Parenting after a Loss

Intro & Birth Story for Abigail Elyse

Good morning ladies!  I can't believe I'm actually to that point where I can intro over here on PAL!  I would have done it sooner, but things have been a little trying since Abigail's birth (mostly all BF related).  I can't wait to be a more regular poster on here and get to know those of you that I didn't know from PAL!

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Due to increased swelling and a massive migraine that resulted in a trip to L&D last Monday, my OB decided it was best that we induce my labor last week.  I was admitted to L&D at 6pm on Wednesday the 21st.  They got me hooked up and checked my cervix again - still barely a cm dilated.  They inserted some pill to help ripen my cervix and then basically told me and dh to rest up.  I started to have lots of uncomfortable cramping in both my abdomen and back and therefore couldn't sleep at all.  Finally at 6 am my nurse started the pitocin and I had contractions that were few and far between (uncomfortable but not too bad).  My OB came by around 8 am, broke my water, and said I was dilated about the same, a little softer but no real progress.

Throughout the day they increased my pitocin and continued to check my cervix.  I had a lot of back labor, which was very uncomfortable.  I forget what time it was exactly but they offered me a drug to help allow me to sleep.  I remember still laboring in my "sleep" as it didn't ease the labor pains.  They offered me my epidural at 11:30 am because my pain was pretty intense.  The only problem was I was only 2 cm dilated at that point and the guy that administers the epidural had a c-section he needed to attend that was going to last an hour.  They basically told me it was a now or wait situation.  My contractions were about 3 to 4 minutes apart and hurt a lot but in my drug-induced state I convinced myself I could handle an hour's wait.  DH later told me that I didn't get my epidural until about 2 pm - a lot longer than just an hour's wait!

My OB came back by around 4:30 pm.  By then I was 3 cm dilated, maybe 4 cm if she pushed it.  She strongly suggested a c-section and I was in agreement - little Abby's head just wasn't descending and now that she's born you can see an indentation on her head where she was stuck in my pelvis. 

They prepped me for the c-section and everything happened so fast.  DH said that things went really quick and before he knew it they were pulling Abby from my belly and at 6:01 pm on March 22nd, we celebrated her birthday.  They quickly took Abby to the little station, which was within my visibility.  I told DH to go be with her and to cut the cord and have the nurses take pictures.  I absolutely lost it when I heard her cries and saw her little fingers wrap themselves on DH's finger.

Then things got a little scary for me as I suddenly felt numb in areas that weren't supposed to feel numb.  My fingers, arms and shoulders went numb and I started to panic.  DH had come to check on me and I told him to tell the anesthesiologist that I felt claustrophobic.  DH turned to tell him but he was already on top of it.  DH said that was the only time he was scared in the OR because my BP had dropped drastically and he said I said, "I need to get out of here".  

They wheeled me into recovery but I was shaking severely and was still completely numb everywhere but my head.  The nurses helped get Abby to my breast but I couldn't hold her or support her head.  That's the biggest thing I regret.   

All complications aside, she is the love of my life and I am so incredibly blessed.  Here's a few pictures of Abby from a photo session the hospital offered in our room Saturday morning:

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And here's her delivery:

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Re: Intro & Birth Story for Abigail Elyse

  • imageAluenna:
    Congrats hun! How did the weight check go?

    It went well.  She's up to 6 lbs 13 oz, which is more than she weighed when she left the hospital.  This gave me the confidence to try and breast feed again instead of pumping.  The only problem is her latch went from pretty good to apparently bad as my right nipple is bleeding.  So yet another wrench in the breast feeding department.  I think I'll call the LC today to discuss ideas.  I can't continue to be upset over this.  

    How is that cutie pie Ivy doing these days? 

  • Congrats and welcome!

      Rylan 1/27/2011, 2:42 pm, 5lbs 12oz, 18.5 inches long
     Ayla 10/02/2013, 10:14 am, 6lbs 14oz, 19.25 inches long
    Missed Miscarriage 6w3d 3/02/2010
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  • Congrats! She is beautiful and I love her name!
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  • hey!!!! i was wondering when i'd see you come over!

    welcome miss abigail! (love her name, btw).

    her and my little man J were born at the same time! he was 6:01PM on 1/23/12. they are almost 2 months to the exact day apart, how cool!!!

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    oh and those shakes are the worst! i had those while they were "sewing" me back up, i felt like i was convulsing! my arms were trying to rip out of the stirrups, i couldn't control my movements, it was SCARY! glad everything is okay for you now, and good luck on the BF getting better!

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    ?BFP #2 5/19/2011 ? 9/1/2011 - it's a BOY!!! ? Jace Matthew born 1/23/12 ?

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    ?BFP 10/24/2012 - EDD 6/26/2013, grow little one grow!?

