firsts" that happened when she's babysitting. She was really cool about it, and was actually the one who suggested it. It's really put my mind at ease. The first time I see her roll might not be the first time she's done it, but it will be the first time with me.

I hope things go well when you present it to your grandmother. In a perfect world, she'd completely understand since she's a mother too... but I know that if it were my grandmother, she'd have her feelings hurt too. You have got to do what you've got to do to have peace of mind though. Don't feel bad about it. Good luck and ::hugs:: from a fellow working -and hating it- mom.

ferris0906

My husband was the "babysitter" the first two weeks I went back to work, and he got a laugh.  My MIL is now the babysitter, and she has gotten a laugh.  I still have yet to get one.  Sad.

liberty95

lancyjo:

In one of my hysterical breakdowns before returning to work, I was freaking out that I would miss EVERYTHING. So, Mom and I made a deal that unless I specifically asked, she'd not tell me about any "firsts" that happened when she's babysitting. She was really cool about it, and was actually the one who suggested it. It's really put my mind at ease. The first time I see her roll might not be the first time she's done it, but it will be the first time with me.

I hope things go well when you present it to your grandmother. In a perfect world, she'd completely understand since she's a mother too... but I know that if it were my grandmother, she'd have her feelings hurt too. You have got to do what you've got to do to have peace of mind though. Don't feel bad about it. Good luck and ::hugs:: from a fellow working -and hating it- mom.

This! I know I may miss some of the "official" firsts but I don't want to hear about them second hand.  Its like that saying, "If a tree falls in the forest and know one hears it does it make a noise?" The parent version should be "If my child reaches a milestone that I don't witness, did it really happen?" I say nope, it didn't

Jen0204

I think I'm in the minority but I like knowing. DD1 rolled over last Friday so we worked extra hard with them over the weekend to try to get it to happen again and DD2 rolled over. I also want to know so that I can let the pediatrician know at their check ups (he asks if they've rolled over or done anything new).