CPW - Adoption

GraceInCA

A family member comes to you and says that a co-worker's teenage daughter is going to give birth any day now. Baby's dad has run off and has no interest in the child, and is willing to relinquish all legal rights. Teenage mom wants to go to college, and isn't interested in parenting. They would like to know if you want to adopt. They want to place the child at birth. Would you do it?[Poll]

AngnShaun

in a heartbeat

HopingforChange

Yes! As fast as anything.  I don't care if my kids are bio or not, as long as they're mine in the ways that matter.  And, I wish I could experience a healthy, relaxed pregnancy, but even if I am ever PGAL, that dream is over for me.  Naivete has no place in my TTCAL brain, so, unequivocally yes.

Elle jM

I'm some where in between in a heartbeat, and would have to meet her.   I can't really think of a situation where I would say no. 

figgs0831

Unless this girl was a known drug addict or alcohol abuser... I would accept with no questions asked.  If she was indeed a crack whore, I would need to do some research, ask to see her pregnancy records, get a medical opinion on what could be wrong with the baby and possible "withdrawel" issues.  My husband and I would need to have a big heart to heart.

ct103

I would love it if this happened. I know it's not an easy process, but I would be more than willing.

beachbum4304

Absolutely! I was adopted at birth and it's definitely something dh and I want to do. We would love a mixture of bio kids and adopted kids. We will see what God has in store for us.

AngnShaun

figgs0831:

  If she was indeed a crack whore

 

lol sorry but this is making me laugh

funny bunny

I seem to be a minority, but I really want my own biological kids.

I have not been exposed to adoption much, and I feel that I may feel like I missed something if I never had my own biological kids. 

KacyChicago

We plan on having one biological child, and adopting another.

I don't care what order they come in!

Allycat11

beachbum4304:

Absolutely! I was adopted at birth and it's definitely something dh and I want to do. We would love a mixture of bio kids and adopted kids. We will see what God has in store for us.

I was also adopted as an infant so I definitely have a soft spot for adoption.  I still want to biologically have children, but if someone offered me a baby right now, I  would absolutely consider it.   

GatorBaby2012

I've seen this plot in too many tv shows to know that it could end badly.

Atleighdan

My youngest brother is adopted. My mom took care of him when he was in the hospital (he was a premie). We brought him home when he was 9 months old, though, as a foster child first. Then mom gave up all rights and we adopted when he was 2. I would love to adopt at some point.

GraceInCA

Bethelgal42:

This actually just happened to my mother-in-law.  She is a retired high school teacher and she was approached by one of her former students whose little sister was 17 and pregnant with her second child, no father that I can gather for either one.  Well, my mother-in-law is in the adoption process for said baby who was born in early December.

I know two different people who were adopted this way. One was a classmate of mine growing up. His bio mother was fresh out of high school, and his adoptive mother was one of bio mom's former teachers. She was never able to conceive. It worked out beautifully. The other person is still young (I think he's 4 or 5), and was adopted when his bio mom's dad (bio grandpa I guess?) told adoptive dad at work that his daughter was about to give birth. Adoptive mom & dad had a child, but were dealing with many years of secondary IF. That situation seemed to work out well also. It's the scenario on which I based the CPW question.

I also volunteer for an organization that does pro bono work for fost-adopt cases, and it's amazing how many people do fost-adopt here in CA. It's definitely something we'll be doing in the future. LA County has a lot of kids in foster care though, and the majority are eligible for adoption (plus tons of infants and newborns), so it's probably not as easy in other parts of the country.

delino

funny bunny:

I seem to be a minority, but I really want my own biological kids.

I have not been exposed to adoption much, and I feel that I may feel like I missed something if I never had my own biological kids. 

 I am in the same boat.  If we don't have biological children, we will most likely live child free.  But who knows...this could change if things don't go as planned.  I guess I just can't plan for this not working.

foxxy1

We'll have to get our ducks in a row but we'll do it.

Laurakat81

In a heartbeat.

jinxycat24

Absolutely! 

figgs0831

AngnShaun:

figgs0831:

  If she was indeed a crack whore

 

lol sorry but this is making me laugh

DebateThis

I would be on the phone with my attorney and getting my ducks in a row so fast your head would spin.

DH's dad and DH's two sisters were adopted so it's always been on our hearts to continue the family tradition.

Mash67

If it was for sure that we couldnt ever have children of our own then yes! 

baby101010

I would certainly need to know the mother's history regarding alcohol, smoking, drug use, diet, etc ( prior to and during pregnancy) before I made any decisions.... But I would definitely consider it.....