Anyone not waiting until 12 weeks to be "out"?

beckib353

DH is chomping at the bit to share our news.  He is just excited, but I don't think I'm ready to tell everyone just yet.  Our first appointment is Thursday so we may tell a few friends (our family knows already) assuming all goes well, but I'm not sure if I want EVERYONE to know.  You know, just in case... DH said it's up to me and will wait, of course.  Maybe we'll compromise at 10 weeks?  What are you ladies doing?

rocky_star

We've told my parents, and are going to tell H's parents soon. Other than that, I'm waiting until 12-13 weeks after my next ultrasound to tell everyone else.

tay118

while we were TTC I was adamant that we were going to wait the 12 weeks to tell even our families, but now that the BPF has arrived we have already told some family members, I am currently 5 weeks. And We plan to tell everyone else at about 10 weeks at a cookout that everyone would be at.

Gomezmom530

My five year old son outed me at his birthday party last month. I was like four or five weeks at the time...ugh, and my gramma was there and she looked so hopeful so I didnt lie...I told them that I wanted to wait to tell everybody but my MIL posted it on FB as soon as she got home...that in itself is a completely different story lol Hubby just laughed about it and said to me "with the way you talk, it was bound to get out before much longer lol" I know some people were like omg why did you tell people so soon, we waited til we were twelve weeks and had an ultrasound in our hand. In my honest opinion, its no ones business when I tell and who I tell...unfortunately, I wasnt the one who got to tell people thanks to my "amazing" MIL (we have an ugly history to begin with) if YOU want to tell people, go for it! Its your news, share how you want to

letsgox

We have told our parents (didn't want to until 10 weeks but had to because of a m/c scare and DH going out of town... we needed their support). I also had to tell my manager and 3 co-workers due to potential chemical exposure at my job.

We have decided to wait a couple more weeks to tell our family members and my best friends. After that I think people will find out whenever word gets back to them (as far as aquaintances). DH doesn't have a facebook account and I don't plan on making any sort of announcement on there anyway.

BUT we are looking forward to telling the rest of our family probably on Mother's Day. I'll be 9 weeks then.

PittPurple

After last time I swore I wouldn't tell anyone. Well, I have, but only really close family and friends. I don't feel very secure with this pregnancy so we aren't sharing with anyone else for a while yet.

LLK122207

With DS #1 we waited the 12 weeks.... with pregnancy #2 we shared around 6 1/2 weeks to our entire extended family and then that ended in a MC. I wouldn't change telling people it was amazing to see their excitement. I also got kind words later on. I was expecting them to act differently around us and they didn't so I was happy about that. This go around we're waiting until Mother's day to tell our parents (after 2nd u/s) more bc we're having twins and we don't want to jump the gun. I would tell whoever you want just as long as you feel they would be supportive if (and I pray you don't get put in this situation) something were to go wrong. HTH!

NoeliaV

We told our families and a few close friends after our 8 week appt. I'm still waiting until at least 12 weeks to tell work. It may be 13 or 14 weeks, depending...

After I tell work, then we'll tell the rest of our friends and announce on FB.

kbow213

We are telling our parents and my brother at almost 8 weeks (on Mother's Day) and I have only told one friend (today). I am probably going to tell other close friends and aunts/uncles/cousins not long after 8 weeks. I won't tell my boss til after 12 weeks. 

KikiCohen

We told my best friend like two days after I got my BFP.  We told our families and a few close friends at 5 weeks and announced on FB after my first u/s at 8 weeks.

choppinbroccoli22

We told our parents and a few close friends. Our parents then told a few people that we know and encounter, before we reminded them that they aren't supposed to share this news with whomever they want to yet.

I just want to hear the heart beat before we tell. We aren't having an u/s until 18 weeks, so whenever I can get heart beat confirmation, I'll be ready to tell, I think.

CMor1

We haven't decided yet.  We'll probably tell our parents after my first appt. next week if I get an ultrasound and we see the baby.  I'll see my whole family on Memorial Day weekend, and I'll be about 9 weeks at that point, so we may tell my siblings then.  Friends, we will wait until at least 12-16 weeks.

MamaJovie

We're telling our parents and best friends this week.

After my first u/s at 9 weeks, we'll start telling more friends.

