Ignorance is bliss I suppose (**PG mentioned, not me**)

JennyP0222

So I found out yesterday a friend of mine is expecting her second. I found out because apparently she went public with the information at work and told everyone so I heard through the grapevine. In my head, I assumed she must have been far along to go public. I emailed her to congratulate her and asked her due date. She was not sure of her dates exactly but might be about 6-7 weeks. I was SHOCKED. She went public so early! And then I thought to myself, "It's because she has never suffered a loss."

When trying to come to terms with my own miscarriage I read on a board that having a miscarriage can lead to the loss of innocence of pregnancy. In my head, I would not be running around telling everyone I was pregnant until I was way in the clear and into my second trimester. We all know from our traumas that getting pregnant does not necessarily mean staying pregnant. My friend probably has not even had the thought that her pregnancy might not stick. I absolutely wish her the very best and hope she never does have to start thinking in those terms. But man I miss that ignorance! I just know that any and all future pregnancies I may be graced with will be lacking that innocence (or ignorance) for the entire duration.

 But to make a long story short, I really did think she was kinda crazy for announcing to the world before even having a doctor confirmation or ultrasound! <end rant>

holly_g13

I'll admit, this loss was my first pregnancy and as soon as Dr did b/w to conform, I told EVERYONE. The thought of a m/c NEVER crossed my mind. I was just so excited. We had been ttc for 2yrs. I've definitely learned my lesson. Untelling everyone sucked pretty bad. I honestly think its still gonna be hard for me to keep my pg to myself when/if it happens again. But I'm sure I'll wait more then 4 days after my BFP. LOL. I just wish this was not something we had to worry about.

braelyn26

i know just what you mean. My last preg was my 3rd and my 1st and 2nd were great and easy and i literally told everyone the day we found out. Didn't ever imagine anything would happen and announce at my daughter's party in her card we were expecting and told the whole family only to miscarry 2 days later. It will def be hard not to tell right away like usual if we are lucky enough to get pregnant again!

dtowngirl

My cousin's wife told us as soon as she missed her period. I was at around 7 weeks at the time and didn't tell her anything. Thankfully everything has gone great for her. 

mhubbar5

It never even crossed my mind with my first pregnancy that I might be telling too soon. We told everyone at like 6 weeks. With my last pregnancy, we decided to wait. Good thing, because it totally sucked to have to untell the two people thatI did tell. I can't even imagine having to untell EVERYONE i knew. How painful that would be..... but your right ignorance is bliss.