What will you do if you never have another?

JMay · April 2012

Do you have a plan if #2 never comes along?

I don't really have a plan... which is why I ask!

notkateanymore · April 2012

Travel a lot, buy a new house but smaller and save some money, lose weight and buy really expensive clothes...that's about it.

WorkinWeezel · April 2012

MH is Mister Postivity and refuses to have this conversation, so I have no idea. I guess we'll be able to go to Disney and things like that, which we may not be able to afford for a looooong time with a second. But who knows.

nelli27 · April 2012

I feel like being in limbo is the hardest part of this process for me. I wish I could visit a psychic who could tell me what to expect! If I knew for sure that we would only have one, I would start trying to spin the positive to myself. More vacations, the ability to remain involved and supportive in DD's life, more financial security.

I think I would be interested in adoption, but DH isn't.

Hnysckl426 · April 2012

Sell our big house, buy a smaller one and a camp. Travel a lot and take DD to Disney every year. I have actually been looking at smaller houses online already.

mamak0328 · April 2012

Not really sure either. DH wants a boat but I want to wait until we know we are finished since we are mostly OOP. Travel more frequently with DD; just pack up and go somewhere for the weekend, since she is older.

I wish I had a magic ball that could see what the future holds for us!

LSzwaya · April 2012

After having a complete mental breakdown, we'd probably just buy an amazing house and travel a ton with DS.

yunk11 · April 2012

If I don't get pregnant by the end of summer I will definitely go back to work. I became a stay at home mom because we planned on having children close together. Oh well.

mrsjami · April 2012

nelli27:
I feel like being in limbo is the hardest part of this process for me. I wish I could visit a psychic who could tell me what to expect! If I knew for sure that we would only have one, I would start trying to spin the positive to myself. More vacations, the ability to remain involved and supportive in DD's life, more financial security.

I think I would be interested in adoption, but DH isn't.

I went to the psychic!!! DH thinks I'm nuts. Honestly, it's going to work out one way or another. We will exhaust all options and if it's not meant to be then at least I know we did everything we could. It's important to me not to have regrets.

nelli27 · April 2012

mrsjami:
nelli27:
I feel like being in limbo is the hardest part of this process for me. I wish I could visit a psychic who could tell me what to expect! If I knew for sure that we would only have one, I would start trying to spin the positive to myself. More vacations, the ability to remain involved and supportive in DD's life, more financial security.

I think I would be interested in adoption, but DH isn't.
I went to the psychic!!! DH thinks I'm nuts. Honestly, it's going to work out one way or another. We will exhaust all options and if it's not meant to be then at least I know we did everything we could. It's important to me not to have regrets.

Did you really?! That's awesome! What did the psychic say?

I wasn't really joking. I would totally go if I knew of one who I thought could be legit. I did it years ago and it was spot on! For example, at the time I wasn't even thinking of kids and the guy said for my first pregnancy I would have a 50% chance of having twins. I thought that was completely bizarre until I heard those exact words years later from our doctor! One twin was given a 50% chance at our first ultrasound (he/she didn't make it). My DH would also think I was insane if I went to one now, but I would love it.

mrsjami · April 2012

She said I would have another healthy boy:) but once she asked me for $200 to continue her 'work' I was disenchanted;)

beachy6 · April 2012

nelli27:
I feel like being in limbo is the hardest part of this process for me. I wish I could visit a psychic who could tell me what to expect! If I knew for sure that we would only have one, I would start trying to spin the positive to myself. More vacations, the ability to remain involved and supportive in DD's life, more financial security.

I think I would be interested in adoption, but DH isn't.

I've been to a psychic too! I did it last week. I just needed to know. DH thinks I'm completely nuts, so I didn't tell him what she said! I loved it! She was also a medium and that was just plain spooky. It was a cool kind of spooky, but she described my grandma and uncle and dog to a T. She would only let me say "ok" or "no" so I couldn't say later that I gave her hints/ideas. She said my grandmother is with me all the time, which I kinda already felt, but I even thought I was nuts! She was amazing! She said we would have a girl and get pregnant this June...which is interesting because our plan was to have May as our break month and back to iui in June...we'll see!

Oh, and if we don't have another...than I want my money back for my psychic reading! And, then I'll take DS to NYC and DC where he wants to go but we can't because we're sinking all of our money into treatments right now.

AprilDrew04 · April 2012

By the end of the year we will either be pregnant or be done ttc and looking into adoption. I have always wanted to adopt just depends on the kind of adoption I would pursue.

If we conceive again I will wait and try to adopt out of foster care. If we don't conceive again I want to try international adoption and adopt a baby. So, we'll see.