I said "no" for the first time today :(

blessedhope

I get asked pretty often if I have any children and I have never up until today been able to say no. I usually quickly say I have one in heaven or I lost a little boy. Today I was getting my eyebrows waxed and the woman asked me if I had any children. I paused for a minute before saying, "no, not yet." It broke my heart that I said no but I told my baby in my heart that i had not forgotten him.

When was the first time you said no to the question "do you have any children" or do you still tell about your LO? 

pb127

((hugs)) it's hard when it's in that type of situation... when i said no recently, it was to our insurance lady and then i realized i'd be dealing with her often, so i made DH go back and tell her when they met after that. i'm awkward like that

weddedwife

I've said it a bunch of times. It's usually just me chickening out and not wanting to make the moment awkward. Instead it's me that ends up feeling awful. But sometimes, I just don't want to deal with it. Every time I've said that I have a son who died all conversation stops. I feel awful either way.

medblais

I said no for the first time last week. I was walking into my yoga class and some random guy was hitting on me. It was flattering, and I casually dropped in DH to basically let the guy know there was no chance, when he asked if I had any kids. It just popped out of my mouth "no." Every other time I will say yes and leave it at that, or "I had one." I feel like if people notice or care enough to ask about the had, I can say more. It shocked me that I said no, but looking back, my baby girl is none of a random stranger's business, and I'm glad I answered the way I did. The fact that I said no made me sad though- I don't think many situations will come up when I will say no again.