I had a talk with DH today about how I'd like things to go when he gets home and how he'd like things to go. Surprisingly, we were on the same page and didn't even know it. I figured he would feel like I was pushing his family away and being unreasonable if I told him that I wanted to spend time as a family for the majority of his time home before he goes back to work - he knows his family will want to see him, but he wants to spend most of his time with me and LO. I told him that if he's wanting his family to give us some space, he needs to be the one to tell them... that way they've no reason to resent me for it. He said he would call his dad when he gets to the mob station - his dad is the most logical one and he'll understand where DH is coming from (FIL's retired military).
I'm feeling a lot better about him coming home, and we know that it's not going to be easy adjusting to him being home and dealing with all of the visitors, but as long as we keep the lines of communication open, we'll be fine.
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