When are you/will you leave LO alone?

biblionerd

With DS I had to run to walmart to grab formula while my mom watched him at 2 or 3 weeks and was a wreck leaving him. We went out for our first date night at 8 weeks and people acted like we were horrible parents, but we were ready and felt great. I don't know if it's because I'm a second timer and feel more comfortable or if it's because I'm a second timer and just want OUT OF THE HOUSE ALONE, but I feel ready to leave her now for a few hours. I feel bad for some reason because I didn't want to leave DS this early and think I'd be ok with her. DS was super fussy though and had a milk allergy and reflux that we were trying to work through. She just eats and sleeps and hangs out awake but usually content. I've also gotten super close with the inlaws though since they have been watching DS so maybe that's part of it. So when do you think you'll be ready to leave them with someone and for how long?

eav2c

I've gone to the store twice... DH was with LO. DH tends to be incompetent at the store so it was better that I went. I was gone less than an hour and LO slept the whole time. We will probably let the ILs watch LO for a few hours next month dog our anniversary. MIL is basically like the baby whisperer and I trust her more than anyone... But we will see. I might not go through with it.

DevonPow

I have already left DS2 with our sitter a few times. She has been with us since DS1 was 7 months old. Both times thus far have been to take DS1 out on special "dates". Thursday she is coming to watch DS2 while DS1 is in school and I am going to the gym. I am scarily excited about this.

Tambcat

We already left her with my mom and sister to run to BRU. It was okay while we were out, but I think it triggered my anxiety, and I couldn't put her down and was a bundle of nerves the rest of the evening.

PinkPeony6210

DH and I had date night this past Saturday, so his mom watched both girls. It was nice to get out for a while!

FusionLMT

I've left her to go to a drs appt on my own for a few hours. It was fine and much easier to do on my own. I'll be leaving both kids with my mom in the next week or so to go on a date. She offered and I won't pass that up! I've been looking forward to enjoying a night out with sushi and sake for a while.

PinkSapphires

At 2 weeks my MIL babysat so DH and I could get out to dinner. It was great, and DD just slept the entire time we were gone. Then I was so glad to get home to my baby.

vtwd40

The other night I was being a slacker wife and decided we should just do fast food. DH had to finish some grades for school so I ran out to get the food. I was halfway there when I realized that I had never left Ansley before...stressed me out a bit. When she's a month old, my next door neighbors are getting married and we're thinking about going. My MIL has offered to come and watch her. It would be the perfect Mother's Day present is what she said....I may be a basket case.

Ladybug32110

We have already left her three times. We live with my parents right now and my mom is like a baby whisperer so while it was hard and I called to check in a few times it was worth it to have some alone time with DH. If our living situation was different I dont think I would have been able to leave her already but since she just stayed home it was much easier. 

Ximena M

I have left her with DH for a couple of hours the past two Saturdays.  It was the best thing I've done.  Each time Pilar would not let DH put her down.  DH is now very understanding as to why I don't get a thing done when I'm home alone.  I have no idea when I will leave her with someone else, but I think I would like to have a date night with DH sometime soon.

Smurphette

With DS1 my husband and I ran out to Wal-Mart and left him with my mom for 45 minutes or so at a week and a half.  With DS2 we left him with my mom and went on a double date with friends at a week and a half or two weeks.  This time around my mom won't be out to visit until DS3 is a month old (my husband is in the military and we don't live anywhere near family and this little I'd rather not leave him with anyone else) so there's not much chance of him being left before then.  Although if we're counting leaving them with DH (which I don't really) then he's already been left, I went to the store without him the day I came home from the hospital, so he was about 36 hours old.

jesbeth

DD stayed with DH when she was 3 weeks old while I went and did some shopping and got a pedicure. I was gone for a few hours.

Then just this past Saturday, when DD was 5 weeks old, DH and I went out to dinner for our 5 year anniversary and left DD with his parents.

We were all fine both times. 

