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AllieR22
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Alright ladies... baby shower talk
AllieR22
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I am going to make my own invitations....(we will see how far i get before giving up, we have 42 women coming, and it?s a couples shower.... not counting men cuz i know not all of them will show)... did anyone else make their own invitations? If so, where can i go online to get some cute ideas (we are having a boy)
Also.. I need help with baby shower games, so far online pretty much lists the typical measure the belly game (we are not doing) and then bingo... any other suggestions that ARENT lame? i'd hate to throw a shower that didn?t have some sort of entertainment... not sure what other information you guys need in order to get helpful suggestions other than its a boy 
oh and daddy is a marine... not sure if that is relevant
OH and we want to serve a "blue" drink.... im not a fan of sherbet.. any other ideas other than blue kool-aid... lol i dont want to serve kool aid at my baby shower... lol i'd like something that you actually have to make.. that isnt 99% artificial sugar.. and i thought about just adding blue dye to a drink but then that runs the risk of it staining lips and teeth haha that would be funny....
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Re: Alright ladies... baby shower talk
I'm sorry but I don't agree with throwing your own baby shower. If you want to "help" and the person needs your help then helping a little bit is OK but not throwing the entire thing.
Maybe you could do this all for a sip and see type thing, after baby is born so people can meet the baby. But because a shower is a gift giving event you don't want to be involved in hosting your own shower, just helping here and there.
So, like the others, as soon as I read the post I assumed the OP was throwing her own shower....but I dont see where she says that anywhere? She could very well be throwing a shower for someone else?
OP, correct me if I'm wrong? I have some suggestions for you if you are indeed throwing it for someone else!
EDIT: read again and saw this.... i dont want to serve kool aid at my baby shower. I was really hoping I was wrong!
OP, dont throw your own shower. Please.
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I am not a fan of games at showers... so I told my hostesses I wanted to do this... so my step mom made these up, and also made a book to keep them all in:
That's super cute! I also don;t like games and it will be a jack and jill shower, so my sis is having us make onesies instead. Fun!
The friend that threw me my shower used a cute computer paper she got at Hobby Lobby - it was of a cartoon bump and it was pink and green, and she used a custom font she found online to dress it up - I had many people make comments to me how cute they were, very Dr. Suess-y. I'm sure it was super easy for her too, since she just had to set up the word document and print multiples.
As for throwing your own shower, I'm indifferent and not going to comment one way or the other- everyone has unique situations, so do what you're comfortable with.
The only "game" we did at the shower was decorating onesies - we had multiple sizes, and everyone decorated one with fabric paint and had a great time. (Make sure to put a piece of cardboard in between the fabric layers until it's dry).
Enjoy your day!
Personally, I don't see anything wrong with you being involved and helping with your shower. I don't know why so many people have a problem with that. What's wrong with wanting to help rather than sitting back and letting everyone else do it for you! I didn't realize there were so many strict rules about baby showers...like omg if you break the rules the baby shower police are going to come and arrest you!!! Times have changed and I think that it's perfectly okay if the mommy-to-be wants to help out and make her own invitations. It's nice; maybe the hostess is paying for the entire thing and she wants to help reduce some of the expenses by making her own invitations. I think as long as your hostess enjoys your help, there shouldn't be anything wrong with it.
games: I don't think this is a game but it's cute. The guests will receive a little card to write down some words of advice or lessons learned to share with the new parents-to-be.
blue drink: A blue drink is tough plus everyone's mouth will turn blue! It is a cute idea but maybe serve a tasty drink in a blue colored glass instead. You might be able to find some blue champagne glasses or wine glasses for everyone to drink out of. Especially if you are doing it at a BYO restaurant and your guests can drink the wine from blue glasses. Cute!!!
I can appreciate helping a host when help is needed but at a certain point, you run into finding yourself as a co-host of your own shower. I think with planning games, invites and drinks, she's walking that line. IMO, it's not appropriate to co-host/host your own shower because a shower is a gift giving affair, it's like saying "I am going to throw myself a party, bring me presents." While the baby shower police won't shut down the party, I, personally, would not feel right about (co)hosting my own shower and I can't say I'd blame any of my guests for side-eyeing me if I did.
Again, she seems to be doing everything, not just helping out, which most people do and is not a problem at all. It's not that someone imagined up a strict rule, it's just that it's widely veiwed as incredibly tacky to host your own event where gift-giving is involved. Like it or not, it's called etiquette.
Don't plan your own shower, but here is an idea I've been loving lately.
Draw a tree with branches and then have your guests use an inkpad and put their fingerprints on the tree branches as leaves with their name next too it. You can do pink leaves for a girl, etc. It would be a nice thing to frame and hang in the baby's room.
People will talk and will side eye.. we're just trying to let her know what 90% of people will say or think behind her back. Just trying to spare her from problems and hurt feelings.
Blue drinks - what about blue Jones sodas?
We're not talking about helping. I'm planning on helping my Mom as I know she got sick from stress over planning me the perfect wedding shower (she hadn't been to one in ages and wanted it to be perfect for me). I had no idea until later when my Dad told me. I don't want her to get really stressed again so I'll help give her ideas so she can organize them herself and not have sleepless nights trying to make it perfect. That's just how much she cares... I'm the exact same way, planning a few events in the past I was so worried I would get sick.
Anyway we're not trying to be rude, we're trying to help.
I've been to my share of baby showers, but at my cousins shower she played the MOST CLEVER game... i loved it.
