I am so damn annoyed with my husband right now. He threw a tantrum this morning because he had asked me if he could go golfing after I was up all night with our 8 month old and got no sleep. I said to him I would really appreciate it if you got up and helped me with him because I am so tired.
He got up went to the bathroom and when he came out he stomped his feet and said like a 5 year old FINE IM SLEEPING UNTIL 11 THEN.
I wanted to knock his ass out.
I told him get out of here and go golf ya big baby. Sorry I needed to vent. He normally helps me every morning when he doesnt have meetings so excuse me for wanting to lay down and sleep for a few minutes. Anyone else experience this? I stay home except for 7 hours a week I run my gymnastics business. I love my little breaks in the morning and that is the only time I can catch up on sleep.
Why don't guys get this? BLAH. I am done now.
Re: Husband throws a tantrum...
completely agree.
I find that if I want a break in the morning we have to plan ahead for it. My husband does not roll with the punches as well as I do. If I have a rough night with the kids but he has plans in the morning then that's just the way it is. However, if I'm feeling particularly run down and need a sleep in morning I'll tell him ahead of time (like a few days) that I need a break and I will be sleeping in on Sunday. That way he knows it's coming and is better able to handle it.
I also frequently counter his requests to go do something fun by himself with my own. Example: "Can I go play golf today?" "Sure honey, can I go out for coffee tomorrow morning with my friend?" It works well. We both need breaks every now and then, this keeps it pretty fair.
Oh, husbands..
This is our almost nightly routine (b/c he insists on feeding our dog leftovers and crap even though it makes him sick):
2:00am (we've agreed that since he never gets up with DD, he takes care of the dog)
ME: "Hon, the dog's whining and needs to go out."
Proceed to have to go to ridiculous lengths to wake him up, thus completely getting me wide awake in the process.
DH: "Ok, ok, I'm going"
DH falls asleep again. I'm afraid the dog is going to poo all over the house for me to clean up in the morning.
ME: "Zach? The dog-"
DH: "I HEARD YOU!!! I SAID I WAS GOING!!!!!!"
And then he gets up in this huge huff and makes a big deal about it all, sighing and stomping around. It's SO annoying! Gah.
This is a good point. I don't understand why he wouldn't help you out during the middle of the night? He sounds like a baby. My husband never pulls sh!t like this
THIS. You're not his mommy. You can't ground him just because you're crabby.
And I'm curious if this is going to be your only kid? You may be up all night, but you still have to be able to function. It's a terrible part of the job, and not one that is fully known until you become a parent.
Complaining about your husband on the bump rarely goes well :-/
Cam 6.6.10 - Autism, Global Developmental Delay, Mixed Receptive/Expressive Communication Disorder
Exactly. Though I was up at 8 since DH was OOT. I love to sleep in.
I agree with this.
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True.
As long as you don't take to heart all of the comments from people on how their husband would NEVER do that and how you must be a crazy person for marrying someone who does ;-)
Cam 6.6.10 - Autism, Global Developmental Delay, Mixed Receptive/Expressive Communication Disorder
Right, since their husbands never need alone time.
If DS is up too long at night I hand him to DH & go back to bed...I deserve just as much sleep as he does! I have to be able to function during the day to take care of DD & the house/errands/bills etc. just like he needs to function at work.
Although Sundays are his only day off it is our mutual agreement that it is "My" day. He likes to stay home on his day off so he gets to WITH THE KIDS! While sleep in, go to the grocery store, get my nails done, run errands, etc. Unless he has to work on Sunday- like tomorrow...but that is rare & since he will be working 13days straight I technically will be too:)
Got to agree here with those in the camp that the argument that "Men are selfish" is wrong.
People treat you the way you let them treat you.
Men, Women, Kids, everyone.
I don't care which way you couch, it but if you aren't happy with the situation, let him know, period.
Not all men are selfish and immature, but if it makes you feel better about yours, than I understand.
No, assuming all men are selfish and need to be treated like babies is a much better solution.
PS. It isn't hard to voice your opinions when you are married to an adult male.
This was not pre-planned. My husband didnt help me that morning and it made me nuts so I vented.
We have an arrangement that every morning he gets up with my DS and takes him for the first few hours so I can work from home, clean or sleep.
I was upset because of the night I had and he can be quite selfish at times but not always. I love him dearly but he just pissed me off thats all
I vent on the bump because i can.
Thanks for the input though! I love to read what people think and experience whether their men can be selfish or would never do such a thing. He let me sleep for 2 hours today and go shopping because of yesterday. It really is all about the compromise.