Resigning from a job I love

JamieFL

I have to resign by Tuesday since it is two weeks away from the end of my maternity leave.  For those SAHM's, was it also hard to resign if you loved what you did?  I've worked non-profit for the same organization for the past 8 years and have loved the families that we help.  I am truly sad to leave and not have that as a part of my life.

On the other hand, I look at DS and can't imagine anyone loving him and caring for him like we do.  Therefore, no daycare.  My salary would be negated if we had a nanny so no chance with that either.

I guess I just wanted to vent and curious if I'm crazy for missing the job.  My priorities are set and there is still fear with the state of the economy for us, too.  Life is going to be on a tight budget if we are to make this work.

DH just doesn't understand and thinks SAHM's eat bon-bons all day.  I'm lucky if I get to shave my legs once a week the way this little guy wants to be held at all times! 

Thanks for reading.  Ok, I'm stepping off the emotional roller coaster this morning.

 

Myheart1297

I am resigning on Tuesday too. I work an hour (without traffic) away from home and it's just too much. I found a part time office job closer to home (only 15 minutes away) and it has decent pay. With this new job I will be working 5 days a week and only 4 hours a day so I will be w/DS in the morning and at night which is perfect. I have been at the job I am at now for 9.5 years since right before I turned 19! They are like a second family to me but they can not give me what I need right now and that is more flexible hours so I have to leave them. It is hard but I feel that DS comes first now and I have to do what I have to do.

anna7602

this probably won't help, but i also love my non-profit "do good in the world" job and spent all summer feeling very torn about whether I should return after my maternity leave or not. I decided to go back. I'm part-time, so that made my decision a little easier, I think, since I still get to spend a lot of time with DD. my salary basically covers the cost of our nanny, but I see it as "buying the option" to go back full time one day once DD is in school and also to stay connected to a world that I am just not ready to part with yet. I'm not going to lie, though, there are many days on which I still ask myself if I made the right decision. i'm waiting until the end of the year to re-evaluate (I just went back at the beg. of September).

mjcleve

Aww - I'm not a SAHM, but sure do wish I could be and hope to be someday (once DH graduates and hopefully gets a better job).  Not sure where you work, but is there anyway you could work part time?  From home or bringing in DS?  That way you could get the best of both worlds?  I know that's difficult in most situations (and impossible in my situation).

 Good luck!

JamieFL

Thank you, girls, for making me feel that I'm not alone with this.  I only wish my non-profit offered PT positions.  I think that's great that you are somewhat guaranteeing yourself a position if you stay, Anna.

My original plan was to have my mom stay with us and watch the baby while I "tried out" a return to working FT.  But a few weeks ago, she had extensive damage to her home and now has to have it repaired (may take another month or so to fix).  Ugh, so that threw a wrench or could have been a fateful sign to us?

I wish us all luck.  We can feel blessed knowing that we once did/do something that we love - not many people can say that.

Best of luck to you!

axh2277

I was in the same boat back in September.  I loved my job and worked really hard to get where I was and was respected by my peers.  I was really torn about leaving because part of me felt like I was giving up part of my identity, but I knew that it was the best thing for us.  I've been looking for a part time job at night to get out of the house and bring in some extra money.  I will admit that some days I get up and I feel lost not going to work, but then I look at DS and realize its all worth it.

iluvbacon

I've literally been in tears all morning about the same thing. I am completely torn about going back to work. I am going back next week and am leaning towards giving my notice, although I probably won't do it until after the holidays. I worked really hard to get into the job I have, and I am so stressed about not working both in terms of my identity and just not having my salary. But I hate the idea of my baby in daycare, and the logistics of me working are going to be hard. Our house is a disaster right now and I'm at home, I can't imagine what it will look like when I'm back at work. I really have no idea what to do, I am making myself sick with the stress of the decision.