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  • She is beautiful, congrats!!!
    TTC since January 2010
    BFP 5/9/10. U/S - no heartbeat 6/2/10 (7 weeks). Induced miscarriage 6/7/10.
    Chemical pregnancies 12/2/10, 1/3/11, and 2/7/11.
    dx: RPL due to poor quality uterine lining; begin progesterone January 2011
    BFP 3/10/11. EDD 11/19/11. E arrived 11/15/11!

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  • Congrats lady bug she is beautiful. Glad everyone is doing well
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    Lost our second angel, 2/16/11 8w
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  • Aw she is beautiful! Congratulations!
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  • hi again xo! i know i commented on PGAL but i have to tell you again how beautiful abby is!!!!!! i am in love with the pic where she's wearing that headband!
    Me: 36, DH: 36
    DH's SA = normal
    1 tube only wonder
    AFC 3-5, AMH 0.30

    BFP #1 3/29/11.  EDD 12/4/11... Missed m/c 5/9/11. Cytotec fail. D&C 5/17/11.
    BFP #2   7/5/11.  EDD 3/14/12... Our rainbow Kellen born 3/14/12 via c/s.
    BFP #3 5/30/13.  EDD 2/8/14...  6wk u/s HB 126. 8wk u/s lost HB. D&C 7/12/13.
    BFP #4 2/18/14.  EDD 10/30/14... Ruptured ectopic with L tube removed & D&C 3/7/14.
    BFP #5 7/27/14.  EDD 4/9/15...  m/c @ 5w4d.

    IVF #1    Oct 2014 - antagonist protocol: 9R, 7M, 5F. 3dt of 3 Grade 2 embies. BFN. 
    IVF #2    Jan 2015 cancelled due to dominant follicle.  Converted to IUI #1. BFFN
    IVF #2.1 March 2015 cancelled due to dominant follicle.

    BFP #6  (SUPRISE!) 3/19/15.  EDD 11/30/15...  CP at 4w2d.
    IUI #2:    Clomid + Follistim = 3 follies. BFN.
    IVF #2.2 May 2015 - horrible response to micro lupron flare protocol: 3R, 3M, 3F. 3dt of 2 Grade 3 embies. BFFN. 

    BFP #7 (beyond surprised again!) 4/26/16. EDD 1/5/17. beautiful betas!!!! and then near-fatal hemorrhagic corpus luteum. turns out baby was ectopic after all; another lap 5/6 (@24dpo).

    the universe can fuck off.


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  • Yay welcome to other side!
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  • Congrats!  What a cutie pie!
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  • Congratulations!  She is precious!
    7 mm/c
    APS, hetero factor v leiden & MTHFR
    bfp #1 - 12.11.07, edd 8.14.08, mm/c 1.21.08 (10w4d)
    bfp #2 - 4.4.08, edd 12.3.08, mm/c 5.14.08 (11w)
    bfp #3 - 8.3.08, edd 4.15.09, mm/c 9.17.08 (10w)
    bfp #4 - 1.15.09, edd 9.26.09, mm/c 2.16.09 (8w2d)
    bfp #5 - 6.16.09, edd 2.25.10, mm/c 7.23.09 (9w)
    bfp #6 - 8.12.10, edd 4.27.11, mm/c 9.16.10 (8w1d)
    one more try -> bfp #7 - 2.11, our miracle baby boy arrived 10.11
    ttc again -> bfp #8 - 5.3.13, edd 1.13.14, mm/c 5.30.13 (7w3d)
    bfp #9 - 9.23.13, our miracle baby girl arrived 5.29.14

  • Congrats!  She is beautiful!
    BFP#1 11-26-10 MMC 1-13-11
    BFP#2 6-8-11 Eleanor Beatrice born 2-15-12
    BFP#3 9-4-13 Benjamin Lee born 4-28-14

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  • Just seeing this now. Congrats! What a cutie!
    Me: 31     DH: 33
    Dx: Me: Recurrent Pregnancy Loss; DH: Low Morphology (2%)
    BFP#1: MC 3/1/11 at 6w1d - EDD 10/21/11
    BFP#2: 5/3/11 - EDD 1/9/12 - DD Born 1/6/12
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    TTC #2 since 12/13
    BFP#3: MC 2/8/14 at 4w5d - EDD 10/13/14
    BFP#4: MC 5/6/14 at 4w4d - EDD 1/9/15
    BFP#5: MMC discovered 8/4/14 at 9w1d - D&C 8/5/14 - Baby Boy with Trisomy 16 (maternal origin) - EDD 3/8/15
    BFP#6: CP 11/6/14 at 4w2d - EDD 7/14/15
    IVF #1 with ICSI & PGS: May/June 2015, ER 6/3/15, 17R/17M/15F
    IVF #2 with ICSI & PGS: July 2015, ER 7/16/15, 16R/11M/9F
    PGS results = 6 normal embryos (4 boys, 2 girls)
    FET 9/23/15 = BFFN
    Natural FET 11/4/15 = BFP!
    Beta 9dp5dt = 92

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