I feel bad. :(
My co worker came up to me. rolled up a chair at my desk and told me she thinks she is pregnant. Then went on to say...."If I am I am going to kill it off F---- that kid" I love beer too much. babies ruin your life. It will be stupid to have a kid because Im too young and hot for that. (we are both 22) I just sat there....and said...Oh.
Maybe I should have said more, but I honestly didnt know what to say. when people usually come to me in her situation. We have a real talk of whats best and all....but this girl, I couldnt tell if she was serious or not...now i feel like if she was she would think I didnt care about her because of my short response.
I dont want this to turn to an abortion debate. This is not what this thread is about. Nor do I want anyone to judge the woman. I just dont understand why I choked up. people come to me with their problems everyday at work...and I can usually make them smile...but ummm I choked up. and just said oh? what kind of person/friend am I?
UGH!!!!!!!
I feel so bad. 
Re: I feel bad. :(
Holy cow! Someone would come up to you and say something like that to you at work? Where on Earth do you work?
If you feel bad, maybe mention to her tomorrow (or next time you see her) that she caught you off guard, but you'd be more than happy to talk to her about it over lunch. That way you have some time to mentally prepare. Or tell her you don't feel comfortable talking about something like that since you are pregnant yourself and it would be upsetting.
DH and I married 8 years. Mom of three, stepmom of one.
It's sounds like you're known as someone who is easy to talk to and it seems as if she felt it was okay to vent to you without restraint. It's also possible that she may have thought the fact that with the fact that you are pregnant, she might get some insight into the "joys of pregnancy" from you.
When I was that age, I always felt that if I ever got pregnant I wouldn't go through with it (which is why I was always on some form of birth control), but had friends who had aborted and regretted it saying that once they know there is life inside of them it changed their whole perspective.
It's possible that just having someone to listen to her was enough.
I work at a community college LOL. Crazy stuff happens there.
Yep she knows I am. She knows that I am having a girl...the name and everything. She is saw my recent ultrasound.
Don't feel bad. in your situation, its hard to be objective about that topic. I work as a vet tech, this week we got a couple of animal control cats in to be spayed. as soon as it was discovered that one was 'quite' pregnant, I had to take my lunch break. I don't disagree with what the surgeon did, she saved 3 adult cats from being euthanized in a shelter, but being as pregnant as I am, I just couldn't be in the hospital while that was going on.
Co worker might just have been really freaked out, and that's how she copes.
Phrasing it in the way she did was HORRIBLE. Yes, unfortunately, someone who thinks in those terms is definitely not mature enough to handle a child--or be having sex, or live on her own, or drink, etc. Now, thinking "I am pregnant and it's best for me to terminate because I am not prepared to be a parent" is a much more mature stance to take. If someone approached me, knowing I'm pregnant, and said what she said... I'd probably lose my shxt on her just based on the language used. If someone came to me with the mature comment, I'd be very supportive. Just because I am pregnant, want to be pregnant, and would not terminate doesn't mean that others can't have that option.
I've actually exploded at a few super-feminist types lately. Some people, whether they realize it or not, have very "pro abortion" stances rather than simply "pro choice." I've seen things said about women who choose to be moms and how they're just allowing themselves to be dominated by men and letting their bodies be taken advantage of by a parasite, and reacting to pro life propaganda with their own disgusting comebacks such as "it's not even human--EAT THE FETUSES!" and crap like that. I have taken it upon myself to remind them that pro choice means pro CHOICE, not pro your-only-correct-choice-is-termination. The response is usually "oh well I don't mean in every case." Yeah, but you just told me that what's inside me isn't human. That seems pretty generalized to me. If someone believes "my body, my choice" is how it should be, that also means "my body, my decision to let myself get and remain pregnant because I want to be" is equally valid. I've seen a lot of people forget that part.
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