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Let's be honest here (Lifting older child post partum)
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After #2 was born, did you actually not pick up #1? If you didn't, how long did you keep that up for? If you did, how often did you pick #1 up?
I pick DS1 up maybe once or twice a day because he is such a mommy's boy or because I need to get him away from something. Yesterday I had a friend over and she strongly reprimanded me for picking up my crying 16 month old (he had just woken from a nap and was too scared to leave his bed because of the guests he didn't recognize). I understand why you're not supposed to so I try not to, but even so it's my body, my decision. And if it meant that much to her why didnt she offer to help instead of stay seated on the couch.
Yeah I'm a little annoyed haha and just wondering if I'm the only one that doesnt follow that direction.
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Re: Let's be honest here (Lifting older child post partum)
After I got home I went 5 days without picking DD up because I was either home with DH or at my parents.
At day 5 DD wiped out on the linoleum in my parents kitchen and cracked her head off the floor. I wasn't thinking and just scooped her up. It didn't hurt (I wasn't even slow about it) so I didn't care after that.
I do have c-sections so I did really try.
BFP #2 11/30/09 EDD 08/12/10- Sophia Grace born 8/1/10
BFP #3 11/16/10 EDD 08/04/11- Samuel Richard born 7/28/11
BFP #4 01/04/12 EDD 09/19/12- Simon Nathaniel born 9/6/12
BFP #5 03/27/13 EDD 11/25/13- Savannah Lee born 11/18/13
This, especially the bolded. DD1 weighed about 23 lbs when DD2 was born, and I was told not to lift over 10 lbs (vag delivery, no c-section). I had help for the first 24 hours we were home, but after that I had to get DD1 in and out of her crib and booster seat somehow, and for as much of a climber she is she never once climbed into or out of the crib.
DD1 Feb 2010
DD2 Sept 2011
Camryn Grace ~ July 6th, 2009 ~ 7lbs 9oz, 20.5"
Brayden Richard Drew ~ December 20, 2010~7lbs 9oz, 20"
By day 6 I carried my sleeping DD (13 months at the time) all the way from the car to the NICU (at least a mile). While that's not recommended I was fine. I definitely healed quicker after #2 than #1... And I had episiotomies every time.
Thank you! It's reassuring to know in not the only one who finds the request pretty unreasonable and doesn't follow it.
My friend has post partum healing issues so I understand why it would be so important for her but that's her body's response, not mine..
I did follow the rules for the first few weeks, but I had a c-section so it's kind of different.
It sounds like what you're doing is fine which is limiting lifting your child. I wouldn't say walk around carrying your toddler all day is ok--just use caution. Lift properly-crouch down and use your legs vs your abdominal area to lift.
Daughter #1 - February 12, 2010
natural m/c March 11, 2011 at 8 1/2 weeks
Daughter #2 - January 11, 2012
Ectopic pregnancy discovered November 6, 2012 at 6 weeks
Daughter #3 - January 19, 2014
Started our exploration into the world of international adoption June 2012. We have no idea what this is going to look like but we are excited to find out!
I did lift my DD when it was necessary, but DH was home for 2 weeks (so he did most lifting) and I did my best to let her crawl into my lap so it was very few and far between. Plus, my DD (16m when DS was born) was/is a tiny little thing. She was like 18 pounds at 1 year and was probably only about 20 pounds when DS was born. I also had a normal vaginal delivery with no complications.
That being said, I wouldn't flippantly ignore your doctor. There are good reasons that you shouldn't be hauling around your toddler. I have had a few friends hemmorage and need to go back into the hospital for not taking it easy and doing too much too soon. And it goes without saying, you are no good to your toddler or your newborn if you are in the hospital.
Married 6/28/03
Kate ~ 7/3/09 *** Connor ~ 11/11/10
4 miscarriages: 2007, 2009, 2013, 2014
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No more TTC for us. We are done, and at peace, as a family of 4.
"Suffering has been stronger than all other teaching, and has taught me to understand what your heart used to be. I have been bent and broken, but – I hope – into a better shape.” — Charles Dickens
No offense, but you have zero idea if you are susceptible to it until it happens to you. It can happen to anyone. Up to 4-6 weeks out, which is why you shouldn't be doing anything (like heavy lifting, exercise) for that long.
I haven't had pp healing issues with either pregnancy, but I did land myself in the hospital with a blood transfusion after a D&C for a miscarrage a few years ago. I started hemmoraging over a week after the proceedure OUT OF THE BLUE.
You are only 8 days post pardum, I would still be trying to take it as easy as possible if I were you.
Married 6/28/03
Kate ~ 7/3/09 *** Connor ~ 11/11/10
4 miscarriages: 2007, 2009, 2013, 2014
*~*~*~*~*
No more TTC for us. We are done, and at peace, as a family of 4.
"Suffering has been stronger than all other teaching, and has taught me to understand what your heart used to be. I have been bent and broken, but – I hope – into a better shape.” — Charles Dickens
Did you have a c-section? I did, and I didn't pick up DS1 for 2 weeks. It was really rough. I had help. If I didn't have a c-section I would have picked him up immediately.