UO Thursday

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FunNSunAZ:

AuburnGirlSC:

As far as BF and FF go, BM is only superior to formula for your child if you can actually make it and give it to him or her. If you can't, then formula is far better. If I tell some people that I FF, I get judged. What they don't know is that I damn near killed myself trying to BF him. I rented a hospital pump in addition to my own pump, BFed and then pumped, took prescription medication, ate oatmeal until I almost turned into an oat, drank tons of water a day, and on and on and on. For some reason, it just didn't work. I had to choose between not feeding him or feeding him formula. I fed him formula. Anyone who judges me for that is blessed enough to have never been in my situation.

Thank you for sharing this, AG. I had a similar experience with BFing, and despite my strong desire for it to work for us, it didn't. I was depressed about it for a long time. If I had known more about donated milk I may have taken the same route that ohdrama took, but I didn't and so DS is FF. He's completely healthy and happy, and I doubt any of our children will be asked on their college entrance exams if they were BF'd, FF'd, CD'd or wore disposables.

Thanks for this AG.  We are currently supplementing and my supply keeps getting worse.  I am doing all I can, even taking Goat's Rue, which is supposed to be awesome, but I'm worried it's going to end soon.  It really makes me upset to think about; I always assumed I would BF until DS self weaned.  But once again, just thanks, reading this has made me feel a bit better.

mbritto4

randomosity:

Ohhh my UO...I hate cheesecake. To me, it is vile.

 I'll eat it for you.  I have a whole section of my "desserts" binder of printed recipes dedicated to cheesecake.  I'd be 500lbs if I owned my own bakery.

I still hate the giant flower headbands.  Always have.  And those poofs that were so popular in nurseries.

boogerbearoriginal

jesscoletta:

lrachelle80:

jesscoletta:

Another UO is when people have a holier-than-thou attitude because they BF or CD. Good for you I am happy for you that you enjoy BFing or that you CD. However, implying that I am less of a mother or person or a bad person because I don't is condesending and rude. I don't CD because I don't want to, and I don't BF anymore because I hated it. I do what is right for my family and for my baby and I am a fantastic mother I'll have you know.

Speaking for myself only, I don't care what parenting choices others make for their children as long as your child is healthy and happy. 

However, it cuts both ways hardcore. You're saying you feel judged by BFers or CDers because you don't do those things. BFers and CDers get judged by people who don't do them (trust me - I do both and I hear it all. the. time.).  It shouldn't be "I hate when BFers and CDers judge people", it should be "I hate when people judge others who parent differently than them."

Preach sister What I meant was directed to Booger+bear and all the other judgies on here that feel the need to talk down to people who are different. I agree it goes both ways and I dislike anyones condesending remarks on here.

I never said I judge people who FF nor did anyone say anything about your mothering abilities. You are inferring condescension and judgment which is my point. The fact is BM is nutritionally better than formula, there's a reason the formula companies keep adding things to make it more like breastmilk. Regardless of what you feed your kid, it doesn't change that. Furthermore as I mentioned in my post, there are times when formula serves a valuable purpose so the whole "zomg they think i should starve my baby" crap is nonsense. I hate to break it to you, but it was actually not about judging you. 

Any person says BM is proven to be better and suddenly they are being judgmental. Me thinking that's ridiculous is my unpopular opinion.

aesf

Booger+Bear:

Any person says BM is proven to be better and suddenly they are being judgmental. Me thinking that's ridiculous is my unpopular opinion.

My OU is that I think this type of statement is a passive agressive judgement.  Yes its a fact.  But its unnecessary to say.   In fact the only reason I can fathom pointing it out over and over - because it is- is to remind people they made the "wrong choice."

 

signed,

an ebfer 

boogerbearoriginal

aesf:

Booger+Bear:

Any person says BM is proven to be better and suddenly they are being judgmental. Me thinking that's ridiculous is my unpopular opinion.

My OU is that I think this type of statement is a passive agressive judgement.  Yes its a fact.  But its unnecessary to say.   In fact the only reason I can fathom pointing it out over and over - because it is- is to remind people they made the "wrong choice."

 

signed,

an ebfer 

Does the AAP judge FF?

"Breastfeeding and human milk are the normative standards for infant feeding and nutrition. Given the documented short- and long-term medical and neurodevelopmental advantages of breastfeeding, infant nutrition should be considered a public health issue and not only a lifestyle choice."

"Formal staff training should not only focus on updating knowledge and techniques for breastfeeding support but also should acknowledge the need to change attitudes and eradicate unsubstantiated beliefs about the supposed equivalency of breastfeeding and commercial infant formula feeding." 

From their most recent policy statement on BFing: https://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/129/3/e827.full

OR are they simply stating the facts?

boogerbearoriginal

AuburnGirlSC:

 

 I wouldn't assume to speak for aesf, but the AAP isn't posting repeatedly about it on a message board and pointing it out to people that FF. I think that was her point.

I posted once, that I think it should be fine to say things like "breast is best" without a bunch of women getting their panties in a wad over a generic statement.

The second time it was mentioned was in response to people who seemed to think I was saying they were bad mothers for FFing. When I didn't even know they FF. It's not as though I go around bashing FFing moms.

Clearly it's an UO. People feel that everyone should pussyfoot around to ensure that no one's feelers are hurt. Hence the ridiculous amount of qualifying anytime the topic of BF/FF gets brought up. Unless of course it's about stopping BFing at some predetermined age. That's fine to unequivocally be judgmental about.....There's a big ole stink of hypocrisy about the whole thing.