IL and DH vent...long

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On Saturday the ILs watched LO while DH and I went to a baseball game.  When we got back to their house, LO had just woken up from her nap so she was still in her sleep sack.  I went to unzip her and get her out and that is when I saw that MIL had taken off her pants for her nap (whatever), and her diaper was sagging nearly to her knees.  I quickly went to change her diaper and when I went into the diaper bag I saw that all the diapers that I packed were still in there...it was evident they didn't change her the whole time she was there.  I changed her at 9:30 before we left and her next change was at 3:00.  I know she she can go the whole night without being changed but she's also not mobile at night.  On our way home I mentioned to DH that I don't think they changed her while she was there and his response was "no, I don't think they did."  I didn't want to start another fight about them, so I just kind of let it go.  DH doesn't want to criticize their care and ability to watch her, but he knows that it's not okay to leave her in a soaking wet diaper for that long.    I know they kept her safe and fed her and played with her, but do they really wonder why we haven't asked them to watch her for more than a few hours???

I don't know if I was more annoyed with the ILs or DHs response.

Vent over!  

DramaMama06

i'm so sorry! can you say that she got a rash? i've done this to my BIL (who watches J in the afternoons). i just say " hey, make sure you change his diaper b.c he had a little rash last time." BIL is fantastic with J ( and J loves him so much!) but i do have to remind him of stuff like that.

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DramaMama06:

i'm so sorry! can you say that she got a rash? i've done this to my BIL (who watches J in the afternoons). i just say " hey, make sure you change his diaper b.c he had a little rash last time." BIL is fantastic with J ( and J loves him so much!) but i do have to remind him of stuff like that.

We went over everything else before we left, what time to feed her, how to give her the dry snacks, how to get her down for a nap, apparently I left out the part about changing her diaper every couple of hours.

11kacey

I would just print out a schedule for them (and all babysitters).

-diapers need to be changed every three hours AND just before nap and just after nap. (so that might be less than three hours)

- we follows a pretty loose schedule. Feed the baby around 10 in the morning and she'll be ready for nap around 11. She should sleep for about two hours.

- Thanks for helping us out! Her favorite toys are the My Pal Violet and your water bottle! 

 

See you later! 

 

Would something like that work? It clearly says a schedule AND when she should be changed. I have to do that each and every time anyone babysits or it won't happen.  

M&M227

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DramaMama06:

i'm so sorry! can you say that she got a rash? i've done this to my BIL (who watches J in the afternoons). i just say " hey, make sure you change his diaper b.c he had a little rash last time." BIL is fantastic with J ( and J loves him so much!) but i do have to remind him of stuff like that.

We went over everything else before we left, what time to feed her, how to give her the dry snacks, how to get her down for a nap, apparently I left out the part about changing her diaper every couple of hours.

My ILs are great but I usually tell them when to change DD.  MIL will just stick her finger in the diaper and won't think it's wet enough to change.  The first time she watched for a long time (like 5 hours) she never changed her because she didn't "feel wet"  I showed her how the blue line changes on the front of the diapers.  Now DD wears Baby Dry so there's no line.  So I usually say "I changed her at ____ she'll need another diaper at ____" 

rlmanning

11kacey:

I would just print out a schedule for them (and all babysitters).

-diapers need to be changed every three hours AND just before nap and just after nap. (so that might be less than three hours)

- we follows a pretty loose schedule. Feed the baby around 10 in the morning and she'll be ready for nap around 11. She should sleep for about two hours.

- Thanks for helping us out! Her favorite toys are the My Pal Violet and your water bottle! 

 

See you later! 

 

Would something like that work? It clearly says a schedule AND when she should be changed. I have to do that each and every time anyone babysits or it won't happen.  

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M&M227:

62406:

DramaMama06:

i'm so sorry! can you say that she got a rash? i've done this to my BIL (who watches J in the afternoons). i just say " hey, make sure you change his diaper b.c he had a little rash last time." BIL is fantastic with J ( and J loves him so much!) but i do have to remind him of stuff like that.

We went over everything else before we left, what time to feed her, how to give her the dry snacks, how to get her down for a nap, apparently I left out the part about changing her diaper every couple of hours.

My ILs are great but I usually tell them when to change DD.  MIL will just stick her finger in the diaper and won't think it's wet enough to change.  The first time she watched for a long time (like 5 hours) she never changed her because she didn't "feel wet"  I showed her how the blue line changes on the front of the diapers.  Now DD wears Baby Dry so there's no line.  So I usually say "I changed her at ____ she'll need another diaper at ____" 

I guess from now on I'll have to make a changing schedule in addition to her feeding schedule.  I assumed that since this was her 3rd grandchild that I was past the point of having to remind her to chage her diaper even if it's just wet.

mari_gold

My ILs were the same way!! I once left DS with the ILs and came home to find him fussing like crazy. I asked if his diaper had been changed recently, and MIL assured me that she'd been checking all afternoon, but he wasn't dirty. Sure enough, I check the front and the diaper is absolutely sopping wet. A new diaper and he was happy as a clam. To her credit, MIL looked horrified that she'd forgotten babies pee, too.

At this point I leave a detailed list for the ILs when they watch the kids, including times they need to be changed, when they need to eat, when they need to nap, etc. Literally down to the minute. It's the only thing that has worked.