Just to let you know

MommaMel94

I had put up a post entitled 'is what this poster said rude.. or am i just sensative?'

I've since deleted it. I was wanting to appologize for any drama it had created. I had only intended for a few short to medium sized answers but the thread exploded.

For most of your comments thankyou.. I generally took everyones comments into account. So thankyou.

But to the girl who was attacked by so many bumpies Im sorry. The way they treated you was unfair. I see where many mothers come from, but Im choosing not to have those sort of horrible comments on a post of mine.

So now the thread is gone. Once again thankyou to those who had a decent input, and sorry to any of those that it offended.

morethancottoncandy

Great.  Now I know to avoid your posts like the plague and not respond, since apparently you delete all the ones that aren't puppies and rainbows. 

 

gisa886

And the purpose of this thread is.......? I think someone has a touch of the troll crazies. 

babyruth88

I hope you and your baby come out ok. take it easy

Aleja0918

Deleting posts is rude. If you didn't like the answers you received then you shouldn't have asked for advice on a public forum. It's really that simple.

MommaMel94

Aleja0918:

Deleting posts is rude. If you didn't like the answers you received then you shouldn't have asked for advice on a public forum. It's really that simple.

I deleted it mainly because of that back and forth fight between two people. I fully expected comments. I receive negative ones all the time. And while what a lot of women said offended me to a degree I still took what they said into account. Afteral I am young, as to where many of the Bumpies on here are older. Therefore wiser, so Im pretty sure they know better than I.

With that being said I felt bad because of how one girl was treated. She was a very young mom(just as I am) but a few of the moms had horrible things to say to her. She kept trying to defend herself, but it was to the point where no matter what she said another person had to keep putting her down. I partically felt as though that was my fault due to the post, so I deleted it.

Also if I had chosen to delete a thread simply due to comments I didnt like this one would be deleted too. Im not that sensative, I just didnt like watching a 15 year old be bullied. Being a teen mom, we have enough to deal with, yet alone being mocked.

gisa886

MommaMel94:

Aleja0918:

Deleting posts is rude. If you didn't like the answers you received then you shouldn't have asked for advice on a public forum. It's really that simple.

I deleted it mainly because of that back and forth fight between two people. I fully expected comments. I receive negative ones all the time. And while what a lot of women said offended me to a degree I still took what they said into account. Afteral I am young, as to where many of the Bumpies on here are older. Therefore wiser, so Im pretty sure they know better than I.

With that being said I felt bad because of how one girl was treated. She was a very young mom(just as I am) but a few of the moms had horrible things to say to her. She kept trying to defend herself, but it was to the point where no matter what she said another person had to keep putting her down. I partically felt as though that was my fault due to the post, so I deleted it.

Also if I had chosen to delete a thread simply due to comments I didnt like this one would be deleted too. Im not that sensative, I just didnt like watching a 15 year old be bullied. Being a teen mom, we have enough to deal with, yet alone being mocked.

Where do you get the idea that we are so much older? I am 25  

MommaMel94

gisa886:

MommaMel94:

Aleja0918:

Deleting posts is rude. If you didn't like the answers you received then you shouldn't have asked for advice on a public forum. It's really that simple.

I deleted it mainly because of that back and forth fight between two people. I fully expected comments. I receive negative ones all the time. And while what a lot of women said offended me to a degree I still took what they said into account. Afteral I am young, as to where many of the Bumpies on here are older. Therefore wiser, so Im pretty sure they know better than I.

With that being said I felt bad because of how one girl was treated. She was a very young mom(just as I am) but a few of the moms had horrible things to say to her. She kept trying to defend herself, but it was to the point where no matter what she said another person had to keep putting her down. I partically felt as though that was my fault due to the post, so I deleted it.

Also if I had chosen to delete a thread simply due to comments I didnt like this one would be deleted too. Im not that sensative, I just didnt like watching a 15 year old be bullied. Being a teen mom, we have enough to deal with, yet alone being mocked.

Where do you get the idea that we are so much older? I am 25  

I didnt mean that you were 50 or anything like that. Sorry for the confusion. Still, that is a huge difference.

The difference between you and a 35 year old isnt nearly as great as the difference betwen a 17 and 25 year old.

Id like to think that Im all grown up and can handle life just fine. That Im completely matured and dont need to consider any advice. But Im not that foolish. While I may be more mature than 90% of girls MY age, its litterally impossible to be as mature as someone who is 25.  I except the fact that my brain will not be fully developed for another 8 years. Its like saying that a 5 year olds brain can keep up with a 10 year olds brain. While the two may color inside the lines the ten year old has a much better grasp on color. Such as blue and yellow make green. Thats a cheesy example but its true.

So yes, your still young. But your also older than I am, and your brain IS fully developed, which gives you the ability to look at a situation in a much different way than I would. I dont find that insulting, its just how life is.

