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December 2012 Moms
PeonyPumps
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I'm so thankful, but ridiculously shocked as well
PeonyPumps
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So we're not out of this. I know I bowed out in the middle of this week because at my ultrasound on Tuesday, the Ob told me that this was not going to be a typical pregnancy. He said that this would not be a pregnancy that resulted in a baby. He told me to go home and wait to miscarry on my own, that he didn't want to do a D&C yet, because he doesn't typically do those before 8 weeks, but they said sorry for my loss, gave me a miscarriage pamphlet, gave me pills to take if the bleeding was too much, like scary too much, to help my uterus contract and pass the baby.
So we went home. And waited. And nothing happened. I still felt pregnant, I get VERY pukey every single morning. I wasn't bleeding. I wasn't cramping. And I wanted a second opinion. So, I contacted my primary care doctor and got my blood drawn again. My numbers last week Monday were 1500. Last week Friday they were 7,000. Yesterday they came back to be around 30,000. So, I requested though my PCP a second opinion ultrasound, and thank god I did.
I went yesterday, on my own because DS was sleeping and I didn't want to wake him so H stayed home with him. I went to a free standing diagnostic center where the techs are certified in ob ultrasounds and their reports are reviewed by a radiologist after, not just the Ob looking at them. I was really scared, because at the last ultrasound, my Ob said that the gestational sac was way too big, measuring at 9 weeks, and there was nothing in it, which is why he told me to go home and wait (I was only 5w4d at the time, by my estimations).
Well, two days later, I sat there sobbing and shaking because they not only saw a 6 week gestational sac, they saw a 5w6d baby, with a heartbeat and a heart rate of 100 bpm. Thank god. So, after beginning to grieve the loss of my child, we get a second chance.
They also saw a large dark area in the gestational sac near the baby, which the tech did not comment on, but the Ob asked me to call him after the ultrasound (because my PCP kind of ratted me out that I was getting a second opinion by calling him) and he guessed that it could be a twin being reabsorbed? Anyway, I was hoping to get the full results on that today, but they called late in the day and said they wouldn't have the radiologist's report until Monday.
Either way, there is a baby, with a heartbeat, inside of me right now. That gorgeous, beautiful child I had wished and hoped for for so long is still alive and kicking in there. I am trying to focus on the positive and be so happy for this child, and not be angry or upset at the Ob, I realize we are all human and make mistakes, this was just a big one on his part. But I am again trying to just be happy and love this child who I'm praying WILL make it into my arms.
So, if you ladies will have me, I'm back 
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Re: I'm so thankful, but ridiculously shocked as well
DD1 EDD 08/18/01, born 08/03/2001 ~ 9lbs 10oz, 21.5 in
DS1 EDD 4/30/2004, born 05/04/2004 ~ 10lbs, 22 in
mc 02/14/12 @ 5 weeks
DD2 EDD 12/25/12, born 12/30/12 ~ 10lbs 11oz, 21.25 in
mc 12/05/15 @ 12 weeks
Cautiously expecting 12/02/16
Wow! Such great news!!! Although, I am very upset for you on how your first OB acted. That is so awesome that you went and got a second opinion. So glad to have you back!
I am so happy for you. This is truly a blessing. I'm at a loss for words!
If I were you, I would switch OBs. That was a terrible assumption he made and for me, an unforgivable and insensitive one. I just wouldn't risk it again. Just my two cents.
H&H 9 months!!! You have an amazing story to tell your LO one day!!
~Big Sister (3) and Big Brother (5)~
I agree. Having to know you are going to lose your baby and then gain hope again has been the hardest trial of my life thusfar. I just kept thinking over and over about my perfect, perfect son, and everything I would have missed had I not been able to have him, and then I just kept thinking about this baby and how much I would never know I was even missing because I would never get to meet him/her. Then I kept thinking about god and heaven and what I believe, and honestly, this experience has changed a few of my thoughts and beliefs. I guess I went about the second opinion because I kept thinking to myself, if someone told me my child were going to pass (god forbid) in a week, I would get as many opinions as I needed to make sure I was making the best choices for him, so I thought, this child hasn't been birthed yet, but why would they be any different? It is still my child.
As for my Ob, I am very conflicted. We were thinking about going with a midwife anyway this time around, but this was the Ob that delivered my son. He took good care of me and my pregnancy/child last time around. But mismeasuring the sac by 3 weeks and determining it a loss because of no fetal pole before 6 weeks does scare me, especially after reading everything I have in the last few days. We haven't decided where we're going from here as of yet.
Expecting #2 6.28.14
This! Congrats!
BFP#1 on 02/14/09 BIRTH to Mason 6lb9oz on 10/12/09
BFP#2 on 5/28/11 EDD 2/1/12 Natural M/C on 6/13/11
BFP#3 on 1/20/12 EDD 9/30/12 Natural m/c on 1/27/12
BFP#4 on 4/23/12 BIRTH to Isabella 7lb1oz on 12/19/12
Yay! What a happy story! So glad you got your second opinion and you have such happy news for us!
And we'll take you back - of course!
This makes me OVER THE MOON happy. I love you, and I was so sad when you left.
::dances around Peony and throws buckets of sticky baby dust on and around her::
BFP Apr 2012, EDD Dec 19 2012 * twin h/b at 6wk, 9wk scan * Baby A lost at 12wks
Baby B was my rainbow born at 36wks on Nov 27 2012