I DD'd the multiple clicky poll

+Jasha+

I've been informed that it was offensive to call 'spontaneous' twins as "natural/spontaneous".  My apologies to those who were offended.

cassoppea

Huh?

gsalyer06

cassoppea:

Huh?

This. 

JenniatONU

gsalyer06:

cassoppea:

Huh?

This. 

The OP asked if our multiples were 'natural.' Another poster and I told her it was offensive, as it basically says those of us who went throught IF  treatments have 'unnatural' kids. I asked her to remove the word 'natural' from her post, and instead she just deleted the whole thing.

ladysingstheblues

I didn't see the poll, but yeah.  I know some MoMs are very sensitive to things like that.  There's nothing "unnatural" about their twins kwim?

I understand it.... I'm picky about the term "natural birth".  I think "med-free" is more appropriate if that's what you're talking about.  I had a vaginal delivery with an epidural and I would still call that natural. 

jquirke9881

I thought everyone was nice about pointing out a better word to use.  I didn't know myself so I was happy to learn.  Maybe I missed something but I didn't see a reason to dd. 

JordanL1221

If you did go through IVF and you are having identical, then it was spontaneous...right? If they are fraternal it's because there was more than one egg that fertilized.

Shoot, my baby was conceived while on the NuvaRing...that's pretty spontaneous and un-natural to me! 

JenniatONU

JordanL1221:

If you did go through IVF and you are having identical, then it was spontaneous...right? If they are fraternal it's because there was more than one egg that fertilized.

Shoot, my baby was conceived while on the NuvaRing...that's pretty spontaneous and un-natural to me! 

While that is  crazy chances (holy cow!) the OP specifically wanted to know about IF treatments. The options  for 'how did you get multiples' were 'natural'/spontaneous or Infertility treatments. 

JordanL1221

JenniatONU:

JordanL1221:

If you did go through IVF and you are having identical, then it was spontaneous...right? If they are fraternal it's because there was more than one egg that fertilized.

Shoot, my baby was conceived while on the NuvaRing...that's pretty spontaneous and un-natural to me! 

While that is  crazy chances (holy cow!) the OP specifically wanted to know about IF treatments. The options  for 'how did you get multiples' were 'natural'/spontaneous or Infertility treatments. 

 

Gotcha! Thanks for the clarification, momma!

TinyTRex321

Hmm I thought I was very nice by saying some moms of multiples would find that term offensive. I would have never really thought about it until my friend who is a mom of twins ranted to me about it. If I say something that another group of people find offensive I would like to know. I didn't mean to cause trouble!

gsalyer06

JenniatONU:

gsalyer06:

cassoppea:

The OP asked if our multiples were 'natural.' Another poster and I told her it was offensive, as it basically says those of us who went throught IF  treatments have 'unnatural' kids. I asked her to remove the word 'natural' from her post, and instead she just deleted the whole thing.

 Thanks for clarifying. I didn't see the poll and thought people were offended by the term "spontaneous".

aussiedaze

I don't understand why someone would be offended by the word natural.  Didn't see the poll but seems weird to be okay with spontaneous but not natural.  I don't think twins can be planned, but they can be the result of the use of meds, or could just result naturally on it's own.  Maybe people shouldn't be so sensitive.

JenniatONU

aussiedaze:

I don't understand why someone would be offended by the word natural.  Didn't see the poll but seems weird to be okay with spontaneous but not natural.  I don't think twins can be planned, but they can be the result of the use of meds, or could just result naturally on it's own.  Maybe people shouldn't be so sensitive.

Really? Thank you for calling my kids unnatural. Why dont you stop being an insensitive asshat.