WildcatPrincess

When DD was 4 weeks we went for drinks and to see Iron Man 2. I didn't want to, but after a couple martinis I enjoyed myself :P I went to Kohl's a couple nights ago by myself and I'm being forced to see The Avengers next weekend (can you tell my husband is a nerd?) However, I'm looking forward to the drinks this time.

katieh1017

I left her with my mom at our house for a run to Cvs and drive thru food on day 3. I was fine with it. If it was anyone besides my Mom it wouldn't have happened. 

Browneyedhunni85

I've left him with DH three times to go to the store. The first two times was at like 3-4 weeks. I seriously needed to get out of the house. The third time was just yesterday. I had lunch with my mom and had some errands to run. I was going to take him out but there was a bad wind advisory and I didn't really want to get him out in it.

dixee.deluxe

Ummm, all the time (with DH).

I'm going out tonight, actually.

I already tried to get overnight baby coverage for when she's 2mo old so DH and I didn't have to miss out on one of our 2 annual camping trips, but my mom said Adeline would be too little.  Barf. 

dam0ne4

I'm a ftm so who knows how this will go, but we're planning on going to a family wedding when she'll be 4-5 weeks. 

vsalt31

I must be a bad mom, b/c I have no anxiety about leaving DS with DH or my parents for an afternoon out. 

dixee.deluxe

vsalt31:

I must be a bad mom, b/c I have no anxiety about leaving DS with DH or my parents for an afternoon out. 

I'm with ya!  

The only bad feeling I have is that DH can't come with me.  We only can't go out at the same time because our only available childcare is his parents and they have DD#1 all day during the week.  So we don't want to be greedy.  

I do know that once I go back to work, my desire to be home will increase.  That's what happened last time.   

lauranicole91

I left her for about 30mins with my parents at 2.5weeks while I ran to the store. And last week I left her with DH while a friend from out of town and I went to get mani pedis (took about 3.5 hours). I did a lot better than I thought I would.  

mumegs

I left her for an hour or two when she was 9 days old, I had to go to the dentist and get a filling. I was fine with it, but since we are EBF I fed her before I left and she was crying to eat by the time I got back. DH doesn't want me taking off again for so long until we get her on a bottle, so I tried pumping for the first time last night. I am ok to leave her but it's hard when I'm the only source of food.

Mrs.Teddy

I've already left her a handful of times. At less then 2 weeks for school, my exam, shopping, dress fittings and today to get my hair done. It was all things I needed to do for the most part I didn't feel guilty tho. I worried a bit and missed her, but maybe her being the 2nd one made it easier. Although we left DS at 2/3 weeks so we could go to dinner.

DiamondDani

I'm EBF and haven't left her alone yet. Although I really want to go to dinner with DH alone. The minute someone offers, I'll jump at the chance for a couple hours baby free. 

Beener0514

I'm EBFing and left DD at 14 days old with my parents while I went to my 2-week OBGYN appt. DH was at work and I knew my parents would be awesome with her. I was gone just over an hour and was surprisingly fine with it.

I also left her with DH while I went to the store for a quick trip.

llizzyb

I left him at 8 days with DH to get out of the house and go to Sonic

I had a job interview at 2 weeks pp, but my mom and DS went with me and stayed in the car because the interview was 40 minutes away and I would need to nurse afterwards. 

H and I had a date night at 3.5 weeks and left him with MIL and FIL for 1.5 hours. 

Then this week I had a followup interview and left him for 3 hours with MIL at four weeks old. 

schmood

I had to leave him with my mom on Sunday night for my lovely trip to the ER.  He got his first bottle of breastmilk and formula with her, as we were gone for about 6hrs.  I wouldn't say that I did well with being gone - but I didn't really have a choice.  He was just fine with my mom though.  Not sure when we'll try to leave him again.

acooper18

I did when she was 1 week. My family was here, so they watched her while we went to Buy Buy Baby for some stuff we needed. Then I was forced to be away from her overnight at 9 days PP because I had an emergency appendectomy. I leave for a few hours a few times a week now and it doesn't really bother me.