Totally over-sensitive about Dr's comments...

NJbaby2012

...I gained 5 pounds instead of 4 from my 16 week appt to my 20 week appt...he gave me a hard time and told me to make sure I 'study' for the sugar test when it comes up, that I gained 1 pound too many. WTF is that about? I was so upset I actually requested another appt for today. A different dr told me I'm right on point (it's funny, I actually lost a pound but that's not the point lol - I ate lunch right before I went to the first appoint grr).

I had to get that off of my chest! lol Does your dr say stupid things?

RachelD158

Wow!  I haven't experienced anything like that from a Dr. yet, but that was really insensitive!  It doesn't seem to me like 1 pound is a big deal but if he was so concerned about you he could have been a little nicer about it! 

xokell2

You scheduled a second appointment for the same day? 

Tash13

Your body can fluctuate up to 2 pounds in either direction on any given day.  I wouldn't worry to much about 1 pound.  And i don't think you were being too sensitive.  I switched doctors with my first pregnancy because she made me cry twice about weight gain (for the record, i gained a healthy amount) and with her rude bedside manner.

Alex369

Of course, I have military doctors, so don't always get to get the best of them. I've had one appointment so far, seeing as they called told me the wrong time for my second appointment, and as such showed up, no appointment and it was to late to get a sooner one. (That there was stupid, because of the staff) 

My doctor, the only time i've seen here, checked my down stairs area, because as I guessed I had a yeast infection, just wanted some medicine. She sees that its red and irritated. I told her that me and my husband had sex a few hours ago and I had gotten dry, which caused it, but that was all. In front of my husband she says, "well, that looks like it could become a blister, its not one but it could be, I'm testing for herpes." Excuse me!!! Married, definitely not possible, luckily me and my husband trust each other. So she chose not to listen to me, did the most painful pap I've ever had and continued to do it, even though I begged her to stop, (husband furious) and when she got the results back they were negative. She put me through all that pain for nothing. It was obviously just irritation and she decided to be a dumbass and not listen. I can understand being careful, but admitting it doesn't look like herpies, in the same sentence you say you think it is, is retarded. Next appointment is tomorrow, and you can bet its a different doctor.

ShanaRoxy

yeah making a huge deal for one stinkin' pound is overreacting in my opinion. I would say  that if you are on track with your overall weight gain, making abig deal over one pound is uncalled for.

poison489

My doctor did the same thing with me.  I gained 6 pounds in the first trimester.  When I saw him last we talked about it and how I had gained 50 pounds with my DS.   He told me that is not acceptable, and I am guaranteeing myself problems with L&D if I do it again.  This after he told me about how great my numbers were for all of my blood tests, not anemic, and how great my blood pressure was.  Even with the 50 I gained with DS I maintained low BP and had no complications.  I also lost the majority of weight within 2 weeks of his birth and all of it within 2 months.  DS weighed a healthy 8 pounds 14 ounces and was 22 inches long. 

Saying all of that, I think your body gains as much weight as it needs in order to care for your baby.  So long as you are making healthy decisions, don't worry about it.

Chellezy

i was miffed by my doctor too. Im 26 weeks and Ive gained 14 pounds. I dont see whats unreasonable about this, Im recommended to gain about 25 pound by the end.
I think every doctor will be concerned about a pregnant ladys weight gain at some point in the pregnancy, too much, too little, too fast, too slow. Give us a break!

mtpgroove

my dr. started as a obgyn in 1967!!!!!!!!!!! that gives u an idea of how old he is! he didnt even do a 20 week ultrasound! hes a dumb ass but i figure he has delivered 1,000s of babys so must know! but i feel like hes always rushing me and blowing my worrys off! they all suck to an extent i think.

Daje12112

At this point I've seen a few of the doctors at my OB practice and one of them has the worst bedside manner ever.  I had written down a list of things to ask the doctor about at our next appointment, and he basically brushed my list off and told me that they are all common pregnancy things and just to deal with them.  I was so ticked!  They may be common to you buddy but they are not to me, have a little compassion.  Thankfully the rest of the doctors at the practice are great and take their time to answer all my questions.  GL!

ateal2490

hibiscus29:

Woah!  That is ridiculous.  So far, my doctor seems really normal and doesn't stress me out about anything.  She is very laid back.

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chizekgeena

Alex369:

Of course, I have military doctors, so don't always get to get the best of them. I've had one appointment so far, seeing as they called told me the wrong time for my second appointment, and as such showed up, no appointment and it was to late to get a sooner one. (That there was stupid, because of the staff) 

My doctor, the only time i've seen here, checked my down stairs area, because as I guessed I had a yeast infection, just wanted some medicine. She sees that its red and irritated. I told her that me and my husband had sex a few hours ago and I had gotten dry, which caused it, but that was all. In front of my husband she says, "well, that looks like it could become a blister, its not one but it could be, I'm testing for herpes." Excuse me!!! Married, definitely not possible, luckily me and my husband trust each other. So she chose not to listen to me, did the most painful pap I've ever had and continued to do it, even though I begged her to stop, (husband furious) and when she got the results back they were negative. She put me through all that pain for nothing. It was obviously just irritation and she decided to be a dumbass and not listen. I can understand being careful, but admitting it doesn't look like herpies, in the same sentence you say you think it is, is retarded. Next appointment is tomorrow, and you can bet its a different doctor.

 

This is exactly why DH and I chose to put me on Tricare Standard so that I can choose my own OB. 

FamilyIsLove

Are you kidding?  This has to be a joke or maybe your Dr. was joking?? ...otherwise your Dr. is a total ASS!!!  I would get a new Dr.

xokell2

Your doctor isnt your best friend, theyre not required to say all the right things and tell you what you want to hear. Taking care of you and baby should be their first priority, not tip toeing around your sensitivities or weight issues. I can't believe you would waste another doctors appointment over that.

Yes, your overreacting, and yes my doctor does say stupid things he isn't perfect but hey he takes great care of me and my baby and thats all that matters to me.  

JFluvsJD80

My doctor never said a word to me about my weight (except at my first visit when I asked about a healthy amount to gain and she recommended 20 lbs) until my last visit at 23 weeks. I had gained 6 lbs in a month. She wasn't condescending at all, but simply mentioned my weight gain and told me I'd gained 11 and would ideally like to see my gain another 11. I think that was her nice way of saying "watch your weight gain". I know it's easy to get sensitive (especially over one freakin' pound), but it is there job to keep up with this stuff.

So, if I gain another 14-15 as opposed to 11, what will she do? Yell at me? Refuse to deliver my baby? For the most part, this is routine doctor stuff. Just take care of yourself and don't let it hurt you this much You're doing great. 

JFluvsJD80

There=their....head isn't screwed on straight today lol

scdancer

Everyone's weight flucuates everyday (whether pregnant or not) due to water weight, where you are in your cycle, and if you took a poop lol  So esp. for pregnant women 1 pound isn't much b/c it can change the next day or a few hours later.  That dr. wasn't being very nice and obviously doesn't know weight flucuates.  If you were more then 3 pounds or so over then I would understand but 1 pound is nothing.

mhubbar5

wow, I can't believe that. Between 16-20 weeks with my son I gained 14lbs. ( I gained 35 my whole pregnancy) and I was expecting a lecture from my OB and he didn't say anything to me about it. It seems a little silly to lecture someone over 1lb. Seriously?? How did he know you didn't just have a really big lunch?