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December 2012 Moms
Khrysty289
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Ugh! (baby names rant)
Khrysty289
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What's so wrong with wanting to name your child a name that doesn't remind you of someone you already know?!
I'm a fiction writer. I have specific characters tied to specific names. And on that note, names stick with me more vividly tied to personality and circumstance than the average person. I have a moderately large family. FI has a large family. I have a wide spectrum of friends and acquaintances. And every one of THEIR names are intricately woven into their life stories.
I want my child to be unique--
Not in that kitchy "no one will ever be as different as my baby" way but in the "I don't want to have subliminal expectations for my child based on a name that's familiar to me" way.
So no, Mom. No, Dad. No, random other family members and friends: I will not name my daughter "Elizabeth," even though I love the name Elli. That name's taken in my head. I will not name my son "Jacob." Etc.
I'm tired of being pressured into common names. I chose unusual ones for a reason. Respect my decision.
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Re: Ugh! (baby names rant)
I agree.
I had a few bullies in school (middle school through high school) that made my life miserable. Because of that I will never name a kid Mallory, Lindsey, or Jocelyn. They automatically make me think "mean girl."
I also am afraid of having a friend with a name I like and them thinking I named my kid after them. (My BFF's names are Kristy, Joel and Morgan.) Not that it's a big deal, but yeah.
I like simple names, can't you tell.
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As a Brittany born in the late 80's, I can vouch for the fact that being forever known as "Brittany R" in school was not fun. I always wished I had a more unique name, not just what happened to be trendy at the time of my birth.
When I was in 4th grade, there were 5 Jennifer's in my class. We had a "Jenn" "Jenny" "Jennifer hyphenated last name" and "Jennifer" I got screwed and was forced to be "Jenna" because alphabetically, I was last. My last name began with an 'H.'
Annoying.
3/12 150mg Clomid + B2B IUI =BFP!! TWINS!
Vanishing twin at week 6
Tater-tot born January 3rd 2013
2 IUI's in 2016- BFN
3 IUI's in 2017- BFN
8/17 IUI BFP!!!!!!!!
i have loved you for a thousand years
i'll love you for a thousand more
Liam Edward || 12/12/12 || 7lbs7oz
I 100% completely agree and DH is the same way. We don't even like names that sound similar to names of people we already know. I just don't want to look at my baby and say its name and think of someone else.Or have someone say "oh thats like blah blahs name'"
However, Elizabeth is the name we are going with for a girl and I fully plan on calling her Elli lol It is actually my middle name though, and since when I look at my kid I will think of me, it makes sense lol
Can I borrow you after that?
This! Exactly! I'm also a Jennifer H. I don't remember how we decided on nicknames, but one year I was "Jenny". It was also the year Forrest Gump came out/ really popular. I despised the name at that point. People thought it was funny to do the whole "peas and carrots" bit. Ugh! Now I just go by Jen for the most part. Ive always said I would not name my child with a common name like that, because I want them to feel unique, not a part Of a group where the teacher may never figure out who they really are.
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First of all, I feel really old after reading some of those posts lol.
Second, being a Jennifer from the late 70's was VERY annoying and I encourage OP to stick to her guns!
Third, I couldn't give two craps what anyone has to say about names I pick. If you don't like it, keep your trap shut.
Fourth, I want to hear more about OPs writings!
Good read, ladies. Good read.
Oh how I LOVE that people think that just because your LO hasn't been born yet, that they can convince you to change their name.
We have our girl & boy names all picked out, & my mom hates the girl name. She won't shut up about it, even after I have said repeatedly "If this is a girl, that will be your granddaughters name. Telling me you don't like it doesn't change anything."
Stick to your guns, name YOUR baby whatever YOU want!
I agree with pps. I was adament that we would not use a family name. There really weren't any that I liked and it is just too political in my family. Our son has a first and middle name that doesn't come from either family and we don't know anyone by either name. One thing that I noticed is that when you tell people "Our boy name is or our girl name is..." we didn't get negative feedback. Whereas, with friends when they said, "We are thinking about..." they got negative feedback.
Good luck!
I am also a Jennifer, grew up in the 80s...forever known as "Jenny" even though I am almost 30 now. ugh.
We have a very common last name, so we pretty much have to pick unique names for our kids. Thank God our family understands and hasn't given us any grief about names at all.
Ah! I second this. Share?
We are considering Olivia if this LO is a girl. In which case she would have ton of other Olivias in her class. But as one of the few names SO and I agree on, she may end up one of many Olivias. I would feel bad, but at the same time I would feel worse if we chose a name for her that either SO or I hated. I also love the name Olive and it would be a 'better' alternative to Olivia as far as popularity, unfortunately the middle name is set in stone, and Olive Lynn just doesn't sound right.
Bottom line - it's your kid - YOU and your SO get finally say on the name. And actually YOU get the final say - I was the one who filled out the paperwork to officially name DS.
Yes, I totally became a Jenni. It was really annoying. I'm 30 and I still get called Jenni, and I hear "867-5309" ALL THE TIME, or "I love you Jenn-ay!" from forest gump... it never gets old...
About my writing..
Nope, not published quite yet. There are a couple of projects in the making and several that have been abandoned over the past few years. I'm "hoping" to have the one I'm working on now finished by the time baby is 2. We'll see how it goes
My husband's brother (and his wife) didn't find out the gender and also did not reveal any names. It was a huge surprise for all of us when Leila was born! I, however, am control freak and will not be able to wait until December to find out what I am having. I may try to keep names a secret, though.
As an "Ashley" I also had the same issues as all you Jennifers. There were times I had to be Ashley DE both at school then at my after-school job because there were 2 Ashley Ds.
And to the person who likes Olivia - I LOVE that name, Can't convince the hubby, tho!