Just made the admin cry...

masonmom12

So, I just made the admin at my office almost cry...I actually think she walked away before a tear came down her face.  Why do I feel bad??

She is the most annoying lady ever, and is always making comments about how people look, staring women up and down, and when pregnant it's magnified (or maybe just in the eyes of the preggo women - ME!).  She called me over to her desk today and as I walk over I realize she ONLY called me over to check me out and said "She's really popping out now, isn't she."  I always just smile and laugh that stuff off, but it's been a rotten day so instead I said "And that's exactly why I don't talk to you when I'm pregnant" and walked away.  I honestly didn't think the comment would phase her because she laughed at first, but then she came over to my desk and apologized and said she just meant that I look so cute.  Um, if that's what she meant, why not say that? I'd much rather here..."You look so cute" vs. "You're really popping out there."  I don't know why those comments bother me, but I'm not one of those people who LOVE having the baby belly. I love the end result and obviously it's more than worth it, but as a woman I don't think I'll ever be 'ok' with getting bigger.

Ok, sorry. Just had to get that off my chest (or should I say, belly)! :-)

sissy2424

Lol.  Its probably just been building up in you for a while and now that your have super hormones it came out that way. I think from what you said she deserved what you told her. Otherwise she would just think she could do it all the time. 

 

AllieR22

I hate to admit it, but i feel the same way about comments about my bump too.. im not sure how i would feel if i was one of those moms that STILL isnt showing.. they seem to have it pretty bad too, i read about how they always get told that "they must not be doing something right" and it seems to upset them pretty much the exact same as us "showing-moms" getting comments like "man, your really popping out there".. I think what it is , is that people honestly dont know what to say to pregnant women, especially in the first few weeks where you really do look pregnant, and they want to be nice by saying something as oppose to saying nothing... it would be better than noone ever commenting on ur belly, like it wasnt there, i think that would drive me crazy!.... its either that or people are just all a$$holes. lol everyother day i feel like one or the other.. that people are being nice and awkward or people are just all a$$holes. hope this helps... your not the only one who feels this way .. trust me!

StrawberryAlarmClock

Let me preface this by saying I agree that people seem to feel like our bodies are public domain for touching/commenting/questioning when we are pregnant. 

However, she might have felt hurt because your comment made it sound like you've been harboring negative sentiment about her for quite some time and she just screwed up again. If other people hear it, I'm sure she was also very embarrassed. Maybe a quiet sidebar would have prevented the tears. Especially if she's never been pregnant or is the type that loved the attention - she most likely has no idea that she was the straw that broke the camel's back.  

LaurenCase89

Sometimes when people do this over and over again you can't hold it in! I wouldn't be able to handle it after a couple!

masonmom12

StrawberryAlarmClock:

Let me preface this by saying I agree that people seem to feel like our bodies are public domain for touching/commenting/questioning when we are pregnant. 

However, she might have felt hurt because your comment made it sound like you've been harboring negative sentiment about her for quite some time and she just screwed up again. If other people hear it, I'm sure she was also very embarrassed. Maybe a quiet sidebar would have prevented the tears. Especially if she's never been pregnant or is the type that loved the attention - she most likely has no idea that she was the straw that broke the camel's back.  

 

Thanks ladies. Just to answer this, no one else heard ger comment or mine so no worries there. And she is in her 50s and has a kid. I should have also mentioned that with both this and my previous pregnancy she actually told me she felt bad for me that I was having a girl bc DH and I like sports. Does that mean I don't know how to be a girl? She absolutely just doesn't know what today and doesn't know how to say nothing. That said, I have still felt bad since I said it and will apologize today...and blame the hormones! 

StrawberryAlarmClock

masonmom12:

StrawberryAlarmClock:

Let me preface this by saying I agree that people seem to feel like our bodies are public domain for touching/commenting/questioning when we are pregnant. 

However, she might have felt hurt because your comment made it sound like you've been harboring negative sentiment about her for quite some time and she just screwed up again. If other people hear it, I'm sure she was also very embarrassed. Maybe a quiet sidebar would have prevented the tears. Especially if she's never been pregnant or is the type that loved the attention - she most likely has no idea that she was the straw that broke the camel's back.  

 

Thanks ladies. Just to answer this, no one else heard ger comment or mine so no worries there. And she is in her 50s and has a kid. I should have also mentioned that with both this and my previous pregnancy she actually told me she felt bad for me that I was having a girl bc DH and I like sports. Does that mean I don't know how to be a girl? She absolutely just doesn't know what today and doesn't know how to say nothing. That said, I have still felt bad since I said it and will apologize today...and blame the hormones! 

Ah. Gotcha.

There's always a back story that we don't have time to post (and no one would want to read anyway). In that case, yes. It sounds like she needed a quick mini-lesson in social skills.  That is very good of you to apologize. Good Karma