P had her first appt with the regular psychologist this morning, who seemed kinda clueless on how to help us get her to let us cath. (She used to be a social worker at a spina bifida clinic so that's pretty good). She just basically said that it's not rocket science why she won't let us, she just doesn't want too.
Our first pre-school visit was this evening. We go back late June for our eval meeting. Apparently our county doesn't embrace the same definition of developmental delay as the state does.
"Developmental delay" means a disability affecting a child ages two by September 30 through six, inclusive: (34 CFR 300.8(b);[ 34 CFR 300.306(b)])
Local school divisions determine the criteria for being found eligibile for services under the developmental delay category.
Which sucks. We should be able to qualify because of an OHI problem is..they think P is already cathing. And I didn't exactly correct them, because technically she will be by September and I didn't want to miss our window of opportunity for getting this to work.
The other problem is they said all of their 2 year olds are non verbal and P is not..so they don't want her in the 2s class. I guess it's not just as easy as switching her to 3s because of her bday (Nov 7th)..The 3s and 4s have neuro-typical peer models SO we can always fall back on that. They could suggest P to be a peer model (which was kinda weird to hear..) and that would get us in the preschool as well. It would only be 2 days/week but i'm OK with that.
So basically now we wait, and the eligibility meeting is going to involve a lot of people and a lot of arguing and trying to get us in. Should be super fun..not.
I really didn't know that P wasn't a 'cognitively typical' 2 1/2 year old. (She started talking at 20 months..) In the last month I had 3 medical professionals who had never met her before ask me what age I thought she was functioning at. I had no clue. One lady said she would have to do a formal eval but not 2 1/2, the psychologist said closer to 5 some people at the spina bifida clinic at VCU said 4-5 and the teachers today said 5.
I don't think she's a genius by far, I would have never even said she was advanced because I had nothing to compare it too. The shrink said the fact that she is a little advanced cognitively is going to either help or hinder medical aspects of her life and I guess so far..it's hindering because she can't control the emotion that comes with understanding that she does need to do something.
ETA: I am in no way trying to be all "omg look at my super smart child!" I guess it's just nice to hear she's advanced in something every once in a while. We were told from the beginning they didn't know exactly how her stroke would affect her brain function and it would kind of just be a wait and see. And i'm well aware that just bc she's a little advanced now doesn't mean in 3 years she won't be on the same level or start to fall behind. We have pushed her very very very hard, i'll be the first to say sometimes I feel like I pushed her TOO hard. The hours..and hours on end that I made her walk after they told me she may not be able to walk. I know it's paying off but i still have a little bit of guilt over it. So I guess this is my AW for the month, because I don't usually AW anything with the girls. Again, I do not want to offend anyone, because medically she is struggling.