Hopefully, we'll keep it off facebook until 2nd tri. 

cll915

choppinbroccoli22:

We told our parents and a few close friends. Our parents then told a few people that we know and encounter, before we reminded them that they aren't supposed to share this news with whomever they want to yet.

I just want to hear the heart beat before we tell. We aren't having an u/s until 18 weeks, so whenever I can get heart beat confirmation, I'll be ready to tell, I think.

 

I agree with the heartbeat. We told our parents and my sisters last week. We will tell DH's sisters when we are all together and everyone else is going to wait until we can get DH's sisters together which could be mother's day, but may not be until fathers day. 

kelkiss

Haven't told anyone yet. Want to tell the in-laws in person which probably won't happen until Father's day at this point. I will tell my brother around the same time. Then everyone else.  I won't post much on Facebook. After struggling with infertility and hating seeing those updates I don't want to do the same thing to my friends who are still struggling 

Cellis

We told my family and DH's family. I'm waiting till 12 weeks to tell anyone else. 

Twinsfan555

Only our parents know and a few close friends that live out here with us. (All our family is back in the Midwest). Other than that we are waiting to tell everyone else at 12 weeks. I am visiting my parents next week and will probably tell my siblings then.

getitdone

We are out pretty much. DH couldn't keep it in. It isn't on Facebook yet because I have coworkers on there and I am not telling work yet. Other than that - everyone knows.

JTink0609

Family and close friends know now, H and I were just talking about not waiting until 12 weeks to "come out" on facebook. We got out ultrasound yesterday so I think thats making it more real for both of us and we just want to share. Haven't done it yet but it will probably be sooner rather than later.

Ladylec

We told our parents and siblings immediately and I told my side of the family over the weekend and we will be telling DHs extended family on Mother's Day when I will be 10 weeks. Haven't talked about when/how to tell our friends. Probably will just tell them next time we see them after Mother's Day, but it will be before 12 weeks.

jquirke9881

We wiated until 12 weeks with DD.  This time we told our families after our ultrasound last week.  News of twins is too exciting not to share.    I am not telling "the world" or work until after my NT scan on 05/22.

+Jasha+

Only you and your H can decide when it's the right time to tell people.  With DS we told super early (I got the BFP on Monday and we announced on Thursday (Thanksgiving) we were about 4-5 weeks along at that point).  With this one we held off for a bit longer (but not much!)   We told our parents at 6 weeks, and the news is slowly spreading from there.  SO works with a girl who just had a m/c and I think he was nervous from that and didn't want to tell right away.  I was busting at the seams not telling my mom.  If something were to go wrong I would want/need her support, and I would feel guilty asking for her support and then telling her about the pregnancy.  But that's just me. 
And FB won't hear about it until after the a/s. 

skipygrl16

Our parents know. My SIL knows. My coworkers know.

DH told his 2 good friends on Saturday night at a wedding, and I had told their wives the previous weekend because I wasn't drinking and they  called me out. Beyond that those are all people I/we are very close with and We will wait till 12 weeks with everyone else.

Although I really want to take my neighbor a May-day basket from "baby B" because she's been a great friend to me and we've known eachother for years but I need to talk to DH first.

MrsT1108

We don't have very many people to tell anyway, so we have already told everyone.

alliejo725

We've already told our families (they were all together for Easter, so we actually told them very early). I told my closest friends as soon as I found out. We're close to our families and it's not like I would hide any complications/m/c from them.

I work at a hospital, so I've started to tell my coworkers, just so that they understand why I don't want to handle certain things (I'm not a nurse/CNA, but I get asked to help with lifting, etc. now and then).

I won't put anything on FB until after 12 weeks. Maybe even later than that.

Amitchell0626

Everyone knew at 4 weeks. I don't see the point in waiting. If something happens it's nothing to hide, it happens. I would want all the support I can get.

LadyNikon

I put the sonogram on Facebook. I was so excited.  I am acting as,if this pregnancy will go fine.  My mouth is too big.

pugmom11

We have close friends that know, two couples we're really close with and who knew we were trying (they are too), my two BFFs also know. 

We're telling our parents after the first appt (hopefully), which is on Monday.

ckkgb2001

We've told everyone!!!

angibr

We had an u/s at 6 weeks and were able to hear the hearbeat so we have told immediate family and a few close friends. We will be coming out to extended family and other friends over the next few weeks. Our DD graduates HS on May 26 and then we have 3 family weddings all in June so we want to be out and not accidentally come out on one of these occasions. We won't put anything on FB until after our NT scan on May 25th, so will wait until after DD graduation for that.