She was having a boy and did a "AHOY, its a boy" shower theme (sailor/ocean theme) she dressed up with the theme (so cute) she had a mini sailor hat pinned in her hair, wore a blue and white striped shirt with some "yacht" shoes and some super cute sailory shorts...Little did we know there was going to be a game about her... so she showed her pretty little face for about an hour and then we all sat down for the game, but NO cousin to be found (she was hiding) we played "what was mommy wearing" game (the first game played) It had questions like 1. what color was mommys shoes? 2. was mommy's hair up or down? 3. was mommys hair curly or straight? 4. was mommy wearing socks? What was mommys necklace of? ETC...
I LOVED it... i thought it was super cute, and the fact I havent played it before made it that much more interesting and fun to play
Here's a recipe for light blue punch that won't stain your guests' mouths:
1 (0.13 ounce) package blue Kool Aid or a bottle of Blue Raspberry Hawaiian Punch
1 (2 liter) bottle lemon-lime flavored carbonated beverage (Sprite, 7up, whatever)
1 (64 fluid ounce) bottle white cranberry juice
8 scoops vanilla ice cream
1 cup white sugar, or to taste
In a large punch bowl, stir together the drink mix, lemon-lime soda, and white cranberry juice. Taste, and stir in sugar to your liking. Float scoops of ice cream on the top. The ice cream melts somewhat and turns the punch a beautiful baby blue color with frothy white clouds floating on the top.
I knew I should'nt have said anything. Haha.
That's your opinion and believe me I totally respect your opinion. I am not going to tell you are wrong, because in many ways you may be right. I am sure most people completely agree with what you are saying. I just feel a little indifferent about it. That's all. I don't know if this girl who posted it is throwing her own shower. Yes, I don't agree with throwing your own shower. But I didn't get that from her post, it sounded more like someone else was throwing it for her and she was either asked to help with some of the plans or offered to help with some of the details of the plans. Now, if she is taking over and planning the entire thing herself...I think that's a little much. But she didn't really say so I didn't want to jump all over her and accuse her of something like that.
In my defense, my mom is throwing my baby shower. She has never thrown me a party in my life and it means the absolute world to me and I know for her it brings her nothing but joy and pleasure! I know that might not be viewed as the best etiquette either (the "mom" throwing the shower) but she really wants to throw me a baby shower. The only thing is, I am the first in the family to have a baby and she is very unfamiliar with the territory. She has no idea what to do. I've been to many baby showers because tons of my friends already had babies, so I am very familiar with them. So my mom has been turning to me for guidance and suggestions. I'm not sure she thinks too much about proper etiquette when it comes to her daughter, and quite frankly I don't either. We have an extremely close relationship and we just love sharing ideas and doing things together! It gives my mom so much enjoyment and happiness talking to me everyday abotu baby stuff. She is so excited to welcome her grandson to the world and she couldn't be happier and more proud of me. Yes, she has asked for help and we have tossed around ideas. So, I wonder if that's viewed as being tacky. It just confuses me, because if she had asked me to think about some games for the baby shower it would never occur to me that so many people would find that to be wrong. My mom didn't ask me, but she did ask me to pick out the restaurant and also to help pick out the menu. So, in some ways I am helping. I just don't think that is tacky. I think it's a daughter trying to help her mother out. In no way, have I tried to plan my own shower and I just think by helping out with a couple details of the shower doesn't make you a tacky person. I'm sorry, I just don't think it is. I wouldn't care if one of my friends helped the hostess with some of the details of their own shower, I am there to celebrate with the mommy-to-be and welcome a baby into the world - not judge them on how they planned the shower. That doesn't change anything. Regardless, I would feel honored to be able to share in that special day with them- the special moment with the mommy-to-be and I really don't care if she threw her own shower or helped out with some the details. It's really not about that to me. That's just me. You are all entitled to your opinion and I totally respect all of your opinions but I just have my own feeling on it. I guess I am just one of the few that feels differently on that subject. Sorry, no hard feelings I hope. I love this board and I don't want anyone not commenting on my posts anymore because of this. I hope you all understand my feelings on this... I will be quite now. Haha.
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If you read her OP again, you can see twice that she specifically talks like she is the one throwing it ("I'd hate to throw a shower with no entertainment" and "I don't want to serve kool-aid at my baby shower".)
I see no problem with your mom throwing you a shower and have never heard of anything otherwise.
I agree. Really it makes no sense to throw your own shower. If you are paying for decorations, food, drinks, etc... Than that is money you could be using to buy the things you need for baby. If your throwing your own shower and absorbing all the expenses you might as well just call it a party and ask that no one bring gifts.
I hope you aren't upset with all these judgemental postings...you asked for help, not people's opinions on whether or not you're a bad person for "throwing your own shower" which everyone seems to "assume" you are doing. I am also helping out with my shower; my mom is giving it as I have no MIL, SIL, sister, close aunt, and my friends are here and there. I ordered the invites and planned the menu. My mom could care less, and unless you tell all your guests, hey look, I did that, who the f*ck is going to know?? My shower is at my house, since it is in the middle of the travel map for pretty much all my guests. I guess I'm a gift grabbing hog lol. I understand the viewpoint that it is not quite cool to throw a party where people buy you stuff, but unless everyone knows your circumstances, they should refrain from commenting on etiquette.
At another shower I attended, we did the candy match game-basically you have a bunch of candy bars that you match up to baby things...ie. the candy whatchamacalit is "baby's name." Milky Way is "breast feeding." It was actually quite hard to get them all-winner gets all the candy! This page gives you a list of what you can use: https://www.fun-babyshower-games.com/candy-bar-matching-game.html
No ideas on blue punch. I like the idea someone posted about serving any type of beverage in blue glasses though.
I hope you have a wonderful time at your shower!