Our Story ... kind of long.. sorry

Luckie519

I took a home pregnancy test on March 16 and got BFP.  We went to the first doctor's appointment March 22, thinking we were about 7 weeks and 2 days.  The baby measured only 5 weeks and 6 days and we could not see a heartbeat.  The doctor was not concerned at this point and said that it was normal to not see a heartbeat so early.  He thought maybe our dates were just a little off.

We went in April 5 for a follow-up and the baby is still measuring at 5 weeks and 6 days.  Our baby stopped developing.  I am so heartbroken.  This baby was not planned, but after the initial shock, DH and I, along with our family, were so excited.  I know women go through this all the time, but I still feel so helpless and lost.  I would never wish this on my worst enemy.  They tell you it's not your fault and something just went "wrong," but I still can't help thinking maybe it was something I did.  I know I am just being emotional. The doctor scheduled me a D&C the next afternoon.

We had plans to meet my family at Outback after the appointment, and as much as I didn't want to go, I really wanted to see my mom, so we went onto Outback.

Friday morning around 5:45am, I hear a loud bang in the bathroom.  I go in to find DH laying on the bathroom floor, his left eye busted open and he is convulsing.  I can't get the door all the way open, because his body is blocking the door.  I manage to force my way in and finally get him to respond.  I get him up and into the bathtub.  He begs me not to call rescue, because we are both in law enforcement and he did not want the rescue guys to see him like that.  He also tells me that he fell before that, but was able to get himself up on his own.

DH asked for me to help him back into bed.  We sleep for another hour or two before we have to get up for the D&C.  At 9a, I am in the bedroom getting ready and hear another bang in the bathroom.  I find DH passed out again on the bathroom floor.  He comes to pretty fast and says he needs to go to the ER while I am in my D&C.

At this point, I am freaking out, because I have no one to drive us home from the hospital.  I finally get ahold of my mom at work and she is able to leave and come meet us.  I load me, DH and DS into the car and head to the hospital.

DH ends up vomiting and passing out at the ER again.  After several hours, they said he has food poisoning. 

I ended up having to go through the D&C alone, because my mom was with DH.  The nurses and doctors were very nice.  My doctor held my hand before I fell asleep the surgery.

Friday after the surgery, I was actually feeling pretty good, but everything went downhill Saturday morning around 12:30a.  I woke up and got sick.  This continued until about 5:30a.  I slept most of the day Saturday.  I finally came to Sunday morning and felt decent.  The weather was beautiful, so we spent some time outside with DS.  We had a Easter Egg hunt.  I am still a little sore, but I am feeling much better physically.  Emotionally is a whole other story... we will save that for another post.

Thanks for letting me tell my story..... 

 

janastep73

Oh my goodness, that is quite a story!  I am so sorry for your loss and I hope that you and your husband both start feeling better soon!!

mumsie28

I'm sorry I hope both you and your DH start feeling better soon. Our pregnancy wasn't planned either and we also became very excited about it and are so heartbroken now that it has ended. The doctors told me that same thing, its not your fault, it was a bad pregnancy... you know the story. I am told it will get easier. Just take it day by day. Feel better.

dmgalley25

I am so sorry you had to go through all that. I hope you and DH are both starting to feel better physically at least. My D&C is tomorrow and i an kind of nervous but i just need it to be over.