Please & Thank You

rosiemomma

How do you go about 'requiring' them, and other polite words? 

For example when my daughter asked for water she didn't whine or scream she simply said "I want some water" so should I tell her "Ask nicely/Say please" ? (btw I did and she said it)  I do want her to be polite and she does say please and thank you randomly without needing to be told. I don't want to hover over every situation and tell her "Say please/thank you"... what do you do in these situations?

Thanks! 

tokenhoser

I think the most important thing is to model the behaviour - between DH and you, between the two of you and her.

From what I've seen in my nieces/nephews, please comes easier than thank you (or no, thank you). I know my sister was working on whole phrases (Yes, please and No, Thanks) rather than just tacking a Please on at the end when she would correct. Her kids are older, though (5 and 8).

3003girl

We just model behavior at this point. She does say "kank ko" when she asks for things and also when we give her things. so cute. 

she also says "bless you" anytime anyone sneezes, totally unprompted.  

 

kcisthebombdotcom

It's to the point when DS asks for something without please, I say "what do we say" and he says please. I require please for everything. Thank you I encourage but don't always require.

He also says them randomly as well but I push it quite a bit. I'm big with manners.

pepomntpat

DD has seemed to pick up on this from watching me. I say please and thank you, so she does. She definitely has thank you down. Please, not so much...but we are getting there.

mandyjn16

solidio:

We just model behavior at this point. She does say "kank ko" when she asks for things and also when we give her things. so cute. 

she also says "bless you" anytime anyone sneezes, totally unprompted.  

 

DS did that too when he was younger. It was so cute! One night while I was nursing him, I sneezed. Out of the darkness came a little "bless you." My heart just melted! 

FancyFrenchie

We use the "what do you say?" and I get the "pees mama" and then "kank u" though sometimes he'll say "wecome" instead.

 

When we sneeze he says "achoom"

terri_doula2010

We keep it sweet and try not to be pushy or make a big deal about it. Our son says thank you on his own sometimes and we always respond with an enthusiastic, "You're welcome!"

Please is harder for him...he generally still says, "Ssss ssss ssss" for please and so when he said, "Eric water?" We suggest he says, "Eric water please?" and then he only says, "sssss ssss." 

I figure it will all come in time. They are still trying to figure out language and social situations at 2. DH's cousins's son is 3.5 and is great at please and thank you. We'll get there.