When I came out to my boss about our issues he mentioned another coworker of mine (male) who has twins as a result of fertility treatments. I have never spoken to this coworker about our issues due to the fact of he hasn?t mentioned it to me. The reason I am asking if and how I should talk to him is because he would have used the same RE that I am using. I am from a small town and my RE is the only one within 100 miles so everyone within an hour to two go to my RE. I would like to get his opinion and experience. It isn?t necessary that I do this, and I do not want to come off as nosy so I have really been hesitant to bring it up.
This morning I was sitting in my cube and I overheard a conversation he was having with a fellow male coworker (There are only 2 females on my floor of 30 men). The other coworker was complaining about how he felt sick when he found out his wife was pregnant and how it?s been nothing but a money sucker since she was born. I believe the little girl is now 3. He loves her, I can tell he does. I don?t believe he appreciates her though. Coworker who had 3T went off on him. Pretty much told him that he had no idea what he had and he needed to be more appreciative of his gift and thank God for it. I sat in my little cube grinning with satisfaction . This has made me want to reach out to him, but again I don?t want to over steps my boundaries and with it being a male that makes it even more awkward.
If you were me would you ask him about his experience or let it go and just keep trucking along and doing my work? If it makes a difference I would talk with him through IM and not face to face. We use a messenger system to speak with each other. I did ask my work husband and he said that coworker is always open and very easy to talk with.