We had a loss in Feb and I think it was harder not having people know and having to explain to close friends and family at the time that we had been pregnant and lost the baby. The loss happened on my birthday and we had several get togethers planned for that night and that weekend that I had to cancel so felt I owed everyone an explanation.

oklaracegirl66

I got my BFP last Monday, told my boss that day. She's very understanding and we are pretty close. Plus, I needed her to know that I would be needing off work to go to the dr. We told my in-laws that night as well. We live with them, so it just seemed natural. I ended up telling my parents two days later, and news spreads like wildfire in my family. Once I told my sister, the first thing she did was announce it on Facebook. I really wasn't ready for that just yet, but went ahead and put out my own post the next day since she had tagged me in the post and all of my friends were able to see it. Thought it was a little better coming from me. I am still super nervous about all of it. This is my first pregnancy. My family is extremely excited for me and my husband.

KatyDidlettes

We are trying to wait 12 weeks to tell my work, but I have been getting morning sickness (not in the morning!) haven't puked yet, but I am guessing in the next few days if this keeps up. If I puke at work, I will tell. We already told our parents and siblings- and I am telling my extended family in 2 weeks (we are all going to the UK for my Gran's 90th birthday and I know it would make her so happy to know). I told 2 friends (not local) because I live in a small town and I dont want my bosses to hear through the grapevine- but we might tell a few more people once I get back from the trip.

hols0326

We told our immediate families about a week after we found out. We waited until after our first appointment to tell everyone else. I haven't broadcast it everywhere, but if someone at work or something happens to ask me I'm not going to lie.

It's totally a personal choice, and I can understand why some people wait until the 2nd tri. I just couldn't keep it in, and hoped that maybe the more people that knew (friends and extended family), the more positive vibes are thrown our way and that couldn't hurt.

lau1021

I told my mom & sister right away, in case I had any issues with this pg, I wanted their support. We waited until the 1st u/s & heard the heartbeat (yesterday) to tell both our families. I told my MIL & FIL in person. My dad already knew bc my mom blabbed to him weeks ago. I posted on FB just visable to our close family members a picture of the u/s. I will tell the rest of the world after the 12 week appointment.

ClarissaExplainsItAll

My stupid whore of a sister told FI's family before we were ready. I'm not pleased. 

SummerOH

I'm waiting until it's no longer possible to disguise it.  I'm surrounded by a lot of people who will constantly pepper me with questions and try to rub or pat my tummy.  I know it's out of concern and caring but it gets old after awhile.  The longer I can go without having to answer tons of questions, the better!  It's kind of nice to have it just between me, my husband, and our parents (well, our parents in a couple of weeks).  It seems more intimate and special that way.  I'm a pretty private person, though.

StefandTodd

With our first, we told our family and friends after our u/s at 8 weeks.

This time, we had an u/s at 6 weeks (b/c I didn't know how far along I was), saw a hb and all, so we started telling family and friends right away then too.

With our first, I waited until after the NT scan at 12 weeks to tell work.  This time, I'd really like to wait until 16-20 weeks to tell work...but I am thinking it's going to be obvious sooner than later this time too, so I don't know

mijakach

We told our parents and sisters after we saw the heartbeat. I wanted to give them a chance to be excited about this pregnancy since they only heard the bad news after the first two.

I had to tell my boss early on because my doctor has me coming in for appointment often.

We'll most likely have to tell our friends that we're going to Disney World with next week because there is no way I can make up an excuse everytime I skip the big rides.

Everyone else we plan on waiting a long time to tell. I don't think we'll be saying anything on FB.

rmaxim

We didn't the first time around, just waited till the first appointment. However this time I think I will be more patient. I'm planning to tell family and close friends after my first appointment (today), and coworkers etc at 12 weeks. 

ashlierw

we told EVERYONE already. and even announced it on FB a couple days after we found out. I cant hold something like that in for very long! lol 

jen.vaughn81

It is really up to what you both decide. We waiting until exactly 12 weeks to let everyone know. posted on facebook even. Then the very next day we had a dr appointment and found out that the baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks. I m/c the next week.

 This time around, only our parents and siblings know and i don't think we'll be spreading the news until our 12 weeks is truly confirmed.