My DS is 8 ( will be 9 next month) for the most part he is a really good kid. Sweet, compassionate, very caring and as intelligent as they come. He gets Straight A's in school and has never had any behavior problems NEVER.
Until now that is... Lately I have been trying to get him to be more responsible. Requiring him to pick out his own clothes for school, dress himself, take care of his personal needs with out me standing in the bathroom making sure he's brushed his teeth, washed his face applied lotion etc each morning. Also having him take the trash out when "He" sees that it is full with out being asked. Anyhow he is driving me nuts as he is not doing any of this. I still have to stand over him in the morning to make sure he is doing what he needs to do, I have to stand over him as he gets dressed to make sure he put everything on and not forget socks or a t-shirt( mind you I lay everything out together). I still have to remind him to take out the trash and now on 2 occasions he's lied to my face about having done something I've asked of him. The lying breaks my heart. I have made daily routine charts for him to follow...THEY ARE POINTLESS. I need him to get it together before the baby comes as he is too old for me to continue to do EVERYTHING FOR.
Also he is so absent minded he flooded the kitchen on Tuesday afternooon. He turned the sink on and went into the other room to watch tv. A month ago he started a fire in the microwave, he put something in there and left to watch TV so who knows how long he had it going( He isnt even suppposed to touch the microwave). Last week he called me at work ( I work an hour and a half away from home) to ask me to bring him a change of shoes because he stepped in dog poop on his way to the bus stop...mind you I was still at home when this happened, why did he not walk back home to change his shoes vs going on to school with the mess on his shoes. I had to leave wrk for the day to take him shoes. (He is ABSENT MINDED. He always claims he did see something or that he forgot, or that he didnt know.)
This morning I was late to work because I deal with him for lying to me. My DH says, "Oh he just being a boy." I feel like I am loosing my mind some days I dont even want to go home.
I am going to make an appt for him to see a counselor to try and sort whatever is going on with him.
Any thoughts... am I expecting too much or should I continue to do everything for him and save myself the headache of expecting him to do it himself.