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Just not getting it

caliblondieuscaliblondieus
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I've been in the infertility world for almost two years now. I have been part of a wonderful RESOLVE support group for women with infertility. One of the women I got close to went through two failed IVF cycles and a couple of losses (including a second trimester one). She finally did IVF with PGD in Colorado last year and got pregnant with a little boy. He was born at the beginning of this month, totally healthy.

I received news on Wednesday night that he had died of a bacterial infection. Totally unrelated to infertility and even more difficult to understand than anything for me right now. She has been through so much loss and I just don't understand why some people get loss on top of loss and others don't get any. And being so sensitive to how it feels to want to have a child and you can't, I'm going through incredible heart ache and pain.

I just want this loss and heartache to go away.

Cali

TTC since April 2010, age 40, 3 miscarriages in total IVF w/PGD June 2012 - failed cycle with a genetically perfect embryo, unexplained infertility January 2013 - On to adoption!!!
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    That is a heartbreaking story.  I hope your friend can find some peace. 
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    I don't get it either. To say its not fair is such an understatement.

    My T&P are with your friend's family. (((Hugs)))


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