BFing and low libido(TMI???)

ginogomermisser

I had DS almost 6 months ago and have been pumping for the past 4 months. I have had very low libido since giving birth(I had vaginal delivery but pushed for 3.5 hours). It is also slightly sore during sex although my doctor stated that everything healed properly. She also suggested that the loss of libido and low lubrication could be from breastfeeding and should resume to normal after I wean.

I feel so bad for DH for its not the same wife anymore...hahaha.. I have the desire at times but cant climax or stay interested. Anyone else have this very personal problem while breastfeeding or after delivery. I'm sorry if this was too personal or TMI but I'm almost at the end of my rope here. Thanks ladies

mkarns

I have zero interest. Honestly, I fake interest...Don't flame me if that sounds horrible. I don't want to jeopardize my marriage or the way DH feels about me (being sexually attracted to me) so I have just been acting like I'm excited about it. My OB also said to use a ton a lube because of BFing so I told DH that so he doesn't feel like he's doing anything wrong (and he isn't).

It sucks, but I just cross my fingers and hope that it comes back if I keep at it! haha

desando

Yes mama, you are not alone. I was the one who always wanted before. Now I couldn't care less. It is not very comfortable and I am sooo tired. I feel bad for DH but it will only be a small time of our lives together  (in the big picture). I'm just honest with him and I try and get intimate about every week and a half to two weeks. Just be open with him and let him know who you feel.

jlsimon56

I was like this until just recently.  It was like a switch.  Not saying it's back to how it was when we were trying to get pregnant....but it does keep getting better.  You'll get there! 

KellyR33486

We just had this post on my birth month board...almost everyone (myself included) that was BF had very low or non-existant sex-drive.  Hopefully it gets better soon!

pepomntpat

I had no desire at all until about 8 months PP. It has gotten better rapidly since then. I still have some dryness, but that is easy to fix when the desire is back. It will get better.

I remember being in tears thinking I'd have to wean DD to ever have sex again. DD still nurses 4-5 times a day. She is far from weaned, but sex is good again. It will get better, I promise!