AF is here:<

SweetDahlia

She showed up yesterday. I am so sad and angry. I feel so lost. DH paid his credit card bill with the 12k IVF charge. My bank account is now empty. It sucks. I don't know how we will be able to try again. Plus they don't even know what's wrong so what would be the point.

I do think we will go see a Urologist. And see what our RE has to say. I may call around and see what apts cost at a few other REs. I just hate to spend $400-$500 to hear the same thing.

I wish this wasn't so hard. It's so unfair. I hate that as soon as I started having T-TTC my family stopped caring about me. They haven't been there for me through 3 IVFs 6 IUIs, or either one of my losses. They think I should just be happy without kids, yet love to throw their kids and grandkids in my face. I should just be fake happy and I am the one ruining their family. Yet not one of them has been there for me. Not one came to see me after I lost either baby or when I could barley move after my ERs. Not one of them has done sh.it to help me. So I am angry. My parents rush to help my other sibblings, buy them things like appliances and couches, pay their rent, and so on. But they just don't care about me. Nice right.

theworms

((HUGS))

i'm so sorry

and your family is what it is cutie.  i think you need to just let go and only see them when necessary, especially if they make you feel like you are in the wrong for wanting support

BeeBee08

Oh hun, I'm so so sorry.  I wish there was something I could do to take away the frustration.  And I'm even sorrier that you have to deal with your family situation.  It just sucks.  One of the most frustrating parts of this is dealing with the rest of the poeple in the world who have no idea what you're experiencing.  We're always here for you, even if it's only to send you a huge hug and let you know that you're not alone.  Take some time to grieve and be angry, you should be.  This is just NOT FAIR!  Big ((hugs)), be kind to yourself.

Gregermis

I"m so sorry ((hugs)).  I wish your family was more supportive for you, but we'll always be here for you!!

Sunshine05

*big big hugs, hon*  I'll never understand why it has to be so hard. 

Mrs.McIrish

Hugs. I am so sorry that you feel like you've been abandoned by your family. That is just awful.

ellenchris0506

I am so sorry for what you are going through and having to deal with your family.  Thank goodness for this board...and all of the support on here!

Roxie5739

bellalou32:

Gregermis:

I"m so sorry ((hugs)).  I wish your family was more supportive for you, but we'll always be here for you!!

Very true! 

Ditto to this, I am so sorry. I live far away from my family and whilst it is nice at times you just need them other times. (((HUGS)))

lynn0926

I am so sorry. It is all so unfair. Nobody understands IF unless they have lived this hell. Big huge hugs hun!

dancinaggie

I'm sorry, it is so damn unfair!  Going through it all is enough without your family being so cold.  I wish I could say something that would help  You know we are always here and understand.  Sending (((big hugs))) and strength your way.

abvernon

I am so sorry ((hugs))

daisyMaryGirl

Ditto to what everyone else said.  I wish I had a super power to take away everyone's IF pain.  (((BIG HUGS))).  You are in my prayers. 

angela2004

BIG {{HUGS}}

I say this all the time... people s$ck! There are a few out there that don't....

mdluv21

I am so sorry sweetie.

I understand what you are saying about your family thinking you are ruining their happiness.  DH's family makes us feel the same way.  I am sorry you don't have any support.

huge ((hugs))

jessican08

I am so sorry your family hasn't been supportive of you and your DH...that breaks my heart. I know it's not the same but we're hearing for you

((BIG HUGS))

reb259

SweetDahlia:

She showed up yesterday. I am so sad and angry. I feel so lost. DH paid his credit card bill with the 12k IVF charge. My bank account is now empty. It sucks. I don't know how we will be able to try again. Plus they don't even know what's wrong so what would be the point.

I do think we will go see a Urologist. And see what our RE has to say. I may call around and see what apts cost at a few other REs. I just hate to spend $400-$500 to hear the same thing.

I wish this wasn't so hard. It's so unfair. I hate that as soon as I started having T-TTC my family stopped caring about me. They haven't been there for me through 3 IVFs 6 IUIs, or either one of my losses. They think I should just be happy without kids, yet love to throw their kids and grandkids in my face. I should just be fake happy and I am the one ruining their family. Yet not one of them has been there for me. Not one came to see me after I lost either baby or when I could barley move after my ERs. Not one of them has done sh.it to help me. So I am angry. My parents rush to help my other sibblings, buy them things like appliances and couches, pay their rent, and so on. But they just don't care about me. Nice right.

I am so sorry and I have many of the same feelings.  Big hugs!  The sting of AF is the final slap in the face...been there too many times to count.  I am here if you need a shoulder or ear...

Delta04

Oh, no - I am so very sorry.  ::hugs::

I know I have been MIA because of the new job but I am thinking of you.  I am so sorry that your family is not supportive and understanding.  IF is so unfair. 

Faith722

I'm so sorry.  I don't understand why it has to be so hard.