To me girls my age shouldnt be having children. Sure we can learn how to care for them and have a decent support system. But the difference between a 17 and a 27 year old having a child is HUGE. So while I know I wont be able to be as good of a mother as someone a bit older, I know that I will still be a good mother. (Im not saying an older mom is perfect- they just tend to have a better grasp on life than a hormone enraged teenager)

So when I ask for opinions, I expect both kinds. Negative, and positive. From all ages. Because thats how you learn and grow. I could pick up a thousand parenting books and still never learn as much as I can from the women of this board.

Therefore Im thankful for their inputs. Wether or not Ive gotton offended at times. I look at it as a learning experiance. Sort of how back in school I worked hours and hours on a peice by Tchaikovsky, yet when I went to play it for competition I was only given a 2. They had good things to say- but they also had a lot of critiques. I didnt walk away bummed out or upset. I took what they said seriously and worked on what they mentioned. When I went to state that spring I got a higher score. While thats a very juvenile example, my point was I dont get butthurt over responses. I learn from them. Or at least I try to.

gisa886

I am going to make one request that just might make people take you seriously: please work on your spelling. I am an English major and I cringe reading all the misspellings in your post. Not trying to be mean, but no one will take you seriously without proper punctuation and spelling.  

BabyCampbell312

The thing that really bugs me about this is that YOU could have just deleted your post and left it all alone. Instead, you just HAD to start another thread. Seems we are seeking some attention here.

lindseyfabulous

"The thing that really bugs me about this is that YOU could have just deleted your post and left it all alone. Instead, you just HAD to start another thread. Seems we are seeking some attention here."

 

this.

Mommytok&n

Wow some mean mommies to be on this board.....

MommaMel94

BabyCampbell312:

The thing that really bugs me about this is that YOU could have just deleted your post and left it all alone. Instead, you just HAD to start another thread. Seems we are seeking some attention here.

 

Oh my goodness! That was not my intent! I was just simply trying to tell people sorry for offending them. If I wanted attention I'd post something stupid about how I got food poisoning today or that my contractions are getting worse and I have another 3 days before my appointment. Im not an attention seeker. I was just wanting to apologize to any of those that I had offended but clearly no one can take a step back and realize that sometimes people truly do have good intentions. That not everyone, and certainly not every teenager, is merely out for 'attention'.  I see posts all the time of mothers venting about their partners or in-laws. But when I did(which I assumed to be alright, since many others also vent) people took everything out of context and just destroyed the post. So I deleted it for two reasons. 1- The negativity it created, and 2- I was pretty much embarrassed by how out o control it got.

So therefore this post was to appologize to the other Bumpies. Have I made that point clear enough? Or shall I say it again? Sorry to sound so snotty but Im sick of people being so damn negative.

Life is amazing, and people need to step back and see that. Sure alot of things in life will piss us off(such as my other post) but that doesnt mean it was intended to. People make honest mistakes. Its part of being human, nobody is perfect. I made a mistake, but thats how you learn. Its how you grow. So beleive me when I say that there were no alterior motives to my posting. I simply wanted opinions in the first one, and in this one I was appologizing to anyone I offended. Plain and simple. If you cant see that, well I'm sorry. But its simply, the truth.

MommaMel94

gisa886:

I am going to make one request that just might make people take you seriously: please work on your spelling. I am an English major and I cringe reading all the misspellings in your post. Not trying to be mean, but no one will take you seriously without proper punctuation and spelling.  

I didnt find that mean. I have always struggled with spelling, which is sad, considering how well I do with reading. I have since realized that your right, people wont take me seriously. Therefore I'm now keeping a google page open, to type words I'm not sure of spelling, into. I think part of the problem is that now-a-days we have spellcheck on the computers. At least I've never written anything besides facebook, and board postings without it. So trust me I know how horrible my spelling is, and its embarrassing. Its something Im currently working on. Sadly no one can see that a lack of ability in spelling doesnt mean a lack of intelligence.

kanatine

I'm glad you deleted the post. Getting attacked wasn't very fun and I don't think I'll ever mention my age again... 

BabyCampbell312

MommaMel94:

BabyCampbell312:

The thing that really bugs me about this is that YOU could have just deleted your post and left it all alone. Instead, you just HAD to start another thread. Seems we are seeking some attention here.

 

Oh my goodness! That was not my intent! I was just simply trying to tell people sorry for offending them. If I wanted attention I'd post something stupid about how I got food poisoning today or that my contractions are getting worse and I have another 3 days before my appointment. Im not an attention seeker. I was just wanting to apologize to any of those that I had offended but clearly no one can take a step back and realize that sometimes people truly do have good intentions. That not everyone, and certainly not every teenager, is merely out for 'attention'.  I see posts all the time of mothers venting about their partners or in-laws. But when I did(which I assumed to be alright, since many others also vent) people took everything out of context and just destroyed the post. So I deleted it for two reasons. 1- The negativity it created, and 2- I was pretty much embarrassed by how out o control it got.

