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pillowpants10

Every time I talk to my S/O about the baby, what size it is, how it looks, etc, he doesn't seem very excited. Is this normal for men to be this way in the beginning? We have fought because I'll say things like "You don't even care about the baby." We have our first ultrasound tomorrow so I'm hoping this will help him connect more and be more excited about this... What do you ladies think is this normal behavior for men in an early pregnancy? I've never been pregnant and he's my first serious boyfriend.

hayweex

I think it's totally normal, especially because he can't see your tummy getting bigger yet or anything.
The ultrasound will help but honestly it won't change much.
Once he can feel the baby kick it'll settle in way more. And once the baby is born I'm sure he'll care tons (:

pillowpants10

hayweex:

I think it's totally normal, especially because he can't see your tummy getting bigger yet or anything.
The ultrasound will help but honestly it won't change much.
Once he can feel the baby kick it'll settle in way more. And once the baby is born I'm sure he'll care tons (:

Thank you, this helps a lot coming from you since you're a month ahead and have a man the same age as mine. I guess I'll just stop being a cry baby about it. I know he is going to be a great dad I just wish he would act as excited as me since it's basically all I talk about(:

CCLoar

hayweex:

I think it's totally normal, especially because he can't see your tummy getting bigger yet or anything.
The ultrasound will help but honestly it won't change much.
Once he can feel the baby kick it'll settle in way more. And once the baby is born I'm sure he'll care tons (:

Men pretty much need to hold the baby to make it more real.

Bingo1116

My H is the same way.  The only time he really seems involved is when he sees me throwing up.  I think for a man it must be very hard because they don't really know what is going on.  Until there is some visual or physical cue for them, I think it is "out of sight, out of mind".  I don't think it really becomes real until they can experience it visually or physically themselves. 

It's tough because you want to share your excitement, but honestly, you'll have a better response by calling up your closest girlfriend and gushing about it.

Ken&Anna

I heard a saying once: "A mother becomes a mother the day she learns she's pregnant.  A father becomes a father the day his child is born." 

As the mother, you have to care for and protect the baby before he or she is born.  Your whole life right now is devoted to protecting the baby.  Biologically speaking, the man's job is done.  It takes a while for men to connect emotionally to the idea of your being pregnant, and once he does he'll start to get excited.  For you it has to sink in right away because you have to change what you do, what you eat, etc. For him, it could take a little while.  I agree with PP that once you start showing, and once he can feel the baby kicking, he'll start to get more excited.  For now, let him come to terms with it on his own time. 

lmossali

CCLoar:

hayweex:

I think it's totally normal, especially because he can't see your tummy getting bigger yet or anything.
The ultrasound will help but honestly it won't change much.
Once he can feel the baby kick it'll settle in way more. And once the baby is born I'm sure he'll care tons (:

Men pretty much need to hold the baby to make it more real.

 

They say a woman becomes a mom when she finds out she is pregnant but a man doesn't become dad until he holds the baby. Remember he doesn't have that special connection that you and baby have right now. He may still be in shock!  

MCookie816

Honestly speaking... my husband is a wonderful man but it was not "real" for him until the day of my scheduled C-section. Up until that day he was seriously apprehensive and nervous about the baby and was not as excited as I was. We become mothers the moment we see that BFP, in my opinion it takes much longer for Dads to come around. I would cut him a little slack. Good luck with you sono tomorrow!