Finding out the sex?

mandyjane333

Hey ladies.  This is my first pregnancy and I'm just curious if anyone else is wanting to find out the gender or if they would prefer to have it a surprise?

gapgirl972001

this will be my 3rd surprise and I wouldn't have it any other way

 

AutumnLeaves2

My husband and I found out the gender because we wanted to be able to buy gender-specific clothes, paint for the nursery, call the baby "she" or "he", etc. While I imagine keeping the surprise until the very end is no doubt amazing, we just don't have the patience to wait that long! We're incredibly happy that we found out and can now call her by her name

dreambig527

We are waiting for the "surprise".   We plan on having more kids, so we'd be keeping everything gender neutral either way.  This makes it fun for us, trying to guess if it's a boy or girl, talking about what the baby would be like either way...etc.  For us, we just want a healthy baby, so gender really doesn't matter.

 I also look at knowing ahead of time like opening a Christmas present early. You want to know so badly that you peak but then once you know, you can't take it back.  So Christmas morning is suddenly not quite as exciting, even when you love your presents just as much!  Know what I mean?

pumpkinwife07

We're team green and I LOVE it! We were the first time to and it was the best surprise EVER.

jrgoogrl

Lgamache90:

My husband and I found out the gender because we wanted to be able to buy gender-specific clothes, paint for the nursery, call the baby "she" or "he", etc. While I imagine keeping the surprise until the very end is no doubt amazing, we just don't have the patience to wait that long! We're incredibly happy that we found out and can now call her by her name

This is how DH and I thought about it! 

mswood1977

My a/s is today and hopefully we will find out the sex of our baby.  We both want to know, so hopefully baby behaves and lets us see if they are a boy or a girl.

lauren1204

I absolutely had to know. To me, there are enough other surprises that come with pregnancy. We wanted to pick a name and not have to buy gender neutral. It really is a personal choice. If I were going to have a second child I might go team green, because I understand the excitement there. But it just wasn't for me this time. 

Halle76

gapgirl972001:

this will be my 3rd surprise and I wouldn't have it any other way

 

Me too! 

APendola

We found out the gender.  I actually want to keep the nursery and clothes relatively gender neutral as this is our first and I want to reuse the stuff.  It could be a boy next time.

I think we wanted to know because:

a) we don't have the patience to wait

b) I hated refering to the baby as "it".  Finding out the gender makes the baby seem more real.

c) It will help us with picking the name.

d) Personally, I guess I don't see the benefit of waiting it's something they can tell you earlier, but that's just me ... I guess some people like the suprise.

CeeCee23

This has been tough for us.  I have always said I wanted to know and the hubs does not.  Since I'm almost 1/2 way thru with the pregnancy and haven't known I figured I could get thru the second 1/2 without knowing too.  Altho it's secretly killing me.  I wanted to find out by having a gender reveal photographed.  But also the thought of the doctor telling us in the delivery room "it's a ____!" has become appealing to me.  So to answer your question - I nave no idea if we intend to find out or not 

julisat

We just found out yesterday.  I really wanted to be team green, but DH wanted to find out and said it was very important to him.  I gave in because there are few things that he will have that much of an opinion on!  I am sooooo glad we found out.  It is finally real for DH and he is so excited now.  He was happy before, but not like he is now.  I think I have been able to relate to the baby this whole time cause I'm growing it, but this is the first time that he has been able to actually relate to the baby.

lewispm

My husband and I chose to find out the sex of our baby at 19 weeks and 5 days. We had the ultrasound tech tell us to look away when she checked the genitals. She printed a picture with "I'm a ______!" written on it and put it in a sealed envelope and we opened it that night with friends and family. It was a HUGE surprise and an awesome experience. I admire those that have the patience to wait until delivery to find out the sex, but I don't think that waiting makes it any more of a surprise.

Since finding out the sex, I have been able to plan a gender-specific nursery, which is nice, and I have been able to buy some fun outfits as well. The biggest plus, IMO, about finding out the sex before delivery is the bond it helped me form with my baby. It's not like not finding out would preven that bond, but for me personally, finding out I was carrying a little boy in there helped me to picture my baby and what he will look like and dream of my future son. It really just helped me get to know him a little bit before birth and made the entire pregnancy more real for my husband and I.

I am not promoting finding out the sex in any shape, way, or form as I know all couples are different and this is a very personal choice. I think waiting until the delivery would be trememdously exciting and the anticipation would be great! However, I don't think it's really that much more of a surprise. Especially since your mind will be on other things that day: Labor, the health of the baby once its born, your own health...etc. It was fun that we got to take an entire day to focus simply on the excietment of finding out the sex of our unborn child.

I'm pretty sure that no matter what you choose to do, you won't regret it and it will be an amazing adventure either way! Good luck!

Molissa10

I can't wait to blow the surprise next week!  I can't wait to find out!  I want to buy gender specific clothes and such, plus DH and I need time to come up with a name.  I can't wait to talk to my baby with an actual name...next Tuesday can't come soon enough!

bunintheoven0912

We are waiting.  It's funny, I don't really think about the sex of the baby that much... we just have girl and boy names picked out and that's that.  I do like surprises and I imagine myself asking my husband... "Who is it?" when the baby's born (Girl Name X or Boy Name X?).  The room we are using as our nursery is already yellow so that's all set there.  Plus I do want to reuse clothes for our second, and REALLY don't want a bunch of pink stuff or blue stuff.

That's interesting though what others have said about knowing the sex helping with the bond between baby and husband.  I didn't really think of it from that angle.  Something to think about!