So therefore this post was to appologize to the other Bumpies. Have I made that point clear enough? Or shall I say it again? Sorry to sound so snotty but Im sick of people being so damn negative.

Life is amazing, and people need to step back and see that. Sure alot of things in life will piss us off(such as my other post) but that doesnt mean it was intended to. People make honest mistakes. Its part of being human, nobody is perfect. I made a mistake, but thats how you learn. Its how you grow. So beleive me when I say that there were no alterior motives to my posting. I simply wanted opinions in the first one, and in this one I was appologizing to anyone I offended. Plain and simple. If you cant see that, well I'm sorry. But its simply, the truth.

*rolls eyes* MY point was not that your issues with family or bf were related to you seekig attention. You removing a post and making a big deal about it all over again in a new post, however, is. You "vented" about your problems, you got advice, responses, negativity....you obviously didn't like something that was said, so you deleted it. Maybe you need to think before you post. Think about the outcome you want first. I don't post half of the junk that I want to post cause I have a filter. Just to be very clear with you.... My problem is not that you are about to be a teen mom. It's that you can't just let sleeping dogs lie. (i am typing this on my phone w/ pregnancy carpal tunnel, and I'm pretty proud of my lack of errors.)

gisa886

This AW MUD is just getting silly. There is way too much emphasis put on the fact that you are a teenager and it seems like you are trying too hard to convince us that you are one. 

morethancottoncandy

gisa886:

This AW MUD is just getting silly. There is way too much emphasis put on the fact that you are a teenager and it seems like you are trying too hard to convince us that you are one. 

This.  Honestly, the AWing and PWing is getting tiresome.

BabyCampbell312

gisa886:

This AW MUD is just getting silly. There is way too much emphasis put on the fact that you are a teenager and it seems like you are trying too hard to convince us that you are one. 

This.

MommaMel94

Loolaide:

I read your two posts on blended families and here and didn't respond, mainly because I would have gone on a rant about how misogynistic your family life is and how it's ridiculous that people (you, your family, your BF's family, even the posters on this board) just accept the fact that your BF can treat you so horribly just because of his culture.  

I don't respect anyone who can live in a situation like that.

However, posting these additional "FYI" threads is crap.  Stop being an AW and posting again to remind people about it.  

It doesn't make people think it's ok that you deleted your original post.  If you aren't completely comfortable with whatever replies you get to your post, or to anyone else who happens to post in that thread, don't post it in the first place.  The same goes for anyone who posts in your thread.  If you're not completely comfortable with whatever you say getting picked apart, don't post.

Also, you don't need to open a Google document.  These windows show you when you misspell a word (they underline misspelled words in red).  You could, however, also stand to learn how to use punctuation (especially apostrophes) and general grammar.  And, yes, in the real world, you are judged on how you present yourself in writing.  Lack of skill does make you less knowledgeable, which is a stand-in for intelligence when you're being quickly judged for a job, etc. 

Oh, and although I'm freaking ancient compared to you, apparently, my computer has had spell check since junior high school.  It probably would have before that, had my family bothered to buy one.  Don't you read books?  Didn't you learn spelling in elementary school?  Didn't you have to learn vocabulary in English class?  That is how everyone picks up spelling, passively.  People aren't generally grilled on it nowadays, nor does anyone look up everything they write in a dictionary.  

Im not sure if your computer has a different set up or what, but mine doesnt do that. I'm not sure why, it just doesnt.

Alright, alright... I did some searching and found a spell check button. So it doesnt automatically highlight errors. And for you to know it does shows that Im not the only one to misspell a word. I just happened to overlook the 'cheater' button... It also told me iespell not detected and to go to a download page.

 As I've said countless times, I just wanted to apologize but no one can see that. I've also said before that people make mistakes, thats how they learn. Well guess what? I made a mistake, and was simply trying to make up for it. Nobody just jumps into a situation completely prepared, so give me a break will ya? Yes I made people angry. Am I sorry? Yes. But at least I tried to make it right.

MommaMel94

morethancottoncandy:

gisa886:

This AW MUD is just getting silly. There is way too much emphasis put on the fact that you are a teenager and it seems like you are trying too hard to convince us that you are one. 

This.  Honestly, the AWing and PWing is getting tiresome.

I have a great idea. Its called not clicking on this thread if it makes you unhappy. Instead, why dont you try clicking on one of my fun ones. Such as 'What are you looking foreward to the most'? Or even 'How are you enjoying this weather? '?

Im just wondering. Afteral you hate this thread so much, yet choose not to click on one thats very positive and has some great answers.